My husband and I have always been the first to arrive on my in-laws' birthdays in the past, but this year my husband deliberately delayed it until after the meal. At first, I didn't understand it, and it wasn't until I learned the truth that I was grateful to my husband.
My name is Li Wanjun, I am 32 years old, I was born in the countryside, and my parents are simple farmers. I lived a modest life, and after completing my studies as my parents had hoped, I returned to my hometown to work as a teacher at an elementary school. My personality is also more responsible, kind, hardworking, and friendly to people.
I think I have two strengths, the first is that I have a good personality, I can bear hardships and stand hard work, and I am kind to everyone. The second is that I have known how to cook since I was a child, and my cooking skills are good, and if I am not a teacher, maybe I can open a small restaurant. It is because of these two advantages that I met a nice husband.
My husband's name is Ah Feng, his family conditions are good, and he has done a lot of business in the local area. When I first met Ah Feng's parents, I made a good impression on them. The first time I went to Ah Feng's house, I competed to cook, and I also made a few good dishes, which were praised by my family. My mother-in-law even said that it was a blessing to marry me. So, my in-laws liked me, and my parents liked Ah Feng too, and we quickly became a family.
We've been married for 6 years, and we go back to their house every holiday or in-laws' birthday, and we always arrive early. But this year, Ah Feng's behavior puzzled me.
Last week was my father-in-law's 60th birthday, a very important birthday, and my family will come to congratulate him. The day before my birthday, Ah Feng and I discussed when the next day would pass. Ah Feng proposed to change his Xi and pass at half past eleven. At first, I didn't understand it, I thought it was too late, and we used to arrive around 9 o'clock.
However, Ah Feng insisted that I do what he said. The next day, at ten o'clock, we still didn't set off. The little uncle urged us to hurry up, but Ah Feng was unmoved. Eventually, we arrived at my in-laws' house at half past eleven.
After entering the door, I found that the relatives had arrived, and everyone was sitting in the living room drinking tea and eating melon seeds. The in-laws and brother-in-law looked a little anxious. The mother-in-law said, everyone is waiting for dinner, let's go to the kitchen and prepare. The uncle also urged us to stir-fry as soon as possible and strive to get it done within an hour.
At this time, Ah Feng grabbed me and said that he didn't want to cook. He decided to stop being used to everyone and let everyone solve the problem of eating by themselves, go out to eat or order takeout. Ah Feng's decision puzzled everyone, but in the end he went to the restaurant in the town according to his wishes. The cost of the meal was more than 2,000 yuan, which was jointly paid by Ah Feng and his brother-in-law.
Afterwards, I asked Ah Feng why he came so late and was unhappy in front of everyone. He told me that he felt unfair for me. He thinks that in the past six years, I have taken on too much housework at my in-laws' house, especially cooking, which makes him feel dissatisfied. Ah Feng believes that everyone is a family, and I shouldn't be allowed to be a chef and nanny all the time. He feels that on this special birthday, it is a good change to let the family do it themselves.
Although I didn't understand it at first, after listening to Ah Feng's explanation, I felt grateful. It turned out that everything he did was for my good, and he was unwilling to let me be the main person in charge of the housework all the time.
This made me re-examine my role in the family, and also made me understand Ah Feng's good intentions. Maybe I don't always have to take the initiative to take care of my in-laws' affairs, but I can share the responsibility with my family.