Flying Fish deeply touches on the stage of life that everyone faces, that is, the moment of aging. Aging is an inevitable law of life, and everyone will experience it. However, in later life, some people choose to live a bleak life, while others are able to enjoy a happy life. The difference is related to a few important things. In old age, it becomes essential to be sober and wise in choosing not to let yourself fall into a daze or leave yourself with nothing in old age. Truly wise old people live a sober and transparent life, they stick to principles when dealing with some things, maintain independent thinking, and are not afraid of offending children. Because the concept of "raising children to prevent old age" is unreliable after all, only by relying on oneself to provide for the elderly, can life in old age stay away from desolation. Therefore, when facing life in old age, there are three things that need special attention to avoid the desolation of the later scene.
1. Don't lose control of money.
In Flying Fish's view, the mastery of money is crucial. Especially in the face of children's "sweet words", the elderly should keep a clear head, and not let their children act in a foolish way because they are too doting and indulgent. Flying Fish gave the example of a family who received a compensation payment after land acquisition, but because the parents spoiled their son too much, he made unilateral decisions about what to do with the money. As a result, the son squandered 10 million and did not give his parents a cent. In the end, the old couple was reduced to renting a house to live in when they got old, and the demolition money was squandered in less than half a year in the hands of their son. This is a deeply deplorable example of a deplorable place to live in old age, and a bleak life. Therefore, the elderly should be cautious in making up their minds when facing some things, not to let their children become a burden, and not to let themselves be old and wander in a foreign country because of excessive spoiling.
2. Defend your nest.
Another important aspect is to protect your home and not sell your house because of your children's rhetoric. Feiyu mentioned the story of Jinghui's grandmother in the TV series "North and South". Jinghui's grandmother lived alone after the death of her wife, and her son came to suggest that he sell his house in Beijing and use the money to buy a big house in Hangzhou. However, Grandma Jinghui was not fooled, she insisted on keeping her house in Beijing and using her retirement salary to live a free life. She clearly realized that after raising her son, he should rely on his own life to struggle, and she didn't owe him anything. This story teaches us to maintain a clear understanding of property in old age and not to make decisions lightly for the sake of children's requirements, so as not to eventually lead to the loss of property.
3. Don't fall into twilight love easily.
Finally, Flying Fish mentions that the elderly should not easily fall into twilight love. He illustrated this point through the story of Qiao Zuwang in the TV series "Children of the Qiao Family". After Qiao Zuwang grew old, he chose to remarry because of the sweet words of the nanny next to him, but he failed to see the true purpose of the other party. The nanny plotted Qiao Zuwang's real estate and urban hukou, which eventually led to the breakdown of family relationships, and even Qiao Zuwang died of loneliness. This story tells us that we also need to be cautious about our love life in old age, and don't easily fall into emotional traps because of loneliness, otherwise it may bury hidden dangers for your later life.
In the summary, Flying Fish emphasized the importance of keeping a clear head in old age and not letting confused things happen, so as not to lead to a bleak evening. Seniors need to make wise choices in terms of money, possessions, feelings, etc., stick to their principles, and maintain independent thinking in order to live a peaceful and comfortable old age.