Zhang Ailing once elaborated on this view: "When you smile, the whole universe will smile for you;."And when you cry, you cry alone. ”
Women's struggles in this world are very relentless, and they need more wisdom and courage to pursue the life they desire.
Women in war-torn environments face even greater challenges. Not only do they want to protect their lives from threats, but they also want to be able to protect their children and love, but sometimes things don't go the way they expect.
In the literary work "Cliff", Gu Qiuyan put forward a very basic idea: only when her husband is by her side can children grow up healthily. "This request is very correct. However, in times of war, both of these demands are extremely difficult, and they struggle to move forward in the face of danger, and eventually there will always be people who die and others who choose to stay.
Zhou Yi's death aroused a large number of public outrage, and many people speculated that Gu Qiuyan's actions led to his death, but what is the real situation?
When she watched "The Cliff" again, she realized that Gu Qiuyan insisted that Sasha stay with her, not only because of her selfishness, but also because her husband had caused her harm.
For women, the time spent with their husbands is the most precious, as opposed to spending more than six years in the same house with a completely unfamiliar person. It is also a very rare experience for a man. To the children, the people in this house feel like their relatives, but they all know that everyone has their own significant other.
Feelings are not built instantaneously, and they deepen over time. Feelings are a complex and subtle thing, they are not as easy to detect and grasp as money, but once they are detected, they can become very vulnerable. Gu Qiuyan and Zhou Yi have always been committed to managing and controlling the relationship between them. In the process of their relationship, they both feel the change and growth of each other. They went from being polite at first to being free in front of each other, thanks to the challenges and heartwarming moments they spent together.
They share common beliefs and pursuits, and Sasha becomes their two beloved children, which keeps their hearts and minds tightly connected.
In the depths of Gu Qiuyan's heart, she always hopes to meet her husband again. She knew that her husband had great difficulties at work, but she was unwilling to give up his career. From the first month of her pregnancy, she began to work alone with Zhou Yi on various tasks, and until the birth of her child, her husband did not have extra time to visit her. Because he is one of the best salespeople in the company, he also works hard, but because the company's performance is not good, he always procrastinates. In such a situation, Gu Qiuyan had to face it alone.
When Zhou Yi went to visit Gu Qiuyan, who had just given birth, he found a special scene:
Zhou Yi froze as soon as he walked in the door, and in the room, there was a baby crying.
Gu Qiuyan sat on the kang, giving people the feeling of confinement, her hair was scattered, she was wearing slippers, and she was holding a baby tightly, looking very embarrassed.
Gu Qiuyan comforted the crying child and told him, "I peed, peed again, give me the diaper."
Zhou Yi stared at it for quite a long time, and then let out a "Heaven!.""The voice!After two words, he took out a note from his pocket. These words!That was his last word. ”
Zhou Yi's comment on Gu Qiuyan was: Your current appearance really reminds people of a yellow-faced woman.
Gu Qiuyan is not only a lady from a prominent family, but also Zhou Yi's spouse, and she has always lived a remarkable life. However, to everyone's surprise, after giving birth to a child, she behaved so indifferent to her social image.
A woman's transformation in the process of growing up often begins with the development of her children, and she is willing to face a lot of things that should not happen for the sake of her children's future, even if it means that she may become like a yellow-faced woman.
At night, both of them were lying on the kang, and there was a baby on the bed, and Zhou Yi elaborated on this opinion: I don't tend to share a room with other women except for my spouse. I feel that if we live well together, then I can enjoy everything I do well. After all these years, I feel the most guilty about my wife and children, I really don't feel like a sincere husband.
Gu Qiuyan's heart was deeply moved: Don't I have a similar emotional experience?His parents are ordinary teachers, and they go to work every day, and when they come back from work, they have to take their children to and from school together, and rarely go home. I think he probably worked in the mountains, as his parents both taught books there. However, he had to go to the city to work.
Pingru has not seen her biological father since her child came into this world, so she has not left the mountains for a long time. However, I still remember that day, I saw a back, I saw that figure, it was my favorite person, a person I used to admire so much, a person I wanted to get to know him. Alas, I don't want to mention him anymore, and every time I mention him, I can't help but want to cry.
Then, he cast a brief look at Zhou Yi and said: It is impossible for the two of us to live like this forever
Zhou Yi told her: Are you starting to feel scared?
Gu Qiuyan: Aren't you scared?After a few years, I felt like I was getting old.
There is no woman who is not afraid of aging, and there is no woman who really wants to be a yellow-faced woman.
When Zhou Yi walked to the place where Sun Yuejian was to pick up the transmitter, Sun Yuejian asked Zhou Yi out of curiosity: "How does my hair look after grooming."
During those days, Sun Yuejian was a widow and had the responsibility of raising her children, but her personal circumstances did not allow her to dress too luxuriously. In order not to let others see her beauty, she chose a simple and low-key lifestyle - dressed simply but elegantly. When she finally had the opportunity to meet the people she loved, she still longed to show more beauty.
They are all women, and they all want to be reunited with their husbands as soon as possible, but they can only endure in silence for the sake of their faith.
When Gu Qiuyan met her husband again, her heart was filled with joy, but the words that her husband said hurt her feelings.
When the two were about to break up, Zhang Pingru expressed it like this:
Qiu Yan, I really hope that you can live a carefree life without any form of restrictions. As long as your mood is pleasant, I am fully capable of understanding your feelings. Lao Zhou is a very kind person, you should treat him well. ”
Zhang Pingru mistakenly thought that Gu Qiuyan and Zhou Yi were already a couple, and told her that she didn't have to bear too much pressure, but she didn't realize that Gu Qiuyan had been waiting by his side for so many years.
After Gu Qiuyan heard these words, tears flowed uncontrollably, and her husband couldn't even really understand what she was feeling in her heart. He can't tolerate an emotional existence between men and women that goes beyond the scope of love, and it is difficult for everyone else to understand this except for him and Zhou Yi.
In fact, women do not have high expectations, they just want their partners to understand and be considerate of them, and they are willing to accept them willingly, no matter how much hardship and fatigue they have experienced.
She initially thought that her husband would understand her, that it was the best solace for her, and that she had not wasted her years of sanity.
Before successfully rescuing Sun Yuejian, Zhou Yi specially went to visit Gu Qiuyan. She was depressed, didn't talk much, and even her eyes became very glazed, as if she only had a smile when she was crying. Gu Qiuyan's general health was extremely poor, giving people a feeling of extreme loss and exhaustion, as if she had completely changed into a completely different person. When Zhou Yi mentioned that he was going to leave with his child, Gu Qiuyan was extremely excited.
For me personally, such a choice is simply too heartless. Have you ever thought deeply about how I feel inside?For the past six years, it has been my children who have allowed me to grit my teeth and move on with determination, because I now have nothing to rely on but my children. ”
Zhou Yi advised her to stay calm.
Gu Qiuyan's emotions suddenly became very excited, and she said, "I'm sane?."Why am I so sane?What the hell have I gained for all these years of sanity?”
Gu Qiuyan and Zhou Yi have spent more than six years together, and Zhou Yi has become her family and dependence. In her mind, Zhou Yi is definitely Sasha's biological father.
After successfully rescuing Sun Yuejian, Zhou Yi decided to reunite with his family. In the process, she discovers that her husband also has an inexplicable attachment and love for his daughter, but this emotion has gradually faded with time. After six years, her home unexpectedly disappeared, her husband lost all trust in her, and now she is left with Sasha.
When Zhou Yi was about to leave, Gu Qiuyan suddenly hugged him tightly and kissed him lightly on the cheek. He didn't respond, just looked at her silently. Then, she turned around, then turned away. The moment Gu Qiuyan turned around, her eyes were full of tears, and her heart was full of attachment to this man and his deep emotions.
Now, Zhou Yi is no longer around, and the people around Gu Qiuyan are Sasha, and she will never give up easily.
If Zhang Pingru, Gu Qiuyan's husband, can understand her or give her some hope, I believe Gu Qiuyan's heart is still full of expectations.
Sasha also expressed her willingness to accept Zhou Yi, hoping to reunite with her family after the victory and live a happy life without barriers. Despite this, Zhang Pingru's attitude towards her left her feeling frustrated and lost, and she preferred to spend the rest of her life with Sasha.
A woman's pursuit of happiness is not only her personal desire, but also the support and satisfaction of men.
Gu Qiuyan's inner confusion was because of her husband's misunderstanding, while Zhou Yi was troubled because she couldn't control her feelings.
Because he felt deep guilt for Sun Yuejian and her children, he didn't dare to face them squarely, coupled with his strong reluctance to Gu Qiuyan and her children, which prompted him to decide to embark on the path of moving forward again.
He is neither willing to turn his back on the women and children around him, nor can he make the best of both worlds, so he can only follow his own decisions.
The core of the problem is not Gu Qiuyan's selfish behavior, but human nature is inherently selfish.
Zhou Yi showed outstanding performance in the process of performing the task, which can be said to be indestructible, but in terms of emotional choice, he did not meet the standard of perfection because he was just an ordinary person.
Xu Fan once commented on her husband Feng Xiaogang: "If a person is perfect, then he is not a person." A person has both strengths and weaknesses, this is the real person, and there is no such thing as a person without shortcomings. ”
Each person is a unique entity, and we always remain who we are, whether we have a partner or not. In this process, we need to do a lot of things to change ourselves, but these changes are ultimately done by self-control. When you can't manage your emotions, your mental stability can take a hit. When you can't control your emotions, you can also become vulnerable on the inside, because you know that if you can't control yourself, then you risk losing others. Therefore, no matter what decision Zhou Yi makes, he always tends to support the other party.
If it weren't for the fact that Gu Qiuyan and Zhou Yi had already entered the palace of marriage, if it weren't for the fact that they lived in an environment full of war. However, there is no such thing as an "if" in life.