Whether life should choose to be honest or sleek and sophisticated is sometimes really thought-provoking.
Hello everyone, I'm Liu Jingjing, 27 years old this year.
Not long ago, I went home to meet my parents with my boyfriend Alin for five years, thinking about the good news of the engagement, but I didn't expect that my grandfather objected to it.
Alin and I met in our junior year of college, and we were both preparing for practical Xi that year when we met by chance at a campus career fair.
Because of the same ambition and preparation for Xi in the same company, we became classmates in the same school and gradually came together.
We met in the last year of college, and in our second year together, my parents offered to let Arin come to the house for a simple meal.
However, Alin was always a little stubborn, thinking that as a Xi, the current economic conditions did not allow him to go out, and he did not even buy a car, and felt embarrassed to go to my house.
Alin thought it would be better to wait until the economy was better before visiting my home.
So, it wasn't until our fifth year together, when Alin's financial situation improved somewhat, that he agreed to come to my house.
In this year's Mid-Autumn Festival, Alin was well prepared, brought rich gifts, and came by car.
In order to welcome Alin, my family made careful preparations, my parents went out shopping early in the morning, prepared good wine, and relatives also went to the appointment.
Among them, the most important is my grandfather.
As the only child in the family, I was my grandfather's heart, so he paid special attention to my object and wanted to come and evaluate this future son-in-law in person.
I understand that this time my boyfriend came to the door, not only to get the parents, but also to get the approval of the grandfather.
Before Alin came to my house, I told him that he had made a lot of preparations, and that my grandfather was in charge.
Grandpa liked to dress a little more formally, so I asked Arin to wear a formal suit and wear a watch. Not only that, but the hairstyle should be neat, but you can't use hair oil because my grandpa didn't like it.
In addition, grandpa likes to smoke, and the brand doesn't have to be good, but it has to be something he likes. Even the tea leaves have to be specially selected to his liking.
In short, more than half of the gifts that Alin brought this time were prepared to please his grandfather.
On the day of Alin's arrival, he was well-dressed and had a sweet mouth, and his relatives were quite satisfied with him.
Even his grandfather, who has always been picky, said that Alin is good, and he is more mature and stable among his peers.
During the meal, I also repeatedly reminded Alin that everything is led by grandpa, and grandpa must give priority to toasting and pouring.
Grandpa has two preferences, one is that he likes to be praised, saying that he has spirit and is very capable.
The other is that he likes to tell his own stories and enjoy being listened to by others.
So, on that day, Alin not only kept pouring wine for his grandfather, but also listened carefully to his grandfather's words almost all the rest of the time, praising his grandfather from time to time.
I was very happy to see my grandfather and Arin chatting happily, my parents agreed, and my grandfather agreed, and I expect to start planning for the wedding at the end of the year.
However, unexpectedly, during a game of chess after dinner, Grandpa changed his mind.
After lunch, Grandpa, Alin, his parents and relatives were drinking tea, and halfway through the drink, Grandpa suddenly asked Alin if he had any hobbies in life.
Alin replied: Fitness, reading, and billiards.
However, these are exactly what Grandpa didn't like. Next, Grandpa asks Alin if he can play chess. Alin said: Yes a little.
This made the grandfather excited, and insisted on playing a game of chess with Arin.
Alin wanted to excuse himself, but his grandfather had already picked up the chessboard and started to lay it out.
We didn't know anything about chess, and Grandpa didn't like to be talked to when he was playing, so we left, leaving Grandpa and Arin to play against each other.
Although the two played for a short time, only playing two sets, it ended early.
After playing chess, it was getting late, and Alin was ready to leave.
I, my parents, and my relatives all sent Alin to the door, and when I said goodbye to him, I clearly felt that I would come back again at the end of the year to discuss marriage.
However, after Arin left, our family sat down and continued the discussion.
Relatives are full of praise for Alin, and his parents also think he is good, but grandpa has been silent.
At this time, my father asked my grandfather, "Dad, what do you think of Alin?"Why don't you speak? ”
Grandpa replied, "I think, I'm not too satisfied with Alin. ”
After hearing this, the mother was puzzled and asked, "What's wrong?"He did something wrong. ”
Grandpa responded: "Don't look at Alin as a whole, but I can feel it when I was playing chess with Alin just now, in fact, Alin is not open-minded and does not do things tactfully." ”
He continued: "I played chess with Alin, and Alin beat me twice in a row. The first one, I deliberately let Alin, Alin didn't feel it, and won directly. In the second hand, I also kept my hand, but later, it was a very critical hand. Alin actually found out, as long as I was given one move, I could continue to play later, and probably I would lose. But Alin didn't, the whole person swayed, wanted to give in but didn't give in, and in the end he didn't give in, and chose to eat my chess, and finally I had no chess to go. There was a win or loss in this game, but I was very unhappy. I was angry, not because I lost two games in a row, but because he, as a young man, played chess with a junior of mine, knowing that I intended to let him, and he was not modest later, and won me directly. This person is not very tactful, he doesn't know how to behave in the world, a tendon, and life may be very difficult with him in the future. So I don't quite agree with Jing Jing being with Arin. ”
These words made our family feel at a loss.
Afterwards, I asked Alin about playing chess to see if he understood his grandfather's intentions.
Alin said that he knew that playing chess should be given to the juniors, but different people have different opinions, Alin's grandfather told him that he should be honest, and sometimes the juniors like real people.
Therefore, in order not to leave the impression of hypocrisy and insincerity on my grandfather, Arin chose not to give in and insisted on winning his grandfather.
However, such a result baffled him.
It's been a month now, and our family is still struggling. We are a traditional family, and my father and aunt and uncle listened to my grandfather. Now that my grandfather didn't nod, my marriage with Alin could only be delayed, and I really didn't know what to do.
Do you have any good suggestions?