1. Judging people by their appearance
I take people by words, lose them, judge people by appearance, and lose their sons. (Western Han Dynasty Sima Qian, "Historical Records: Zhongni** Biography").
In the Spring and Autumn Period, the great educator Confucius had many students, one of them was called Ziyu and the other was called Zai Yu, Zi Yu was very ugly, and Zai Yu was very handsome. Confucius had a very different attitude towards them. Because Ziyu was ugly, Confucius had a bad impression of him when he first saw him. Confucius thought to himself: "This person looks like an ugly monster, and he must have no talent." Therefore, his attitude towards Ziyu was very cold, and later Ziyu had to drop out of school and go back to study on his own. And because Zai Yu is dignified and personable, plus he is eloquent and can speak, Confucius likes him very much and thinks that this student will be very promising in the future.
However, things turned out to be unexpected by Confucius. Ziyu was a man who loved learning and independent thinking, and after he left Confucius, he worked harder to study Xi became a very famous scholar, and many young people came to study under him, and his reputation also spread among the princes. On the contrary, Jae Yu is very lazy. Although Confucius taught him very seriously, his academic Xi was extremely poor, and Confucius tried to persuade him again and again, but he did not listen, and sometimes even when it was already dawn, he was still sleeping in bed, so angry that Confucius compared him to useless rotten wood.
Later, Zai Yu relied on his eloquence to be an official in the State of Qi, but not long after, he was executed by the King of Qi because of the rebellion with others. When Confucius heard the news of Zai Yu's death, he said with emotion: "From Ziyu, I know that a person cannot be judged by appearance; And what happened to Jaeyu also taught me that a man cannot be judged by what he says. ”
Danish fairy tale writer Hans Christian Andersen's "The Emperor's New Clothes" also expresses the inherent and common human weakness of the class - the "loss of self-depth" behind "vanity".
The social phenomenon of chasing "white rich and beautiful, rich and handsome" in society is not a model of judging people by appearance (not for these two kinds of people, no one does not want to be "white rich and beautiful, rich and handsome"), we have one of the most important prerequisites for the development of emotional relationships is "equality of personality", in exchange for the current popular Internet language "licking the dog has no future!" ”
Therefore, the way of a gentleman is dark and sunny; The way of a gentleman does not focus on the outside, but on the inside; The way of the villain, the way of the villain, but the day is dead: the way of the villain focuses on the outside;
However, from the perspective of society as a whole, there are personal reasons for the gap between the rich and the poor, but it cannot be completely ruled out that there are policy reasons, so showing off wealth will only enhance the hatred of the rich in the whole society, and this hatred of the rich will accumulate or concentrate on a certain individual, and the extreme behavior in the society will increase, which is in response to the "no way for good and evil, but people call themselves" ("I Ching").
Second, the dark room is not deceitful, and it is worthy of the house leakage.
"Wearing **" is a common means of camouflage for bandits in many police movies, and its purpose is not to disguise and avoid being discovered by the police.
The dark room is not deceived and worthy of the leakage of the house, and people are required to be in the dark room, in a place where no one can see, and do not do unethical and unsightly things. The darkroom is a natural protection for violating others to obtain improper benefits, but if a person develops the luck psychology that the darkroom can be profitable, he will naturally put himself under the dangerous wall.
The luck mentality is to ignore the nature of things themselves, to violate the essential laws of the development of things, to violate the rules formulated in order to maintain the development of things, and to try in vain to achieve success through accidental reasons according to their own needs.
In gambling, "lose more money than you win!" ”
Isn't the folk tale "Children Stealing Needles, Growing Up Stealing Gold" the reason why luck psychology has become a Xi?
It is the gentleman's self-restraint to adhere to the principle of avoiding standing under the dangerous wall and avoiding disasters. Everyone has desires, self-denial and etiquette cannot make people rich, but it will definitely make life less turbulent.
1. How are leaders formed?
Is there a way to do things seriously and respect leaders without applying economic incentives and without using rules and regulations?
Answer: Yes, it is to lead the cultivation of virtue and become a gentleman.
It is the reason why the gentleman does not reward and the people persuade him, and he is not angry and the people are in power; It is the old gentleman who is respectful and the world is peaceful.
1. Strive for the rise of China for life
** Known as "the most perfect man in Chinese history", I believe that he still lives in the hearts of the Chinese, his self-sacrificing spirit in "A Parachute Bag", the practice of the concept of "people first, life first" in "For 61 Class Brothers", everyone who has worked with him is conquered by his personality charm, even his enemy Chiang Kai-shek has always been **Houlu, hoping that he will be used for it. Former U.S. ** Nixon praised him for his "unparalleled character", and former U.S. Secretary of State Henry Kissinger commented that he was the most charismatic person I have met in my 60 years of public office. ”
On January 8, 1976, ***, who was deeply loved by the people, passed away. Ten miles long street to send the prime minister. On this day, the United Nations lowered its flag at half-mast. UN Secretary-General Waldheim said: "China is an ancient civilization, and its gold and silver treasures are innumerable, and the renminbi she uses is too much for us to count." But her prime minister *** didn't have a penny in deposit! China has a population of 1 billion people, a quarter of the world's population, but her prime minister*** does not have a single child. ”
I think *** has achieved the persuasion of the people without rewarding, and the people's authority without anger.
2. What kind of feelings will a leader with gentlemanly virtue give to his subordinates?
Answer: (1) Not judging people by their appearance can recruit talents to the greatest extent.
2) The virtue of not deceiving and not deceiving in the dark room makes the subordinates gain a full sense of security;
3) Qi Zhuang Zhongzheng's virtue makes subordinates believe that they will be rewarded accordingly for their efforts, and will stimulate their subordinates' work initiative to the greatest extent;
4) The virtue of not doing to others what you do not want will make the company system more humane;
5) The virtue of abundance and gentleness will make employees more trial-and-error spirit, increase employees' self-responsibility and stimulate their creativity to a greater extent.
6) The virtue of treating oneself with sincerity, treating others with sincerity and treating things with sincerity will make the whole company more resilient.
7) Smart and wise, strong and resolute, the secret inspection of arts and sciences will make employees more courageous to practice, know how to choose, know how to persevere.
Isn't work initiative, creativity, commitment and humanized management exactly what modern enterprises are pursuing? Isn't the "self-managed" flexible work model of Google's employees, which is popular all over the world, to allow employees to work in a fun enough environment, to stimulate their creativity?
Therefore, the best modern enterprise management model is to lead the cultivation of morality.
33 chapters original.
The poem says: "衣 (yì) 锦尚綗 (jiǒng)." "Evil (wù) is also the work of its text. Therefore, the way of a gentleman is dark and sunny; The way of the villain, the (dì) of the day, but the day is dead. The way of a gentleman, light but not tired, simple and literate, gentle and reasonable, know the distance and near, know the wind from the self, know the subtlety, can be with the virtue.
Poem "Cloud": "Although it is lurking, it is also clear!" "Therefore, a gentleman is introspective and not guilty, and there is no evil (wù) in the will. What a gentleman can't reach, only people can't see.
Poem "Yun": "In the room, it is worthy of the house leak." Therefore, the gentleman does not move and respect, and does not believe what he says.
The poem says: "The false (gé) is speechless, and the times are contentious." "Therefore, the gentleman does not reward and the people persuade him, and he is not angry and the people are powerful in 鈇 (fū) 钺 (yuè).
The poem says: "If you don't show virtue, you will be punished!" It is the old gentleman who is respectful and the world is peaceful.
Poetry" cloud: "To Huai Mingde, not loud." Zi said: "The voice and color are to turn the people into people, and the end is also." "Poem" says: "Dehui (yóu) is like hair." "Mao is still good. "The load of heaven is silent and odorless (xiù). Essentially.
Translation of 33 chapters.
The Book of Songs says: "Dressed in splendid clothes, covered with a pullover." "This is to avoid the brocade pattern being too bright. Therefore, the truth of a gentleman is that his appearance is dull and his inner virtue is becoming more and more apparent; The villain's way of life is that his appearance is brightly colored, but it will fade over time. The principle of a gentleman is that he is simple on the outside but not disgusting, simple on the outside but literary on the inside, gentle on the outside and organized on the inside, knows that the distance is from the near beginning, knows that the influence of others starts from himself, and knows that the small hidden places will affect the obvious places, and those who can master the above principles can enter the noble virtues of the saints.
The Book of Songs says, "Even if the fish is deep in hiding, it will still be visible." Therefore, if a gentleman always examines himself in his heart, he will not have faults and guilt, and he will not have guilt. From this, it can be seen that the reason why people cannot surpass the gentleman is probably because the gentleman is strict with himself in these places where no one is seen.
The Book of Songs says, "When you are alone indoors, you should be worthy of the gods." Therefore, a gentleman is also in awe and prudence when he is not doing anything, and he is already honest and single-minded when he has no words.
The Book of Songs says: "Pray silently and silently, and there will be no more fighting now." Therefore, the gentleman does not need to be rewarded, and the common people are encouraged; There is no need to be angry, and the people fear him, and he will prevail over the majesty of the torture.
The Book of Songs says: "Promote good virtues, and the princes will follow them." Therefore, if a gentleman is honest and respectful, he can make the world peaceful.
The Book of Songs says: "Remembering the bright virtues of King Wen, you never need to be violent." Confucius said: "To influence the common people with a strong voice and color is to fail to grasp the fundamentals." ”
The Book of Songs says, "Virtue is as light as a feather." "The feathers are tiny, but there's something to compare them to. In the "Book of Songs", it is said that "the way of heaven to cultivate all things, silent and breathless, is really subtle", this is the highest level!