I have heard a true story about a lady whose parents-in-law wanted to pay for a car for them, but were strongly opposed by the lady's father, leaving the lady in a dilemma.
They have been married for a year, and neither of them has yet to get a driver's license, nor did they buy a car when they got married.
The mother-in-law offered to buy a new car for the young couple, which made the lady excited. But the in-laws said that they only had 100,000 yuan, so the young couple also paid 100,000 yuan, so that buying a 200,000 yuan car would also be beautiful. But the in-laws have to drive the car first, and then return the car to them when the young couple learns the driver's license and can drive.
This lady felt that her in-laws' proposal was very good, and it was also love, and it was also for the good of the young couple. But the lady and the young couple don't have 100,000 yuan in their hands at the moment, so they thought of using the dowry money when they got married, and the dowry money happened to be 100,000.
However, the dowry money given to her by the lady's father was 100,000 yuan, and the passbook and password were not given to her, and the ownership and control were still in the hands of her father, and her father said that he would give it to her when she needed the money.
Therefore, the lady discussed with her father to collect the dowry money to buy a car, and said that the new car should be written in her name.
What the lady didn't expect was that her proposal was strongly opposed by her father. Her father said that the dowry money would only be given to her if it was spent where he thought it was right, and he thought that the price of buying a car would drop now, and that it would be a great loss to pay for the car and make it public. Her father also said that if her in-laws really wanted to pay for them to buy a car, then they would buy a car for 100,000 yuan if they had 100,000 yuan, so why do they have to pay for the money in the children's hands. He also taught the lady that if she wanted a car, she should earn her own money to buy it, and don't think about the money in her parents' hands.
The lady felt that her parents-in-law were willing to pay some money to buy a car for them, and she also wanted to relieve their pressure a little. But she also thinks that her father's words are also reasonable, and feels that everything her father does has always been for her good.
As a result, the lady was in a dilemma, unable to make a trade-off, and couldn't figure out which side was right and which side was genuinely good for them.
The circumstances of this story should be the most common in reality. I am also a father, and I also have children who are married and have a family, but when I hear this story, I feel a little uncomfortable.
The old man on both sides of the lady seems to be good for the children, and the old man should really want to be good for the children. But as everyone knows, this kind of good is a kind of good with conditions attached, such a good is what they think is good, not what the child thinks is good at home, and this kind of good lacks the selflessness and sincerity of being sincere to the child.
I think that if the in-laws really buy a car for this lady, then they can buy as many cars as they have, and a car of 100,000 yuan is fine. If the control is still in the hands of her father, she should tell her father not to have this dowry money.
What do you think?