It is difficult for people with high academic qualifications from rural areas to find a partner, and those with low academic qualifications are thriving!This is a strange phenomenon in the countryside at present. Some time ago, I heard that a distant relative's child in my hometown went on a blind date with a second-married divorced woman with children, which really surprised meThe blind date turned out to be a second-married girl who didn't take a fancy to him. His parents even said that if they hadn't been admitted to college at that time, they might not have had this outcome.
This distant relative's child is a graduate of a second school, and was admitted to the university in 2010, before the merger of the second and third books at that time, being able to be admitted to such a university can be regarded as adding a lot of luster to his parents, and he was born in a rural area and was at the top of his class in primary and junior high schoolis low-key, usually doesn't cause trouble and talks less, is a good child,Even when I went to the high school in the county, I ranked well in the classNever let my parents worry about it.
Since there was no one to guide at the time, the university chose a major in "tourism management".But he is not good at words, and since he graduated in 2014, he has not made much money, and three or four thousand a month is the norm. In the past few years of the epidemic, this industry has been even more difficult, so although it has been almost ten years since graduation, there is no house, car, and not much savings.
In previous years,Because of the nature of the work, he needs to run out often, and he has no fixed place, and the local girl is unwilling to drift away from his hometown, and he is introverted, and the girl from other places has not been found, and the marriage event will be delayed. His parents also let him go home to work, so that it was easy to contact the girls in the family and have the possibility of getting alongHowever, his profession has no counterpart in the countrysideThe work that can be done when you come back is no different from that of junior high school and high school students, and because of the lack of experience, they are even inferior to these people who have not gone to college.
Looking at him in his thirties, his parents finally forced him home and began to arrange blind dates frequently. At first, he was still resistant, but then he couldn't stand the urging of his parents and matchmakers, and started the blind date, but after the blind date,Either they think he's old, or they think he's too introverted, they don't make any money, or they think his ideas don't fit in with the countrysidewas rejected again and again, and his heart went from being reluctant to go on a blind date at the beginning, to beginning to doubt his ability, and his parents and matchmakers also began to persuade him to let go of his requirements, from a bachelor's degree to a high school and junior high school degree, from not being older than him to being one to two years older.
Lowering the requirements did not solve the problem of finding a partner for him, and his parents were even more anxious, so they began to entrust the matchmaker to find a matchmaker who could have a baby as long as it was a woman, and his parents had two purposes for finding a partner for him - to have someone to live with his son in the future and continue the incense for their family. Without his knowledge, he was arranged to go on a blind date with a divorced woman with children for the second time, but in the end, after learning the news that he was not in the picture, his self-confidence was completely shattered, and he never went on a blind date with any girl from then on, no matter what he said.
His parents even said that maybe he didn't get admitted to college, my family can still continue the incense, and he went to college and put his family away, which seems to be a kind of regret for his son to be admitted to college.
After hearing about this, I can't help but think that there seems to be some truth to it, at least this is indeed a phenomenon that exists among ordinary families and ordinary college students in rural areas. In many rural areas, highly educated people often face more difficulties in finding a partner. This is not to say that they don't have the opportunity to find a partner, but that they often need more time and effort to adapt and find a suitable partner relative to the local cultural and social environment. At the same time, those with lower educational qualifications may have formed a relatively stable state of life because they entered society earlier and married earlier, so that they can be more prosperous in terms of population reproduction. The higher the education, the more single people are, and there may be the following reasons:
First of all,From a social point of view, with the improvement of education level, people's academic qualifications have also increased, which has led to an overall trend of increasing the number of people with high academic qualifications. At the same time, with the development of the economy and the improvement of living standards, people's needs for marriage and family life are also changing, and more people are beginning to pursue personal achievement and freedom, rather than getting married and having children early. This social change has provided the conditions for an increase in the number of older singles.
Secondly,On an individual level, people with higher educational qualifications tend to focus more on personal development and self-realization, and they are more willing to devote their time and energy to their studies and careers rather than looking for a partner. In addition, as their academic qualifications improve, people's social circles become more fixed and limited, which makes it more difficult for them to meet the right people. At the same time, highly educated people tend to have higher requirements for their partners, which makes it more difficult for them to find the right person.
In addition,Some highly educated women may be reluctant to compromise or lower their standards easily because of their high expectations of marriage and family life, which may also lead to them being relatively passive in the marriage market. In addition, some highly educated people may have social impairments or emotional insecurities that cause them to have difficulty interacting with others.
From the pride of the countryside and the glory of the parents, to now becoming the talk of relatives and neighbors after dinner, so that the parents can't raise their heads, and even be counted down by their parents, they don't seem to have done anything wrong, but they seem to be so alternative, so lonely, and so worried about their parents in the countrysideDoes this phenomenon exist around you?In the face of the strange phenomenon that "people with high academic qualifications from rural areas are not easy to find a partner, and those with low academic qualifications are prosperous", what kind of solution is there to solve it?