Marriage is a very important thing in a woman's life. A good marriage will make a woman happy for a lifetime, and an unhappy marriage will bring a lifetime of disaster to a woman. Men are afraid of choosing the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man. Therefore, before a woman gets married, she must understand whether the man is a person worthy of being entrusted for life. How many women have unfortunately met a scumbag when choosing a mate, due to their lack of emotional experience, which eventually leads to emotional failure and lifelong regret.
In fact, many women are unhappy after marriage because they don't know the man thoroughly and don't know what his real character isAlthough two people are in love, in the process of falling in love, men often disguise themselves and deliberately show the good side in order to gain the favor of women. For some women with low emotional intelligence and annoyance, it is impossible to identify this man's character.
Because women are emotional, many times they will ignore a lot of details because they are moved for a while, and they will marry a man hastily without carefully observing the man.
As everyone knows, marriage and love are actually two different things. Falling in love is an emotional experience, and at this stage, two people can enjoy the sweetness and romance of love to the fullest. However, when the two decide to get married, they are faced with a more complicated lifestyle. So, love and marriage are two different concepts.
In order to avoid being unladylike, I want to know thoroughly whether this man's character is really good?So, you have to go back to his house with him, meet his parents, spend some time with him, and you know the answer.
Of course, here is a reminder: not to ask you to see the economic conditions of his family, but to let you know the other side of his family.
Attitude towards family members
Whether a person's character is good or not, we have to look at his original family situation. Most harmonious families must have a good upbringing. But a family that is not in harmony must also have a great impact on children. If it is said that in his family, he respects his elders and treats his family gently, then it means that he has had a good education and literacy since he was a child.
On the contrary, if the family is not harmonious, it will also create a temper of this man, and he will be very irritable with his family. Because it is the family environment that affects his growth and creates his temperament and character.
See if he is a filial old man. As the saying goes: filial piety comes first, a man, if he is filial to his parents, then his heart will not be so bad. If he is not even polite to his own parents, do you think he is polite to people who are not related to him?
Whether or not they take the initiative to take on household chores
Whether a man is diligent or not, from the details. If he takes the initiative to do housework at home, it means that he has received a good education since he was a child. Because this is a Xi, not a superficial effort. If he is a lazy person, he will show his true face at home and will not take the initiative to do these chores.
To look at people, we must look at a person from some Xi. Good Xi habits do not happen overnight, and he can take the initiative to do these household chores, proving that he has this Xi habit.
Some men, when pursuing you, will behave like a diligent look. But at home, his true nature will be revealed.
Whether you get along well with your neighbors
When you go to his home, you have to see if he has a friendly relationship with the neighbors. From childhood to adulthood, is a person's moral character good?You have to see what the neighbors say about him.
If the neighbors see him, they will have a lot of words and greetings, which means that this person also gets along well with the people in the village, and his conduct is also good, and he is deeply liked by the people in the village.
On the other hand, if the person grows up unwelcome, rude to others, or does all kinds of bad things, then he must be disgusted by his neighbors.
Whether the circle is clean or not
Some men may not have many friends outside, and you don't know his social circle when you are with you. But when you get home, you'll definitely find out.
If he is the kind of person who goes back, he will find someone to play cards and drink, and greet some pig friends and dog friends, then his circle of friends is not clean, and what kind of person he is with, he is a person of what kind of character.
On the contrary, if he entertains some more practical friends, does not go out to play, or chats and drinks tea at home, then it means that his circle is relatively clean.
Xi of life
The last point is the most important: it is to look at his Xi habits.
He has lived in this home for more than twenty years, and his life Xi is impossible to disguise, and he can show it without cover at home. At this time, you should pay careful attention and observe, because his life Xi will directly affect the lives of the two of you in the future.
Whether you can accept it or not, you have to look at his Xi, not after getting married, you come to complain about how he is such a person?Why are there so many shortcomings?You can't accept it.
Write at the end
In fact, when a woman marries a man, it mainly depends on the character of the other party. Poor economic conditions are not important, as long as the character is good and self-motivated, economic conditions can be created by two people. But if the man's character is not good, then after marriage, there will be a lot of friction in life, which will make the two people haggard.
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Emotional Mentor Yi Chunhan: Focus on the emotional interpretation of marriage and be the most faithful listener of your emotions.