As the saying goes: close neighbors are better than distant relatives, which shows the importance of having friendly neighbors. However, not all neighbors are worthy of our association, and some may cause us annoyance and even affect the living experience. The same applies to kinship. The ancients said: "Neighbors don't make friends, relatives don't leave", what does this sentence mean?Let's find out.
1. Neighbors don't pay.
1. Don't make friends with neighbors who love to tell right and wrong.
When it comes to interpersonal communication, being honest with each other is paramount. Only by being sincere with others can we gain the sincerity of others. However, if you meet someone who likes to tell the truth, even if you are sincere with them, they will spread rumors or fan the flames **We should try to stay away from such neighbors, because no one wants the news of their family affairs to be spread. If you associate with such neighbors, any small things in the family will be exaggerated and spread by them, and in the long run, it will affect the image of the family.
2. Don't make friends with neighbors with bad family style.
It is difficult to change a person's family style, and associating with neighbors with poor family style can have a bad effect on us. To survive in society, we must correct our family style. The ancients paid great attention to family style, and even left family mottos, family rules, etc. However, now these good deeds and virtues have gradually disappeared.
Second, relatives do not leave.
1. Do not go to relatives who seek benefits and avoid harm.
There will always be some mercenary people in society. If you associate with such people, they will treat you according to your current situation. If you're doing well and you're of value to them, they'll be enthusiastic about you. If you don't have value for them, they will ignore you or even disappear when you need help or borrow money.
2. Don't go to ungrateful relatives.
Gratitude is the most important virtue of a person. The older generation often said: "The grace of a drop of water should be reciprocated by a spring", this sentence is not empty talk, but should really be done. If we help someone and they don't give anything in return, or even double-up, it's sad for everyone. Relatives like this can not move around if they are wealthy, and try to avoid contact.
3. Don't go to relatives who hate the poor and love the rich.
We often come into contact with some relatives who hate the poor and love the rich, but in fact, it is not necessary to contact them, and most of this behavior is driven by human nature. The drive for money is enormous, and as long as you are particularly rich, all morals and past mistakes will be left behind. They will flatter you and try to please you, but once you lose your wealth or get into trouble, they will sneer at you and even ostracize you. Relatives like this, we should stay away early and try to avoid contact.
It can be said that the fact that neighbors and relatives do not make friends shows the importance of carefully choosing who we associate with in our social relationships. Having friendly neighbors can enhance harmony and help each other, but if you encounter neighbors who are prone to telling the truth and have a bad family style, you should stay away from them to protect your family image and living experience.
In the same way, in kinship, we also need to choose the relatives with whom we are associated. Relatives who do not seek advantage and avoid harm are those who only look at personal gain and ignore gratitude and reward, and associating with them will only put themselves in a situation of being taken advantage of. Ungrateful relatives are those who do not respond to our help or even double down on it, and associating with them only hurts their feelings and dignity. Relatives who do not dislike the poor and love the rich are those who flatter us only when we are rich, and are indifferent or even reject us when we are poor or in trouble, and associating with them will only make our wealth a tool for them.
Therefore, in order to maintain good social relationships and a pleasant life, we should avoid socializing with the aforementioned bad neighbors and relatives and instead choose to connect with people who are genuinely friendly and share common values. In this way, we can get support and help from our families and communities to create a harmonious and livable environment.