The path of wisdom after graduating from junior high school The success story of my capable brother-in-law
My sister is six years younger than me and her husband is three years older. Their marriage was actually brokered by my uncle. Both of us live in the same village, separated by only three or four families.
At that time, in the early 90s, my brother-in-law was working in a factory affiliated with a university in Shanghai. He works in the factory, is not beaten by wind and rain all the year round, is in good condition, and looks like a scholar. He had been in the big city and had a lot of knowledge, which was very different from us rural boys. And my sister hasn't arrived in the county yet, she is a simple rural girl. Such a handsome guy, of course my sister was fascinated.
My uncle saw that my sister had a crush on my brother-in-law, so he mentioned it to my parents. My father was hesitant, and my mother was worried that my sister would be bullied at my aunt's house. Moreover, my brother-in-law's house is a little far away from us, and my mother also finds it inconvenient. But my sister is a stubborn person, and once she decides, no one can persuade her. The path she chooses naturally has to bear the consequences by herself, and even if she encounters difficulties in the future, she will never come back to beg for water.
At the beginning, my sister went on a hunger strike**. Although her parents didn't think about it at first, her father was worried that she was starving, so he persuaded her mother. In the end, the mother reluctantly agreed to the family affair. My sister was only 21 years old when she got married, and soon after she got married, she began to live separately from my brother-in-law. My brother-in-law works in Shanghai and can only go home occasionally.
My brother-in-law is good at socializing and making friends, and often takes out part of his salary to entertain and give gifts, and even participates in various dinners. He was able to deal with people skillfully, and some people who had nothing to do with him turned into friends after being close to him.
While I don't approve of his flattery, I have to admit that his methods did work and brought him practical benefits. With only his junior high school education, how could he be the head of a small department in a company like Shanghai?He also often boasted that he was in charge of some college students.
Before the Chinese New Year, my brother-in-law would always ask my sister to pickle all kinds of pickled vegetables, and also buy hometown specialties, tobacco and alcohol. When he returns to Shanghai, he will prepare New Year's gifts according to the positions of his colleagues, and he will not be stingy even with those who enter the company later than him. His approach was very popular in the company, and no one complained about him at work. In addition to his salary, he also received a lot of income through other means, and our family's economy improved as a result. 
For many years, my brother-in-law was busy maintaining relationships, not only at work, but also in his hometown. At the end of the year, their family is always busy, giving gifts and giving love scenes, whether it is to give gifts to the elders, mourn relatives and friends, or visit the sick, they are always duty-bound. Sometimes the schedules collide together, and the two have to go separately to different occasions, even if they are not in the venue, they are never absent. They have always been very generous and have been giving money to others for many years, which has made them well-connected and well-known in their hometown.
When my nephew was about to graduate from elementary school, my brother-in-law bought a house with all the money so that his children could get a better education, and we didn't even know it at the time. I was really impressed by this wayward spending of money.
However, my nephew's academic performance was mediocre. In order to get him into the best local middle school, my brother-in-law spent a lot of money, and finally even asked the county magistrate's secretary to help him get in, and he paid an extra fee, and even did not have a receipt. At that time, 20,000 yuan was not a small amount in 2009, and it was quite a considerable amount of money for an ordinary migrant worker like me. As soon as the middle school where he studied was arranged, my sister handed over all the land in the family to my uncle to concentrate on accompanying her studies and taking care of her nephew.
However, almost all of the classmates in my nephew's class are related people. After entering this school, he was affected badly, began to smoke, drink, skip class, fight and other problems in an endless stream. Frequent violations of school rules eventually led to him being ordered to drop out of school, and my brother-in-law had to go out in person, and after many rounds of maneuvering, he barely managed to keep his school status, but he only avoided dropping out of school and was placed on probation.
After graduating from junior high school, my nephew was stuffed into an ordinary high school. However, he was reluctant to go to school soon after because he could not understand the lessons and could not adapt. Although he did not continue his studies, my brother-in-law paid for all the school expenses one by one, his student status was retained, and he also "smoothly" completed high school with the graduation of other classmates.
My brother-in-law has always regarded himself as the elder of the extended family, and he is extremely concerned about family affairs, and he does not hesitate to spend money and contribute, not only for the sake of a good name, but also for his own vanity. However, such a character has also made him a wronged leader many times. His brothers knew he was capable, and they left it to their own devices, unwilling to participate.
My brother-in-law was very generous to the family, but very clear to the others. During the Chinese New Year, I gave my father red envelopes, and my sister gave my nephew less than one-third of the amount she gave to other godfathers and godmothers. For fathers-in-law and mothers-in-law, it is only a courtesy.
After my mother passed away in 2009, my family moved to the city where I worked, and we didn't return until the end of the year. However, when my sister greeted my father for the New Year, the New Year's gift to my father was only 200 yuan, and she did not buy other gifts. My father and I each gave my nephew 100 yuan, which is equivalent to a whole year, and my sister's expenditure on my father did not exceed 100 yuan.
In 2011, I was planning to buy a house in the city, and when I borrowed money from my sister, she was even hesitant. Eventually, she agreed to lend me 5,000 yuan, and I didn't ask for that money until I made the down payment. Later, after my father's repeated persuasion, I accepted the money. And after my sister learned about my borrowing money, she also lent 20,000 yuan to others, which made me speechless.
It's quite possible that someone thinks I'm a bit mean and can't stand my brother-in-law's kindness to others, but he doesn't owe me anything. That's right, I admit that my brother-in-law has never asked me for anything over the years, and he probably thinks that this is the way I am going to be in my life, and I won't be productive, so there is no need to spend energy or money on me. Our relationship has always been cold, except for the greetings when we meet, there is little communication. He never called my dad or me, and I never reached out to him.
Every year during the Spring Festival, my brother-in-law and sister would come to pay New Year's greetings to my father, but after dinner, he always urged my sister to go home, and every time. I thought that if my father was gone, he would never set foot in our house again, and he would never have any contact with me again. Let him be, he doesn't treat me as a brother-in-law, and I've never really considered him a brother-in-law.
My brother-in-law has been with his current company for a long time, almost 30 years. The factory moved twice, from downtown Shanghai to the seaside, and he also moved. His old leaders have retired one after another, and he no longer has any extra income. Now the new leader of the company wants to curry favor, but he has not been able to do so. In the past, he was a mess in the company, but now he not only has to work, but also has to work two shifts. The work is getting busier, but the income is getting less and less.
He is 54 years old this year. When I was young, in order to build relationships, I always participated in various banquets and drank desperately. Now he not only has high blood pressure, but also high blood sugar, but as soon as he arrives at the wine table, he still drinks hard regardless of his body, and he can't stop it at all.
My nephew is almost 30 years old, and he hasn't worked well all these years, but he is very good at pleasure, has high taste, and always buys expensive things. His wife was chased by my brother-in-law with money. At that time, the marriage was negotiated, and the other party's family asked for a bride price of 60,006, and my brother-in-law directly gave 100,000 8, saying that this sounded better. After marrying into my sister's family, she hardly did housework except for giving birth to a child, only knew how to spend money, and the child was taken care of by my sister.
My nephew often asks my sister for money, and he gets used to it. A few years ago, my brother-in-law's income decreased, and the family expenses were already much higher than the average person, and it was not as easy for my nephew to ask my sister for money as before. He started taking out loans on his mobile phone, but he borrowed more and more until he couldn't repay it, and then he confessed to my sister.
When my brother-in-law found out about his son, he was so angry that he almost **, and directly asked my sister to leave him to fend for himself. But my sister only has this one son, how can she not care?She borrowed money from relatives and friends, and she cried and told me that she had borrowed money from others for most of her life, but she didn't expect to have to ask others for help when she was old!
Luckily, our relatives were very helpful and helpful. I gave my sister 50,000 yuan as soon as possible. Eventually, we filled the hole in my nephew's hole, but our family's savings were basically empty, and the debt had not been paid off. But my brother-in-law is still the same, as long as he drinks two glasses of wine, he forgets everything, and boasts, as if the bank is run by his family, as if he can do everything in his hometown.
This is my brother-in-law. In the eyes of the people in their village and ours, he is a somewhat capable person. Compared to his peers, my brother-in-law is indeed well-informed, and he has walked well along the way. All I can say is that I have taken different paths from him, and everyone has their own opinion on what others think.