The higher the bride price, the more detrimental it is to the daughter
In the past, there was a bride price, there was a return gift, there was no limit, depending on the family's affordability, now many places directly reported the number of bride price and did not return the gift, but also increased the price many times, part of the return gift to marry depends on the personal will to see the family's economic ability!
At present, the poorer, more backward and more compared areas of the higher the bride price, the mother's family counts all the accounts, the lack of the family and the debt are made up by the man, which has a sky-high bride price, they do not consider the quality of life after marriage, only care about a full meal, lifelong pension, so that some people take the bride price as a business opportunity, there is a bride price regret marriage does not return the bride price, cheating marriage, just love is not married, spend all the man's savings to break up on the grounds of inappropriateness, flash marriage and finally make a lawsuit for the bride price. And they don't care about any laws, as long as the money is in hand, this kind of embarrassing to let the other party write an IOU for money has become a serious social problem for Qing officials to cut off family affairs!
In this way, who gives enough money, who does the woman marry, recognizes money and does not recognize people, unlike in the past, you can divorce freely, such a marriage has no emotional basis and leads to a high divorce rate, and the man takes the risk of losing both people and money, such a marriage is not only the parents sell their daughters, but also the stupid is that the daughter helps her parents sell herself in the name of filial piety, which is very unfavorable to the daughter, and marrying does not mean that she is out of relationship with her parents, because the parents at this time are not old, and they do not need to provide for the elderly, and the husband's family spends all the money to affect the married life and career, and the relationship between the son-in-law and the father-in-law and mother-in-law will be very bad, and all kinds of unhappiness after marriage will involve this aspectIn the future, most of the inheritance left by the parents is the brother's, and the inheritance of the brother is not his turn when he dies, so there is no need to help the mother's family sell himself, which is very unfavorable to himself, and the parents get the man's money, and spend it quickly, if the parents and brothers are in financial difficulties, the parents should be filial piety when they are old, if the money is not much, it is wrong to invest all the savings in the hands of fixed assets and the elderly, and the money should be put in the hands of young people to have a use!
If both parties are only children, the father-in-law and mother-in-law will not be able to make things difficult for the son-in-law, the son-in-law is good and ranks first, and when he is old, he has one more person to take care of himself, and the daughter will not suffer, and when the four old people all pass away, the inheritance will all belong to the grandson, both parties have no objection, whether the daughter will be respected in the man's house, look at the mother-in-law as a person, look at the daughter who does things for herself, how the mother's family is behind her, if the mother-in-law often intervenes and persuades the divorce on the grounds that she has not met any requirements, it will not take long to really divorce!Marriage