1. The sadness of the original match.
Ever since my husband had other women outside, I've been waiting for him to return to the family. Three years later, my husband was finally willing to go home, and I thought he and the woman had broken off, but I didn't expect the two to still have a relationship.
My husband always said, I'm all back, if you give me some more time, I will definitely have a break with her. If I didn't have feelings for you and this family, I wouldn't choose to come back. I believed my husband's words.
However, what broke me down was that for the next ten years, they kept in touch. I burned my body and my hair turned white, but I still couldn't wait for the two of them to be cut in two. Later, my husband confessed to me that they had a child, and he wanted to raise the child until he was 18 years old, and then they broke up again. And the reason why he will return to me is because raising a child needs to rely on the financial strength of my mother's family, otherwise he can't afford to raise it alone.
Finally, the illegitimate child outside is an adult, but what I am waiting for is my husband's cold attitude, I'm sorry, the person I love is her, let's divorce. After years of entanglement, it turned out that I was the one who was abandoned.
I asked him how he could be so cruelHe didn't speak.
Teacher, can a man really be ruthless to this extent?
2. Case analysis.
In fact, it's really not that men are cruel to women, but that women are too cruel to themselves and can actually lie to themselves for so many years. Women always like to do things that hurt themselves under the guise of men. It's obvious that he gave up his life, but he wants to put all the fault on the man.
You must know that a woman's destiny can be independent and never tied to a man. If you have to put your fate in the hands of a man like garbage, no one can do anything, and you should bear the bitter consequences of this and pay the corresponding price.
Let me tell you, since a man has chosen to return to the family, don't give him any transition. The two still have to meet, and they have to be entangled, so when will it be a head?If you want to break it, give the man ten days and half a month and let him break it. If he can't stop, don't go home. What's the point of going home when people are absent?
There are two reasons why men have been slow to break off with women outside
The first one, once you agree, proves that you have no bottom line and can accept the life of a threesome. Men enjoy this kind of life very much, there are good wives at home, wild flowers outside, who doesn't want to be blessed by all people. He's stalling just to make you accept the reality of the three of you living together. If you don't want to, tell the man that it's okay as soon as he proposes the transition.
Second, he didn't think about being responsible for your life. If you accept his betrayal, you have to accept his even more unprincipled and bottom-line moral corruption. If you don't believe it, even if he went home and apologized to you?Have you ever been interested in you and your children?He came home because you still have value to use, and because he needs you to continue to sacrifice for him.
You choose to compromise because you feel that you can't live without a man, and you don't want your marriage to fall apart like this. Men also grasp this point of you, so they dare to be unscrupulous in front of you, intensify their efforts, torture you in different ways, and hurt you.
Women must remember that the return of a man's body is not the most important thing, but the return of his heart is really home.
3. How to deal with men's half-heartedness?
First, you want a transition period, so how are you going to compensate me?How do you make sure that the two of you go out and break off, instead of continuing the front edge?Do you think I'm a bully, or do you think I'm stupid?
Second, how are you going to break off with her?If she doesn't agree, what are you going to do?What if she just keeps pestering you, do you have any other plans?
Third, can I trust you?You hurt me so much before, you are already a dishonest person with me, how can you guarantee that this time you are sincere return?
In short, every half-hearted man has a way to clean up. If you don't know, you can DM me.