Family harmony is the expectation of every newlywed, but when families live together across generations, different living habits often lead to conflicts. In order to let both parents and parents-in-law be taken care of, singer Liu Hegang took the initiative to propose that the elderly on both sides live in the same room. At first, everyone got along well, but after a long time, the different concepts and living habits of the old people were also exposed, which eventually led to the breakdown of the relationship between the two families. As a "person who has come over", how does Liu Hegang resolve the suspicion between the elderly and rebuild the family affection of the big family?
Liu He was just born in an ordinary peasant family, and he has shown amazing talent since he was a child, and he can often hum out the songs he has heard once, which makes the villagers look up to him with admiration. In order for him to show his talents in the future, Liu Hegang's parents tried their best to provide him with a first-class education despite their difficult family background. His father, Liu Lao, worked as a farmer in the village, and although he had a meager income and had to take care of his mother and several children, he always let Liu Hegang participate in various talent competitions without pay, and never stopped buying him the best musical instruments and novel teaching materials. The teacher in the village saw that Liu Hegang had been studying so hard, so he took the initiative to open a small stove to make up for him. The village chief also often takes care of Liu Lao, saying that the child is so smart and clever, he must study hard and change his family background in the future.
In order to save tuition, the mother's lumbar disc herniation has been only the most basic conservative**, and the father even injured his finger in farming, but he still gritted his teeth and insisted, hoping that his son would become a big tool. Once, Liu Lao accidentally cut his finger while operating the machine in the field, and he could have spent 3,000 yuan to save his finger, but he calculated that his son's tuition just needed 3,000, so he resolutely chose to amputate his finger and continue to work. Liu Lao hid from his family, but silently endured the pain, for fear of affecting Liu Hegang's learning ambitions.
Liu Hegang knew his parents' expectations for him, and after graduating from high school, he was successfully admitted to a provincial key art school and began his own enlightenment life. The days of being away from home flew by, and the father of the family had two fingers amputated one after another during a machine operation. But the parents concealed the matter, for fear of affecting their son's studies. The teachers and classmates at the school said that Liu Hegang was a good and filial child, with a very good learning attitude, and often represented the school in various performance competitions. Fellow singer Xiao Zhang still remembers that every time Liu Hegang sings on stage, his eyes are full of touching family affection, which makes people moved.
It wasn't until Liu He had just graduated and returned home and saw his father's mutilated hand that he knew that his tuition fees were not easy to come by. Liu Hegang hugged his father in pain, and vowed to learn to sing hard, so that his parents could live a good life in the future and live up to their expectations. Seeing his son crying, Liu Lao felt very uncomfortable, but he still recklessly comforted his son to work hard. In fact, Liu Lao has long regarded his son as his life, as long as he does not forget his original intention in the future, everything he has paid is worth it.
In 2009, Liu Hegang was introduced by a friend to the singer Zhan Yang, who was 10 years younger than him. The two were like-minded, soon fell in love, and entered the marriage hall after 103 days of acquaintance. Liu Hegang has a down-to-earth and introverted personality, and is appreciated and recognized by his parents-in-law. Zhan Yang is also very understanding, and the two were very affectionate at the beginning of their marriage. Soon after marriage, Zhan Yang also gave birth to a son. Liu Hegang's mother-in-law came all the way from her hometown to help take care of the children in order to take care of her son-in-law's family. Liu Hegang wanted to hire a nanny, but his mother-in-law insisted on taking care of his grandson, so the young couple went with her.
But it didn't take long for Liu Hegang's old father to have health problems and need someone to take care of his daily life. After thinking about it, Liu Hegang and his wife felt that they could not let an old man stay alone in the countryside. In the end, Liu Hegang proposed to take his parents-in-law to Beijing and live in the same room with them. The newlyweds happily decorated the two bedrooms, looking forward to the four elders having a good time together. At first, the two old people met mostly to catch up on the old days and talk about their children. Mother-in-law often discuss recipes together, ** how to make delicious and healthy dishes. The father-in-law also summed up playing chess, drinking tea and chatting together. The family seemed to be happy, and many neighbors also praised Liu and Gang for their filial piety.
But after a long time, contradictions arise. The living habits and consumption concepts of the two pairs of elderly people are very different, and the contradictions naturally appear. Liu Hegang's parents were frugal all their lives, and they were always reluctant to throw away unfinished meals, planning to mix them up next time they cooked. In the eyes of the parents-in-law, this is very unhygienic and lacks civilized etiquette. There is also Liu's parents who like to smoke at home, and her mother-in-law often complains that being forced to smoke secondhand smoke at home is not good for your health. Liu Hegang and his wife did not take these small frictions between the old people seriously, and comforted their parents that they were from the city of their parents-in-law, and they had different knowledge, so they should be more tolerant.
Until one day, a child's words lit the fuse among the elderly. Liu Hegang's mother was breastfeeding her grandson, but the grandson said, "I only need grandma to feed, not grandma." Liu's mother is naturally happy, and she only treats her grandson as close to her. But this sentence inadvertently hurt her mother-in-law and made her feel that she was not treated well by the family. Since then, the two elderly people have rarely communicated, and the atmosphere at home has become very depressing.
Within a few months, the parents-in-law suddenly packed their luggage and returned to their hometown, and when they left, they simply called ** to report that they were safe. Liu Hegang and Zhan Yang both felt at a loss for this sudden change, and they didn't know what to do when they thought about it. Liu Hegang was upset all day long, suffered from insomnia overnight, and his life and work were also greatly affected. Zhan Yang blamed himself even more, feeling that all this was due to his poor consideration.
After careful consideration, the couple decided to communicate with their parents first, hoping to resolve the disagreement between the elderly and rebuild a harmonious family. Liu Hegang had a frank talk with his parents, and first solemnly admitted to his parents that his management of this matter was indeed improper and he could not handle the feelings of the old man, which caused the conflict. He said that in the future, he will definitely strengthen care, provide better living conditions, and take good care of every elderly person. In the end, Liu Hegang folded his hands and sincerely apologized to his parents, and his parents no longer minded when they saw his sincere attitude, and promised to get along with his parents-in-law.
After that, Liu Hegang accompanied his parents on a long journey to his parents-in-law's house and solemnly apologized to his parents-in-law. He said it was all due to his own mismanagement and asked for their forgiveness. "We are all for the good of our children, as long as everyone gets along harmoniously, children can work without worries. In the end, with Liu Hegang's efforts, the two families finally shook hands and made peace. This contradiction also gave Liu Hegang a deeper understanding. Whether it is his biological parents or parents-in-law, he gives equal respect and love.
This dispute also made both sides realize that there will inevitably be differences in life, but it is more necessary to be tolerant and understanding. Liu Hegang paid more attention to the different habits of the two old people, and often discussed with Zhan Yang how to make the old people live comfortably. They will often invite the elderly to travel and relax, and the family will communicate openly and understand each other. Now, four generations have become harmonious and happy again. Liu Hegang finally let go of his heart and can devote himself to the best career.
A harmonious family requires the unremitting efforts of every member. In the face of the inevitable differences between the elderly, the younger generation should resolve the contradictions in a tolerant heart. Filling the human world with love and understanding is the way to happiness. Liu Hegang used his practical actions to let us see the possibility of cross-generational coexistence.