The "new type of unfilial piety" spreads to the bottom, parents can't hide their disappointment, and their children are under realistic pressure!
A new type of paternity"It is spreading, and when children are struggling at the bottom, parents can't hide their disappointment.
There are many ancient sayings in China, such as:"Raising children to prevent old age"、"I hope that my son will become a dragon, and I hope that my daughter will become a phoenix"and so on, all of which praise the selfless dedication of parents to their children. This kind of unrequited love means that parents only want their children to live well, but this"Okay", it's really not that you don't ask for anything in return!
In this age of social erosion, everyone seems to be living under tremendous stress, which comes from all aspects, including competition at work, living expenses, and mental fatigue, which can leave us breathless.
For students, the biggest pressure comes from Xi. In order to excel in the college entrance examination and not be eliminated, they must study Xi against time in the hope of getting into a university that satisfies them and their parents in the future.
Especially when it comes to children's commitment to their parents, they may think that getting into a good college is a reward for their parents. They don't realize that their parents' expectations are much more than that, that going to college is just the beginning, that in the future they may face more demands in terms of employment and who to marry, and that if something doesn't go their way, they may be seen by their parents or others"Unfilial piety"。
A new type of family affection is missing"The phenomenon is gradually spreading. Children are struggling at the bottom, but parents can't hide their disappointment. In today's society, one is called by young people"A new type of bereavement"The phenomenon is spreading imperceptibly, and light rain is one of the representatives. Xiaoyu is one of them. She graduated from an ordinary university, and although she does not have the aura of a prestigious school, the school's fame and popularity are not low. Xiaoyu thought that this would be the beginning of her new life.
Therefore, when her parents heard that she was successfully admitted to the university, they were so happy that they even held a grand banquet for her. However, she was in no hurry to find a job until she graduated from college. In Xiaoyu's planning, she plans to take the graduate exam, hoping to create better employment opportunities in the future.
His parents did not agree with Fish's future plans. They believe that it is not realistic to pursue a high degree of education, and the most important thing is to find a stable job, earn a salary, and support their families. Although Xiaoyu's dream is to go to college, he eventually follows his parents' advice.
Xiao Yu'er gave up the exam and got a job directly in the town where he went to college. Due to his low education and recent graduation, his monthly salary is not very good. After deducting a series of expenses such as rent, utilities, and transportation, he has very little money at his disposal.
Even so, Xiaoyu still insisted on sending money home every month. However, parents appreciate Xiaoyu's filial piety, even if Xiaoyu is sick several times and the money sent home is reduced due to medical expenses, parents will ask Xiaoyu through **, but avoid talking about Xiaoyu's health problems.
What makes Xiaoyu even more difficult to accept is that no matter how much money she sends, her parents are always dissatisfied and often reprimand her for being incompetent and not having a high income from her job. Xiaoyu struggled at the bottom, but her parents couldn't hide their disappointment, always mentioning that the children of other relatives and friends had achieved better grades.
A child was born in"Bottom-up families"What kind of gap does it mean?
This question makes a lot of people curious. Since you can't choose your origin, grow in"The ground floor of the home"will find ways to change their fate. However, there are some essential gaps that are difficult to change no matter how hard you try, just like a small fish that can never get rid of"Shackles"。
The first is the huge difference in the way education is done and the concept of family. Parents from low-income families are more concerned about food and clothing, and their income is limited, and it is a great sacrifice to be able to support their children to complete their university studies. As a result, they quickly passed on the difficulties of life to their newly graduated children.
When a child wants to go to college, parents usually stop it directly, hoping that the child will enter the labor market early to reduce the financial burden on the parents, and at the same time, they also hope to get some contribution from the child's income as a reward for the child's years of dedication.
On the other hand, parents from wealthier families tend to place more emphasis on education, and they will actively encourage their children to improve their academic qualifications even if they do not actively mention it. If their children are planning to go to college, these parents tend to be fully supportive.
Parents from low-income families don't understand this, they think that having a bachelor's degree is enough. In their opinion, with a bachelor's degree, one can be promoted to a small leader in their field of work. As a result, they rarely support their children in graduate programs, mainly because they do not want to continue paying tuition fees.
Finally, for children from low-income families, the desire to find the opportunity to reach the top of the ladder has become almost an unrealistic fantasy, no matter which industry they choose in the future. With little background, connections, and financial resources, they have little to discover, and even having the support of one of them can greatly reduce their stress. Unfortunately, they face the dilemma of being helpless, especially in the face of their parents' incomprehension and extreme disappointment.
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