When men's groups at Tangshan barbecue restaurants swept the internet with shocking news of harassment turning into a beating of women, society once again focused on gender tensions. The incident not only sparked unease and anger among the female community, but also sparked widespread speculation about why men were reluctant to open up.
Some people say that the world is **, and men crave women while rejecting women. However, this seemingly torn phenomenon has also found its shadow in women. At the group level, women are often angry at the violence and low-grade behavior of the male group, but when it is the turn of the men who are intimate with them, they seem to have a constant demand for each other, and can even elevate them to the altar.
This world is really amazing.
We are all human beings, regardless of gender. But the difference between this "man" and "man" is sometimes even greater than the difference between a man and an ape. Especially when it comes to spiritual issues such as emotions, feelings, and hearts, the differences between male and female groups sometimes seem insurmountable, like the chasm between apes and humans.
Why is it so hard for men to open up?Perhaps the answer lies in millions of years of evolution and deep accumulation of culture. In this intricate moment, let's try to explore some possible clues.
First, it was mentioned that men's discussions of their inner feelings often make them feel disgusted, even disgusted. In Buddhism, the concept of "karma" is often mentioned, meaning that everything that happens to us is the "karmic effect" that we have accumulated. This feeling of guilt and shame towards women can be a source of men's resistance to talking about their inner feelings and building deep relationships.
In a twin flame relationship, the man is not running away from them, but from the pain of his own heart. This fear of the collective subconscious of men leads to their fear of being "together", believing that having a deep relationship with their partner will cause the negative emotions to re-emerge within.
The most fundamental fear may come from the unconscious fear of death, driving men to crave domination and control. This fear makes them feel unable to protect themselves, and in turn, they are afraid that others will enter their hearts. It is only when men are able to confront this inner fear that they can truly be true to themselves and have inner strength based on love.
Society's definition of "male" is often too old-fashioned, and men feel lonely and trapped under this definition. Redefining the standard of masculinity and going beyond the traditional "masculinity" is a much-needed process. Abandoning the stereotype of male and embracing their inner feelings and vulnerabilities is the only way to build a more egalitarian and harmonious relationship.
In this day and age, everyone should abandon the old definitions, accept each other as they are, and get along with each other in a more understanding and respectful way. Men's hearts may not be completely closed, but they need more delicate understanding and careful care, so that they can feel that there is also a warm harbor in this world.