Parents play an important role in their children's growth, and their parenting style and family environment directly affect their children's development and growth. However, some parents, although they appear to be gentle and affectionate on the surface, actually show a tough and controlling side. They use some ways to pretend to be "good parents" to cover up their strict requirements and excessive control over their children, which brings psychological pressure and distress to children. This article will summarize the common ways used by parents who are gentle on the surface but are actually tough, and call on the society, students and schools to work together to promote healthy family education and respect for students' needs.
When faced with their children's unsatisfactory grades, some parents do not directly ask the reason or encourage and supervise, but choose to sigh loudly in front of their children to show disappointment and helplessness. This often stimulates a sense of guilt in the child, allowing them to consciously reflect and work hard to improve their performance. However, this practice actually puts psychological pressure on children, making them feel that they are inadequate and disappointed by their parents, which is bound to have a negative impact on their self-esteem and self-confidence.
In fact, a good parent should listen to their children's thoughts and troubles with care and understanding, help them find the problem, and provide appropriate solutions. Only true love and support can stimulate children's inner motivation and motivation, so that they can better face challenges and difficulties.
Some parents will compare their stress and distress to their children in order to ignore the pressures and difficulties their children are facing. When a child encounters difficulties in learning Xi or feels tired, a good parent should first express empathy and comfort, and further whether there is a problem with the learning method of Xi. However, parents with low emotional intelligence often teach their children that "pressure is motivation", and even silence their children when they express exhaustion.
This practice ignores the needs of a child's mental health and makes them feel unable to confide and be understood. A good parent should pay attention to their children's real feelings and give them positive psychological support so that they feel loved and understood.
Another common way to pretend to be a "good parent" is to give your children freedom on the surface, but in reality they are excessively controlling. Such parents often want to earn a reputation for "caring", they will pretend to respect their children's choices and opinions, but in fact they control their children's behavior and decisions in various ways behind the scenes.
For example, a mother may ask her child to choose between two foods, but she will want her child to choose the food she likes. If the child chooses his favorite food, the mother will approve and express satisfaction;But if the child chooses another food, the mother will indirectly reject the child's choice until the child changes to the one she likes. This kind of behavior is actually controlling the child in a repressive way, so that the child loses the right to think independently and choose freely.
For such parents who aim to be controlling, we should guide them to pay more attention to their children's independence and personality development in order to build a positive, open and respectful family environment.
In family education, the role of parents is not only to provide material support and discipline their children, but more importantly, to give children real love and support. Pretending to be a "good parent" can bring too much psychological stress and distress to children, hindering their healthy growth and development. Therefore, we call on parents to build a family environment of mutual respect, understanding and care from the perspective of their children. Only in this way can we raise the next generation that is healthy, confident and independent.
To conclude this writing, I would like to share some personal experiences around me. I have met children who have excellent grades on the surface but are full of stress and confusion on the inside. They worry that they will not be able to meet their parents' expectations and that they will not receive their parents' approval and attention. However, the parents of these children have the concept of striving for perfection, ignore the needs and personality of their children, and exert excessive control and demands on them.
This family environment leaves the child in a state of bondage and repression, doubting his own abilities and worth. They are often afraid to express their true thoughts and feelings, for fear of angering their parents or being blamed. As they grow up, these children may become increasingly alienated and indifferent to their parents, and they want to pursue their own happiness and fulfillment without being subject to the expectations and pressures of their parents.
Therefore, as a parent, you should always pay attention to your children's needs and feelings, and give them real love and support. We should not only treat children as "mirrors" of ourselves, but understand and respect their rights and values as individuals. Only in a truly equal and respectful family environment can children grow up confidently and show their unique talents and potential.
Therefore, we hope to work together to advocate a healthy way of homeschooling and improve the parenting level and family environment of parents. Only in this way will we be able to raise an independent, confident and positive next generation that will contribute to the development and progress of society.
ConclusionThe "direction education" for parents requires the common progress of students, schools and society. A good family will not shy away from the so-called "rebellion" of students;A good parent will also follow their children to make progress and update their cognition. Topic: Do you have this kind of phenomenon around you?(Network**, does not represent a specific person).