In ancient times, people's lives were very different from today's. At that time, although people's lives were simple, they rarely had the troubles and pressures of today. In the tranquility of the countryside, the old people often talk about common sayings, which not only enrich their lives, but also avoid contradictions.
Neighbors don't pay each other, relatives don't leave", this old adage is still applicable today. But in the countryside, there is also a popular saying: "Distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors". There is a deep truth in this sentence.
Therefore, people in rural areas need to pay attention to the relationship with their neighbors and relatives in their daily life to avoid conflicts. Next, let's delve into the connotation of this ancient admonition.
We should stay away from our neighbors who are immoral. People have to deal with all kinds of people every day, and a good neighbor can guide you through the maze and avoid detours. However, we should avoid associating with neighbors who are of bad character and who do not hesitate to harm others for their own selfish gain.
There is a reason why these unscrupulous neighbors behave the way they do. If a family associate with people of bad character, it is easy for them to assimilate and be despised by others. And associating with such a neighbor is a great hurt to feelings. If a family frequently has conflicts with bad neighbors, it is easy to get into trouble and feel stressed. Therefore, when we encounter such neighbors, we should stay away as soon as possible. They are too selfish and have a very bad influence on the family.
We should also keep our distance from our gossiping neighbours. In the countryside, gossip is commonplace, and people are happy to share gossip. However, some neighbors gossip too much and use other people's privacy as a talking point, which can easily lead to misunderstandings. Once a misunderstanding is formed, it is difficult to dispel it. Therefore, in our daily lives, we should try to avoid associating with such people, who are not trustworthy. And a neighbor who likes to gossip is not only not conducive to the harmonious development of neighborhood relations, but also will make other people's privacy public and destroy the relationship between them.
We should keep our distance from our relatives who hate the poor and love the rich. As the saying goes: "No one asks about the poor in the downtown area, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains." This quote reveals a cruel truth: some relatives will choose to be distant or close because of the advantages and disadvantages of family conditions. When a family falls into poverty, those relatives who hate the poor and love the rich often choose to sit idly by;And when the family is wealthy, they will come to the stammering enthusiastically. Therefore, for such relatives, we should keep a certain distance so as not to be harmed by them.
Relatives who have no one in sight are also not worth associating. They think very highly of themselves and look down on others. If you fall one day, you will find that those relatives who were once pretentious have left you. They may even fall into the trap and disregard the feelings of others for their own benefit. There is no point in associating with such people and it only makes people more frustrated.
Ungrateful relatives are likewise forbidden. If you suddenly become close to a relative, be wary. They may betray you for their own benefit. When you have money and power, they will smile at you;And when you're frustrated, they'll sneer at you. Therefore, it is necessary to be cautious and careful in associating with such relatives. In this society where profit is paramount, no one can predict what will happen in the next second.
The above is my interpretation of the rural proverb that I share with you. Although these sayings are a little outdated, they contain the wisdom and experience of life summarized by predecessors, and are valuable assets that have stood the test of time. People who have lived in rural areas are well aware of the connotation of these sayings, but in modern society, we should also keep pace with the times and look at problems from the perspective of development, so as to better adapt to the development and progress of the times. At the same time, we must also understand that although many sayings have their own reasonableness, it does not mean that they are all infallible, and we must learn to think independently and not blindly superstitious!