In Dream of Red Mansions, when Shi Xiangyun appeared for the first time, a small incident happened, and it was very interesting to think about it.
Jia Baoyu saw that Sister Yun was coming, so she naturally danced happily, after all, Xiangyun was taken to Jia's mansion by Jia's mother when he was a child, and he got along with Baoyu for a few years, and only sent back to Shi's house when he was older.
When Baoyu saw Xiangyun, he was not only happy, but also had more intuitive performances, such as he washed his face with the washing water used by Xiangyun, and then asked Xiangyun to comb his hair, but he didn't expect Xiangyun to refuse at first.
was still begged by Baoyu's sister Wan, Shi Xiangyun had no choice but to comb Baoyu's hair again.
Many people read this, maybe they don't understand, isn't it just combing their hair?As Baoyu said, Shi Xiangyun often combed his hair before, why didn't she want to comb Baoyu's hair this time?
The original text does not directly state the reason, but from other episodes, we can find the answer.
Just the twentieth time before, Baoyu was idle and had nothing to do, and wanted to give Musk Yue a grate, when Qingwen came in to withdraw money, saw the two of them, and said such a sentence, oh, I haven't eaten the cup yet, and I have poured it down.
Although it is just a joke between the two, it also reveals a message that in the past, men and women combed each other's hair, which was generally only a matter between husband and wife, so the matter of combing hair alluded to the marriage between the two.
Unlike us today, between good friends, combing hair is nothing, but in ancient times, there was a difference between men and women, even between brothers and sisters, when they grew up, they had to observe a word of etiquette.
But Fat Yanzhai also said that Jia Baoyu has three major diseases in his life, one of which is to pay attention to love and not to be courteous. He doesn't care about etiquette or not, he only values feelings.
Baoyu may not have thought that at this time, he and his sister Yun have grown up, not when they were children, and some things can't be done.
When I was a child, both of them were children, so they didn't have to avoid suspicion, and they didn't even need to be separated by beds, they could eat and sleep at one table without paying too much attention to etiquette. But when they get older, for the sake of men's reputation, women's reputation, and the constraints of etiquette, there is a great defense between men and women.
Xiangyun naturally understands these truths, when Baoyu asked to comb his hair, she knew that it was inappropriate, besides, combing his hair is not like using facial toiletry, combing his hair has a deeper meaning, except for Baoyu, it is estimated that everyone else knows.
So in the face of Baoyu's request, she directly said, "This can't be." "The implication is that at this time and that time, we are all older now, you don't care what others say, I care, you don't avoid suspicion, I have to avoid suspicion.
After all, for Xiangyun, her going to Jiafu is equivalent to being a guest and a guest, and Baoyu is the owner of Jiafu, a young lady who comes to sit and comb her cousin's hair, what's going on?What would you say when you were seen by outsiders?Not to mention outsiders, what will Baochai and Daiyu think when they see it?
When I was a child, everyone was ignorant, you help me comb my hair, I will comb your hair, in the eyes of **, it is all a game between children, and even through the following text, we also know that Xiangyun seems to have said some things about marriage with Baoyu when he was a child, but these things happened when he was a child.
People don't take it seriously, and they don't care about what they say and do at that time. There are some things, some words, that happen in childhood, without any problems, and if they happen between unmarried men and women when they grow up, many times they are no longer appropriate.
Although Jia Baoyu doesn't care about this, but the girls can't care less, it is not a trivial matter for such a thing to be known by outsiders and seen by the mother-in-law. In fact, even if it is an attack, seeing Baoyu like this, he can't help but be jealous and angry.
Because, after all, Jia Baoyu is still a young man, and he is not married yet. It's good now, I ran directly to the two girls' house early in the morning, washed my face and combed my hair, like a married man.
Xiangyun was unwilling, but he couldn't resist Baoyu's soft grinding and hard bubbles, after all, the two had a close relationship, and Xiangyun had to comb Baoyu's hair again. From the fact that she found that Baoyu's braided beads were missing one, it can be seen that Xiangyun combed Baoyu's hair a lot when she was a child.
And Xiangyun is a big boy-like free and bold character, presumably when she was a child, even if Baoyu didn't say it, she didn't take the initiative to comb her second brother's hair. It's her style. But when she grew up, Xiangyun also had a girl's heart and knew more etiquette, so she would instinctively refuse inappropriate requests.
It seems to be a trivial matter of combing his hair, but in fact, for Baoyu, it is also a stimulus for his final epiphany, when he was a child, she was with her sisters, and there were not too many constraints, not to mention any etiquette, he thought that he could go on like this, but people will grow up, girls want to marry, boys want to make contributions, even if he Jia Baoyu is unwilling to study, but girls always have to marry, one day they will leave Daguanyuan, no one will always be by his side.
This time, Xiangyun was reluctant to comb Baoyu's hair, which was actually a foreshadowing for Cao Gong, and when Xiangyun entered Jiafu for the second time, she had already made a marriage, and she would soon get married. After that, Baoyu couldn't let her sister Yun comb her hair.
Author: Xi Sishao, this article is an original work of the Red Mansion.