Parents and teachers say more "3 sentences", and children are automatically "favored" by teachers, which is more effective than gifts
After their children start school, every parent expects their children to grow up happily on campus and receive the attention and care of their teachers. However, the reality is often not the way it seems, and children often face challenges at school.
Especially for parents in kindergarten, it can be difficult to accurately express the problems they are experiencing at school due to the young age of their children. If a child returns home feeling down, or is adamant about not wanting to step through the doors of kindergarten again, parents will be eager to ask if there is anything that has made them unhappy. However, children may not be able to articulate the problems they encounter in kindergarten, which can cause parents to worry and even start to worry about it.
In such cases, parents usually take the initiative to communicate with the teacher to try to understand how the child is doing in kindergarten. However, the way parents communicate with teachers is crucial, and although teachers are usually very patient, if parents do not communicate in an appropriate way, such as complaining too much, it is bound to make teachers uncomfortable.
Therefore, there are some principles and skills that parents need to understand when communicating with teachers. Whether parents want teachers to pay more attention to their children or want to solve other problems, the following three sentences cannot be ignored. These three sentences are the experience of many parents, and they are actually more effective than gift-giving.
In the small world of kindergarten, every class teacher carries a heavy responsibility. In the picture, there is laughter and laughter in the classroom, but it also hides the endless work of the class teachers. In a class, there are about 20-30 young beings of different ages, some of whom have not yet fully mastered the ability to take care of themselves, and they all need the care of enthusiastic teachers before and after meals, going to the bathroom, and taking off their clothes during lunch breaks.
Although each class is equipped with three teachers, taking care of these twenty or thirty little angels around the clock can not help but make them feel overwhelmed and exhausted. Holding various activities in the kindergarten is an additional burden for the class teachers, and they have to pull in the support of 3-5 parents every time. Class teachers will post notices in the class group to find parents who are willing to participate, and sometimes, parents will rush to grab orders for popular activities.
However, for those activities that are relatively unpopular, the class teachers have to reach out to parents. At this time, they will remember the parents who quietly cooperated on weekdays and feel grateful. As I have personally experienced, Erbao's kindergarten organizes some lectures from time to time, and each class has to cooperate with a certain number of parents. Once, when there were only a few applicants for the lecture, the head teacher sent me a private message asking if I could support it.
Perhaps because of my relatively flexible work, I always try my best to support their work and participate in these activities as much as possible. In this process, I deeply felt the hard work of the class teachers, who were busy and silently creating a warm and interesting learning and Xi environment for the children.
In that small kindergarten, whenever an event is held, the teachers always touch the hearts of the parents. However, behind this beauty, there are some subtle relationships.
Class teachers often need to organize all kinds of exciting activities, and at this time, there are always some parents who seem to be a little more serious. The event requires the children to prepare props or costumes, and the question of cost naturally arises. Some parents do not hesitate to buy at their own expense, and sometimes even transfer the money directly to the teacher, so that the teacher can easily buy what he needs. While this fee is usually not much, some parents resist it because it is somewhat mandatory.
One day, after school, I overheard two mothers talking in a low voice. One of the mothers complained, "It's enough to buy these things every time, I don't buy them!."Another mother chimed in and said, "Yes, so do I, why do you have to buy these, I'd rather let my kids not participate." Their words were full of criticism of the teacher's request.
Although I understood the position of these parents, I began to think about another possibility. If all parents are so uncooperative, it will affect the teacher's activities. For the children, it may be the time they look forward to participating in the class activities. The moment when they can wear beautiful clothes, perform with their friends, and laugh together is undoubtedly a good memory for them. If the parents' reluctance brings an unhappy experience to the child, what kind of gain and loss is this?
Parents with high emotional intelligence are often able to put themselves in the shoes of teachers and children. They will not hesitate to say: it doesn't matter, as long as it is for the good of the child, I will fully cooperate. Such parents take care of their children's growth, and they understand that this cooperation is not only a respect for teachers, but also a contribution to their children's beautiful childhood.
In that warm school, there is a little naughty ghost, his name is Xiao Ming. Xiao Ming's parents know their child very well and know that he is usually a bit naughty and mischievous, and it is inevitable that he will cause some trouble to teachers and classmates at school.
One day, Xiao Ming's mother took the initiative to find Xiao Ming's homeroom teacher and said sincerely: "Teacher, if there is something about Xiao Ming in my family who is ignorant and naughty, and you bother, please tell me." The humility and understanding revealed in these words made the head teacher feel a trace of warmth.
For the class teacher, this is not just a simple polite word. This sentence is like a lubricant in the communication between parents and teachers, making the communication smoother. The head teacher smiled and responded, "Okay, thank you for your understanding." ”
However, this is not the end of the conversation, but the beginning. Xiao Ming's mother knew that at this time, she could further guide the teacher to make a two-way evaluation of Xiao Ming. So, she continued: "Actually, Xiao Ming also has some advantages, such as he is very enthusiastic to help others and is friendly to his classmates. ”
Such conversations not only allow parents to express understanding and respect for their teachers, but also provide teachers with a more comprehensive understanding. The head teacher also said with emotion: "Thank you for your feedback, I will pay more attention to Xiao Ming in teaching to help him better adapt to school life." ”
In such conversations, parents and teachers work together to make the child's growth path smoother at school.
When children step through the doors of kindergarten, we as parents are often filled with anticipation and anxiety. We are worried about whether the children will be able to adapt quickly to the new environment, whether they will be able to get along with their peers, and whether the teachers will really like our children.
This anxiety often prompts some parents to have some "gift-giving" thoughts, hoping that in this way they can attract more attention and care from teachers for their children. Although they understand the good intentions of parents, most teachers refuse to accept gifts from parents in the spirit of abiding by the principle of professional ethics, and do not take special care of their children because of such actions.
After all, each class is a big collective, and there are countless little angels in it that need the attention and care of the teacher. Rather than having the idea of giving gifts, parents may wish to communicate with teachers to express their expectations and confidence in their child's adaptation to kindergarten. This kind of communication is more sincere and direct, and can play a substantive role in the child's development process than "gift-giving".
Is your child very popular in kindergarten?This may be a deeper reflection of the child's integration and social skills in the group, which is also one of the focuses of our attention.
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