My name is Li Xiaoqian, 28 years old this year, a single working woman. I once had a beautiful love, but an accident made me leave. Since then, I have been adrift in the city, living a lonely life.
So the question arises: how can a single young woman meet her physical needs?This has always been a difficult problem for me.
1. Love yourself, starting from physical and mental health.
I was 26 years old that year, and I was physically and mentally exhausted by the double blow of work pressure and broken love. I realized that the first priority to meet my physical needs is to love myself and take care of my body and mind.
So I started working out regularly, going to the gym at least 3 times a week. I still remember the first time I went to the gym, I was nervous like a little boy, for fear of being found out about my purpose. Luckily, the fitness instructor was very friendly, made a fitness plan for me, and guided me through my movements.
I also started Xi Yoga in the hope of relaxing through deep breathing and stretching. Once after a yoga class, I looked in the mirror and found that my ** had become ruddy and my figure was slowly becoming curvy. It gave me more confidence than ever before, and I loved myself even more.
2. Take the initiative to participate in gatherings and expand your friends.
I remember a roommate in college who used to say that making friends is the most important asset in a person's life. Now I think so.
So I started to take the initiative to participate in some offline networking. For example, when my high school classmate Xiao Liu got married, I didn't hesitate to sign up for her bachelorette party.
It was a poolside villa, and Xiao Liu carefully prepared a buffet and water sports. I wore a ** swimsuit and boldly showed off my figure.
I unexpectedly gained the attention of several men, although it did not produce further development, but a few more friends of the opposite sex also broadened my horizons.
I also joined a hobby reading club and met like-minded young women in literature and art. We often meet for tea, heart-to-heart talks, and sharing reading insights.
This allowed me to find a spiritual soulmate and also brought a ray of light to my physical needs.
3. Use software to find objects and establish relationships carefully.
In addition, I also look for people on some online apps. I value inner qualities and don't just choose them.
Once, I met a programmer who was a few years younger than me on the software "Tree Hole". He had a great sense of humor and often made me laugh with witty things.
Gradually, we developed a good impression and exchanged ** successively. I noticed that he was well-mannered, like a student.
In this way, we began to chat through text, voice, **. One day, he asked me to come out and meet him, and I hesitated and agreed.
When I met him, I was pleasantly surprised to find that he was even more handsome than he looked. We hit it off and had a great two days and one night.
Afterwards, I asked him if he would like to develop a long-term relationship. He said frankly that he doesn't want to fall in love and get married yet, so let's maintain this relationship. I'm a little disappointed, but I can understand his position.
Therefore, I am more cautious about using software to find objects. It is necessary to have a comparable level of education, a common language, and both parties to be free and open in order to have a relaxed relationship.
This is also a way for me, a single young woman, to meet my physical needs.
4. Accept yourself and learn to be self-satisfied.
While looking for a partner, I am slowly learning to accept and take care of myself. For example, I go to the spa regularly to relax and unwindWill buy some small toys to meet their physiological needs.
I remember the first time I went to the sex toy store, my face was as red as a tomato. The clerk was very lively and cheerful, explaining various functions to me, and I became more and more ashamed to listen, and finally hurriedly chose a gadget and ran away.
When I got home, I carefully unpacked it, and with shame and curiosity, I began to try out the gadget. At first, it was a little awkward, but as I got better, I experienced unprecedented excitement and pleasure.
It's like opening the door to a new world and opening my eyes to another possibility of satisfying myself.
Therefore, loving yourself, accepting yourself, and learning to be self-satisfied is also an option for single young women. It's like raising a pot of small flowers, and if you take care of them, you will be able to bloom brilliant flowers.
There are all kinds of flavors in life, whether bitter or sweet, I know them all. I also hope that my sharing can give you some reference or inspiration.
Remember, loving yourself is more important than anything else. Only with an open mind can we embrace the beauty of being single.
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