In the process of children's growth, there will be problems of children lying, first of all, it is definitely wrong for children to lie, but as parents, we should guide our children in our hearts, let them understand the importance of honesty, give them enough attention and love, the younger the child, the better, let's understand what are the reasons for children to lie today?As parents, how can we guide and improve this behavior?
Why do children lie, and what are the main reasons for lying?
1. Avoid punishment.
It is human instinct to seek advantage and avoid harm, and if a child finds out that he is about to be punished, he will lie to avoid punishment. It is also a self-protection mechanism for children.
2. Attract attention.
In order to attract the attention of their parents, children make themselves occupy an important position in the family through some forms of lying or exaggeration.
3. Imitation behavior.
In the process of socializing or talking, adults often talk nonsense, saying something that can avoid a lot of unnecessary trouble. If children are present, they will do the same.
It is certainly not right for children to lie, lies can easily damage relationships between people, and once the lies are exposed, they will lose the trust of others in themselves;If you tell a lie, people will think that what you are telling is a lie, or they may not know which of your words is true. This is very harmful both in relationships and in professional life, and if you evade responsibility because of lying, because you lie to hide the truth, it can go wrong. You can't indulge because you're young, you have to start from a young age, otherwise it's hard to change when you arrive.
So how should we educate?
1. Establish a relationship of trust.
Parents should create an open, urban family environment where children can trust their parents and parents can trust their children.
2. Lead by example.
Parents should lead by example, and also demand the same from their children, creating an honest and credible living environment for their children.
3. Teach a sense of responsibility.
It is important to teach children about the responsibilities that need to be taken on, and to understand the serious consequences of each action, what the impact will be, etc.
4. Encourage honesty.
Encourage your child to be honest and give positive feedback and rewards. Cultivate correct values in children from an early age.