Is there anyone who can't wait to eat something delicious when they are young, and they can enjoy it slowly for a few days, but they always disappear quickly?Clothes or other things too, can be used for a long time, but they are always in a hurry to use up. On the surface, it is a matter of self-control, but in reality, there is a deeper psychological pain hidden behind it.
Psychotherapists at Source of Light often hear students share such experiences during their courses. This is especially common in families with many children. Parents buy snacks for every child, but distribution can't always be fair. In a family, there are children of all ages, the oldest may be 15 years old, and the youngest is only 7 years old. Can you imagine an older child having the scheming to eat a snack and hide the rest in their pocket?And for a 7-year-old, it may be just a matter of enjoying a snack.
When a 7-year-old discovers that the snacks have been eaten, he will be confused because he sees that there are many more, why is it his turn to only have two?Watching the other siblings hide their snacks in their pockets or eat them quickly, he quickly realizes that once he has something good, he has to eat it quickly.
The same goes for other items in the home. To prevent it from being taken by others, he may write his name on the item or put saliva on it. These seemingly funny behaviors actually reflect the scramble and competition between children in many families with many children. Over time, this became a habit.
We need to delve into the traumatic experiences of childhood in our families of origin. It could be an event, a word, a look that has had a negative impact on you. Find these root causes, sort them out, and straighten out all the hurts, and your problems can be solved. If you can't do it yourself, you can also seek the help of a professional healer who can help you find these root causes and help you clean up and heal.