Every child has their own feelings, but sometimes their feelings are ignored by their parents. Like the girl in the book, she thinks the boy by the pool is acting disgustingly and chooses to go home. Her friends thought it was funny. This situation reminds me of Lin Yihan's book, "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise". When Siqi was violated by her teacher, she was puzzled when she asked her parents for help, and her parents blamed her for her words and deeds. These examples show us that many times children's feelings are ignored or even belittled, and they are not encouraged to take their feelings seriously.
Thinking more deeply, such neglect may not only exist at home, but also in the workplace. At work, we may face some ** bullying and be asked to work overtime constantly, so that we break through our bottom line. Sometimes, we are afraid of conflict, thinking that suffering is a blessing, but in fact, these sufferings do not become blessings in the end, but become the suffering in our hearts.
In order to let children avoid being bullied, we should start to pay attention to children's feelings from today, not ignore, not overreact, and not deny. When children express their feelings, we can acknowledge their feelings, have a conversation with them, and let them know that we are listening to them. If we always ignore their feelings, they may become silent or even think that their feelings do not deserve to be valued.
Children are not robots, and we can't change their behavior with some wonderful verbal commands. It's never a few words that change a child, it's the attitude we have when we get along with them. When we give our children enough attention and recognition, they will feel valued, more willing to communicate with us, and more able to express their feelings.
As parents, we have a responsibility to guide our children to treat their feelings correctly. When we are faced with a situation where our children are reluctant to go to school, we do not need to argue with them, but can affirm their feelings while reminding them that completing something that challenges them will bring more joy and growth. This kind of dialogue with children can make them feel that we understand and support them, and motivate them to take the initiative to face difficulties and challenges.
Whether we are uniting with our child peacefully or outbreakingly, we need to acknowledge our child's feelings at the beginning. The aim is to let children know that their voices are being heard, thus reducing conflict and stress. When children realize that their feelings are recognized, they will also be more willing to work with us and gradually change their behaviour.
Every child has the right to be valued, and we can't judge our children's feelings by our own standards, but really listen to them. We need to give children the space and opportunity to express their feelings and believe that their voices are valued and respected.
Growing up, I also experienced neglect and feeling negative. These experiences have taught me the importance of valuing the feelings of others, not only at home, but also in the workplaceSocialof all aspects. When we truly care about and respect the feelings of others, we are able to build more harmonious and inclusive relationships that promote personal harmonySocialprogress.
in realitylifeBullying is always there. In order to avoid children being bullied, we should pay attention to children's feelings and let them know that their voices are heard and respected. As parents, our role is to guide our children to take their feelings right and to maintain communication and understanding with them. Every child has the right to be valued, and we should treat them with respect and recognition. By valuing the child's feelings, we can build a more harmonious and inclusive family andSocialso that everyone can grow more happily. Let's start today and pay attention to our children's feelings and grow up together.