My name is Li Fengying and I am 62 years old this year. I have a son, Li Jianhua, who works as a sales manager in a local foreign company, and he is busy every day. My daughter-in-law, Zhang Xiaomei, is a local of ours, beautiful and capable, and works as a store manager in a shopping mall. My husband has passed away a long time ago and now lives with my son and his family of three in a local three-bedroom apartment.
So, since my husband passed away, I insisted on sleeping in the master bed every night. Even after my son got married, I insisted on it. Every night, the son and daughter-in-law can only squeeze into the small bed in the son's room. The daughter-in-law was able to tolerate it at first, but then she became more and more dissatisfied.
Mom, you see that your body is still strong now, and your waist is not as fragile as you say. Isn't it time for the couple to sleep in the master bedroom?You can sleep in your son's room. My daughter-in-law came to talk to me.
Daughter-in-law, you don't know my hardships. I really have a problem with my waist, and I have to sleep in a big bed. I explained.
Okay, Mom, then let's bear with it. The daughter-in-law said helplessly. I know she's not happy, but I can't help it.
Although my daughter-in-law's face is not very good, I have no other way. For my low back pain, I had to continue sleeping in a big bed every night.
A few days later, my daughter-in-law talked to me, and her face was ugly: "Mom, I really can't stand it, our family conditions are good, the master bedroom is so big, why can't you let us sleep in the master bedroom?"Wouldn't it be nice for you to sleep in your son's room?”
I explained: "Daughter-in-law, you listen to me make it clear, I didn't mean to occupy the master bedroom, but I really have a problem with my waist and have to sleep in a big bed, you can also see this, I have tried several times and the result is very painful." ”
The daughter-in-law said impatiently: "I think your psychological effect is too serious!."Now that society has developed, you should go to the doctor, and it should not affect the life of our husband and wife because of this little problem!”
When I heard it, I felt very uncomfortable. I know that my daughter-in-law's opinion is reasonable, but I really have a problem with my waist, and I haven't used it to go to the doctor.
Mom, can you just sleep in our room?Come on, let's give it a try tonight and see if you really have a problem with your waist. In the evening, my son also came to persuade me.
Mom, how's your waist?"My daughter-in-law asked me.
It still hurts badly, and I said that my waist can't sleep in a small bed. I said with a wry smile.
Maybe it will take a few tries to get better, so try again. "The daughter-in-law still has that attitude.
Over the next few days, I tried to sleep in my son's room for a few more nights, but the results were the same, with terrible back pain. My daughter-in-law saw that I was really in pain, and she didn't force it anymore. But I could tell that she was unhappy with me in her heart.
After some time, one night, my daughter-in-law knocked on my door.
Mom, we need to talk. The daughter-in-law stood at the door and said.
I asked her to come in and sit down. "Daughter-in-law, you say, what's the matter?”
Mom, I can't take it anymore. We've been married for two years, and it's so unfair for us to live as a couple that you won't let us sleep in the master bedroom. I figured it was time to give up the master bedroom. The daughter-in-law said bluntly.
I was a little overwhelmed by this. Indeed, it stands to reason that I, as my father-in-law, should give up the master bedroom to my son and daughter-in-law. But my lower back pain does exist, and it makes me very difficult.
Daughter-in-law, what you said makes sense. But you also know that I really have a problem with my waist, and I can't bear it without sleeping in a big bed. I'll try to explain.
I don't care, I think you should give up the master bedroom anyway. Let's start tonight, you sleep in your son's room, we'll sleep in the master bedroom!The daughter-in-law's tone was resolute.
Daughter-in-law, don't you want to be like this, I have a terrible back pain, how can you let me sleep in a small bed?I pleaded.
It has to be this way!That's as it should be, you can't affect the lives of our young people because of your own problems. The daughter-in-law said.
Mom, how's your waist?My son asked me with concern.
It's still painful, it's really old and miserable!I sighed.
Then let's try again tonight, maybe you'll get used to it in a few days. My son advised me.
My back pain lasted for more than a week, but my daughter-in-law still insisted that I sleep in my son's room. I was so miserable that I had to go to the doctor. After examination, the doctor said that my lumbar disc degeneration was more serious, and I had to rest more to get better.
I went home with the doctor's diagnosis and said to my daughter-in-law, "Look, the doctor said that my back disease is more serious, and I have to sleep in a big bed." ”
I don't believe in this diagnosis, I think it's just your psychological effect. We've had you try it for so many days, and your waist hasn't improved, so it doesn't matter if you don't sleep in a big bed. The daughter-in-law is still very determined.
After discussing with my son, I decided to buy a new queen bed to put in my son's room, hoping that I would get better when I slept in the new big bed. But after a few days, my back pain was still there.
Mom, is your waist still bad?Maybe we can ask an expert to check it again. The son said.
It didn't work, the doctor said that my waist plate had degenerated severely. Alas, it seems that I am destined to suffer from low back pain for the rest of my life. I sighed.
In this way, my low back pain problem has not improved. My daughter-in-law insisted that I sleep in my son's room, and every day I had severe back pain.
One day, my daughter-in-law suddenly said to me, "Mom, we need to talk about it seriously. I can't stand it anymore, your back pain is certainly sympathetic, but we also have our lives. So, after discussing it with your son, we decided to move out and rent a house by ourselves, so that you can live in this house alone. ”
I was stunned: "What?".You're moving out?Then how lonely it is for me to live here as an old man!”
We can't help it, if you don't let out of the master bedroom, we can't sleep in a bed as a couple, and moving out is the best way. The daughter-in-law said.
Daughter-in-law, are you in charge like this?It's so sad for me to live alone with this old bone, and you can't bear to be children, right?I pleaded.
Mom, it's hard for us to make decisions, but we can't help it. We can't help with your low back pain, that's all. The son also said that he could not change this decision.
I burst into tears, but both of them seemed to have made up their minds. A month later, they moved out and I lived alone in the old house.
For a while, I was not used to it. Living alone in such a big house, I felt both lonely and scared. But my low back pain is better, probably because I can sleep in a big bed.
After some time, one day my son and daughter-in-law came to see me out of the blue.
Mom, we have something to tell you, we have decided to divorce. The son said.
I was shocked: "How did you two get divorced?"Are you in a bad relationship?”
Mom, we just can't go on. During this time, I thought deeply and felt that the two of us were not suitable. The daughter-in-law said.
Don't be like this, you have to discuss it, I can move out, don't divorce you!I hurriedly persuaded them.
Mom, the decision has been made, and we have been thinking about it for a long time. Don't persuade us anymore. The son was resolute.
I was so sad that I was to blame for all this, and if I had given up the master bedroom, maybe they wouldn't have done this. Divorce is too painful for them.
After a while, my daughter-in-law suddenly called me with a very rushed tone: "Mom, your son and I have divorced, and he will transfer the house contract to your name today." From now on, I will never set foot in that house again!Take care of yourself.
I listened to my daughter-in-law's angry words, and my heart was like a knife. Well, my son and daughter-in-law are really divorced, and I am the culprit for all this.
Mom, I'll transfer the house contract to your name. From today onwards, the house is all yours. The son said.
I looked at his haggard face and felt very distressed: "Son, it's all my mother's fault, if I didn't have to sleep in the master bedroom, you wouldn't have gotten a divorce." Mom owes you so much. ”
Mom, it's not your fault, it's just that the two of us really don't get along. Don't blame yourself. My son comforted me.
So what are you going to do in the future?Why don't you move back and live with your mother? I suggested.
No, Mom, I've already rented another house. It's not convenient for our mother and son to live together, so you can live here alone. The son refused.
My heart was twisted, I felt that I was getting old, and my son was going to leave me to live alone. We talked for a while and then my son left. I sat alone in the house, tears streaming uncontrollably.
Since then, I've truly lived on my own. Occasionally, my son would call me and ask me about the situation, but there was not much communication. My low back pain seems to be getting worse and worse, probably due to psychological reasons. I began to feel that the house was empty and that it was lonely to live alone.