A female friend asked me if I could help her find a book or two that she could read when she was confused. I recommended Haruki Murakami's "What I Talk About When I Talk About Running" to her, and I just fell in love with running after reading this book, and I also lost my hesitation.
If you don't want to read, I recommend reading Haruki Murakami's beautiful sentences, although not as systematic as books, but suitable for everyone to read carefully. Just like the following three sentences, you might as well read them when you are confused.
1. If you fall into the darkness, all you can do is wait until your eyes adjust to the darkness.
You may have had a similar experience of being terrified of the dark. But when you stay in the dark for a few minutes, you get used to the darkness and find that it's not so scary. In fact, the same is true in life, when you encounter a setback, you think you can't hold on, but you grit your teeth and stand up.
So, don't be afraid of the so-called difficulties, your current confusion is like the night, you think it is very scary, but after you grope in the dark to find your own direction, you can continue to pursue your dreams, and then you are naturally no longer confused.
I remember remembering this sentence when I was at a low point in my life, and I told myself to be quiet and wait, so that my eyes could adjust to the darkness. So I spent a week walking alone by the lake, and although I felt very lonely and helpless at the time, this sentence supported me to get out of that predicament and find my direction in life.
2. The reason why people suffer is that they pursue the wrong things.
Wang Xiaobo once said, he said: "All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence!."This is true, but everyone's pain is different, and the reason why some people suffer is that they pursue the wrong things. Got the pain, didn't get the same pain.
Sometimes, you're not looking for what you really need, it's just seeing that others have what you want. For example, the pursuit of fame, status, money, etc., these things do not bring you real happiness, especially when you gain these things and lose the most precious things - family, friends, health, you will be very miserable.
Therefore, you should think hard about what you really need and let go of those wrong things. Only then will you be able to find true happiness. If you keep going with the flow and strive for something that looks beautiful but is actually wrong, you will only be more miserable and confused.
3. When you let go, when you don't have troubles.
Your confusion and anxiety may come from being troubled by some trivial things, which makes you unable to let go. When you learn to let go of these worries and stresses, you can live with ease and ease. Of course, letting go doesn't mean you run away from problems or give up on your efforts, but you have to learn to accept reality and face it positively.
For example, you have been feeling very anxious about losing your job recently, your household expenses are waiting for you to spend every day, and you don't have much savings, so you can only find a job as soon as possible to make ends meet. Thinking of this, you are very confused, because you have interviewed many companies, and the salary is relatively low, and the whole ** is the same.
At this time, you should let go of these worries and find other opportunities, such as changing industries or temporarily doing some hard, but relatively high-paying jobs, to get through this difficult time first. That way you have breathing room, at least less hesitation.
These three sentences were excerpted from Haruki Murakami's book when I was confused, and I took them out and read them when I was hesitating. If you are in a state of confusion and are depressed, then I suggest you read these three sentences, it will give you strength and your hesitation.