Master Hongyi said: The reason why people are suffering is because they are too serious, and the reason why they are confused is because they are too concerned about gains and losses. Lose in hake, but gain in herring. Do your best to obey the destiny of heaven. I am fortunate to have gained, I have lost my life, and too high expectations are the root of all suffering. Some people choose to let go, not to forgive others, but to let themselves go.
In the journey of life, we will always encounter various challenges and dilemmas, which can sometimes make us feel painful and lost. Venerable Hongyi's wisdom teaches us that pain and confusion often stem from our over-thinking and truthful thinking about gains and losses, as well as expecting too much from the outcome. In order to get rid of this pain and confusion, we need to learn to let go and forgive, let go of ourselves, and let the mind be liberated.
First of all, letting go is a form of wisdom. Many of the pains and entanglements in life stem from our attachment to certain people and things. We often get angry over trivial things and resentment over people who don't deserve it. If we can learn to let go of these attachments and truthfulness and make our mind broader and more open-minded, then we will be able to avoid a lot of unnecessary pain and trouble.
Second, forgiveness is a practice. In the journey of life, we will always encounter some hurts and betrayals, and these experiences can make us resentful and even have thoughts of revenge. But if we choose to forgive and allow ourselves to be broad and open-minded, then we can get rid of this resentment and pain. Forgiveness is not only for others, but also for oneself. When we choose to forgive, we can let go of the resentment in our hearts and allow our hearts to be liberated.
In addition, high expectations are one of the sources of all suffering. We often have high expectations for the future, hoping that we will be able to achieve various achievements and honors. However, the reality is often harsh, and our expectations are often disappointed. If we can lower our expectations and allow ourselves to be at peace and calm, then we can avoid a lot of unnecessary pain and disappointment.
Finally, we need to recognize that success and failure are the norm in life. In the journey of life, we will experience many gains and losses, successes and failures, which are inevitable. We need to learn to accept these realities and not let them affect our mindset and emotions. When we can calmly face the successes and failures of gains and losses, we can let go of the attachment and truthfulness in our hearts, and let our hearts be liberated.
To sum up, letting go, forgiving, lowering expectations, and accepting success and failure are all important wisdom and practices in life. By practicing these wisdoms and practices, we can get rid of pain and confusion and liberate our minds.
First of all, we can start with the small things in our daily lives and gradually develop our mindset of letting go and forgiving. For example, when we encounter some small contradictions or conflicts, we can try to empathize and understand the other person's position and emotions, so as to resolve the conflict. When we are hurt or betrayed by others, we can try to forgive them and make our minds broader and more open-minded. Through these practices, we can gradually develop our own wisdom of letting go and forgiving.
Second, we can help ourselves lower our expectations and accept reality through meditation, yoga, and other practices. These practices can help us calm our minds, adjust our emotions, and allow us to look at successes and failures more objectively. Through spiritual practice, we can gradually develop our inner strength and confidence so that we can better cope with life's challenges and dilemmas.
In addition, we can also release inner stress and pain through communication and sharing with others. Sharing our experiences and feelings with others can help us better understand and process our emotions, and it can also make us feel supported and cared for by others. Through communication and sharing with others, we can gradually get out of the situation of loneliness and confusion and find the direction and purpose of life.
Finally, we need to keep a normal mind. Successes and failures in life are temporary, and we need to keep a calm mind to face them. No matter what kind of dilemmas and challenges we face, we need to remain calm and rational in analyzing problems and finding solutions. Only by maintaining a normal heart can we better cope with life's challenges and dilemmas.
In the process of practicing these wisdom and practices, we need to be aware and understanding of ourselves at all times. We need to understand our emotions and needs and respect our choices and decisions. At the same time, it is also necessary to understand the emotions and needs of others and respect the choices and decisions of others. In this way, we can get along better with others, build good relationships, and make our lives more fulfilling, happy, and meaningful!
To sum up, through practice, letting go of forgiveness, lowering expectations, and maintaining a normal heart, we can gradually get rid of pain and confusion, let our hearts be liberated and grow, and become a more mature, rational and confident person!