Hello book friends, welcome to continue to be a guest in the reading circle of little scholars, today we continue this book, Fan Four Training. Yesterday we talked about the study of life, that is, if you want to change your life against the sky, you must first change your current Xi and plant new flowers in order to produce new fruits. In a dark valley, as long as the light shines in, the darkness can be removed. Good and evil have long been revealed in people's hearts, but those with a mellow temperament often bring blessings, while those with a mean temperament often invite evil.
Lay people are often blinded by various prejudices and cannot see the truth, so they are unaware of the omen and ** of fortune. However, the reality is often that only a sincere heart can be in harmony with nature and thus usher in blessings. In other words, the auspicious omen has already been revealed, and we only need to carefully observe his words and deeds to preliminarily figure out the direction of his fate.
Therefore, the first step in changing one's destiny is to correct one's own mistakes. Specifically, there are two things to keep in mind: First, have self-esteem. In the eyes of the sages, self-esteem is an important measure of whether a person is qualified or not. The reason why saints are called saints is because they know how to control themselves, know honor and disgrace, and distinguish between right and wrong. On the other hand, people who lack self-esteem often indulge their own nature, sacrifice their moral conscience, and become like animals.
Second, build a sense of awe. Between heaven and earth, there are gods three feet away. Even in places where people can't see, there is a mysterious force watching over us. When we have this awareness, we will understand the true meaning of the proverb: Do not stretch out your hand, and you will be caught. The establishment of a sense of awe will never leave us to chance. This is especially important in the investment market. If we lose our reverence for the market, it will be difficult for us to wake up when we encounter a fiasco. We often mistakenly think that we can seize opportunities and make more profits, but we don't know that this will only put us at greater risk. For example, those who lend money on real estate are a sign of a lack of reverence. Once discovered, the consequences are unimaginable.
In addition, we need to remind ourselves that the mistakes of the past are irreparable, and only by correcting them in time can we move towards a better future. As the proverb goes, "Reform as soon as possible, enlightenment as soon as possible." It is only when we realize that we have made a mistake and take immediate action that it is possible to correct the mistake. Otherwise, mistakes will stay with us throughout our lives and hinder our progress.
Finally, we need to have the courage to face fear and hardship. Many times, we are unable to correct our mistakes simply because we lack the courage to try. For example, if we Xi staying up late every day, and suddenly one day we are told that we have to go to bed early and get up early, we may feel very uncomfortable. Similarly, if we eat excessively and are suddenly told that we have to control our diet, we may be very resistant.
We all need to have enough courage to face these difficulties. Whether it's a small thing or a big thing, we should face it bravely. But in practice, this is a very difficult thing to do. Therefore, we need to keep working hard and constantly improve our courage and perseverance in order to go further on the road of life. When we have shame, reverence, and courage, we can correct mistakes, just as the ice melts in the sun in spring. However, this is not an easy thing to do, and there are some things that we need to fundamentally change, and we must really think clearly about the interests so that we can correct them in a real sense. We used to give examples, just like people who are born with a love of sugar, no matter how hard they try, they can't get rid of diabetes, and they won't correct it immediately until they really feel the pain, which is why the correction becomes so fast. And in trading, the same goes for a stop loss, if he foresees a 20% drop and now even if he loses 10%, he will not hesitate to stop the loss, even if the loss may be just a little bit. But the most troublesome thing is that we can't accurately estimate future losses, so it is difficult to judge the gains and losses, and it is difficult to correct mistakes.
The same is true of human nature, we often make mistakes because of our self-righteousness, and it is not until we are taught that we truly understand our mistakes. The author once met a driving maniac who insisted on driving proudly over the speed limit, only to nearly die in a serious car accident, and since then, he has never exceeded 80 yards again. It can be seen that sometimes, we have to accept the lessons of reality and accept the cruelty of life in order to truly understand how to correct our mistakes.
That's why we must not only be aware of our mistakes, but also truly understand how they affect us, and even pay the price, so that we can truly correct our mistakes and become a more responsible person. Just like an investment class we once attended, although the lecturer tried hard to make everyone understand the truth, it was often ignored by those who were stubborn. They turned a blind eye and blindly bought some garbage that seemed to be priceless, only to end up with deep regret and disappointment, and finally remembered to ask me for help. There are so many people who do not listen to dissuasion, pursue so-called "freedom" and "risk-taking", do not even think about their own financial security, have three debts at the same time, and not only that, but are also obstinate, unwilling to adjust their plans. In this case, it is not difficult to correct the mistake, as long as you see a crisis that may lead to tragic consequences, you can prevent and correct it in time. However, sometimes the situation can be very tricky, and there is absolutely no indication of the existence of a risk. At this time, no matter how much you remind him, he is just unwilling to change, or he simply does not realize the seriousness of the problem. This is like the "foreseeable cost problem" in economics, and if you want to change your mistakes, you need to start from the bottom of your heart, because all mistakes are caused by delusions in the heart, such as greed, lust, anger, worry, etc. Only when he realizes his mistakes and really wants to correct them can he really change. If he doesn't realize the problem, then no matter how much you try to persuade him, it's useless. Sometimes, I get angry about these things, but I always tell myself that no matter what happens, I have to control my emotions and not let myself be affected by the outside world. I can't stop people from losing my temper with me, however, I can choose to control my behavior and not let my emotions be affected. Once you stop letting emotions occupy your mind, your brain is free to think of solutions. When eroded by emotions, there is no way to solve the problem.
The book is very short, in fact, just over 10,000 words, but it is thought-provoking. He also told a lot of simple truths. We always say that one life, two luck, three feng shui, four accumulation of yin virtue and five reading, this thing of life is the cause you planted before, if you want to change your life against the sky, you must change that cause. So you have to think carefully, what is the reason for my life to fall into this predicament?What behavioral Xi should I change to break the game?Finally, we emphasize that only by correcting mistakes can you make progress, not how much truth you understand. Good luck to all.