It's a normal feeling to mind your boyfriend's past, but how to deal with that emotion is key. Here are a few tips to help you cope:
Self-reflection: First, reflect on why you would mind his past. Is it because you feel threatened or your self-esteem has been hurt?Or is it because you're worried that his past will have some impact on your future?Understanding your feelings and concerns will help you deal with the problem better.
Open and honest communication: Communicate your feelings and concerns openly with your boyfriend, but be careful about your tone and manner and avoid blaming or attacking him. Listen to his explanations and perspectives, understand how his past has affected him, and work with him on how to better deal with those feelings.
Accept his past: Everyone has a past, including you and him. Accept his past as He accepts yours. Past experiences have shaped him into who he is now, but it doesn't necessarily determine their future.
Focus on the present and the future: Looking to the future, focusing on your present and future is important to see if you are able to build trust, loyalty, and respect for each other, as well as the goals and values that you share together.
Seek support: If your mind continues to bother you, consider seeking professional support, such as a counsellor. They can help you deal with difficult emotions and provide guidance.
Ultimately, dealing with your boyfriend's past requires effort from both of you, mutual understanding and tolerance. We've all had it, and what matters is how you move forward together and create a healthy, happy future.