Many people will have such questions when they keep it:
He has already blocked me, is it impossible between us?”
They are still willing to meet me, do they still like me?”
After the breakup, he was like no one, did he love me?”
After the breakup, many problems are bothering you, you want to figure it out but you can't figure it out, you can't see the hope of feelings at all, but as a psychological counselor, I still regret to tell you:
After a breakup, many people don't analyze each other's psychology at all.
People's behavior does not represent the real psychology, it depends on whether you can capture the information conveyed by the other party in time through the other party's personality, tone of voice, etc.
So after the breakup, those behaviors of the ex will make the other party feel that the probability of getting back together between you is high?
01 repeatedly blacks you out under your emotions
Is blocking really serious?Not really. Silent blocking is scary, but blocking after emotional impulses doesn't matter.
Fanfare is temptation, and silence is leaving. When two people break up, after a fierce quarrel, they propose to break up, and then the other party starts to block you, and even blocks you repeatedly, don't worry about this situation.
Why did the other party choose to block you repeatedly, didn't he just want to get your attention?I want you to know that he already has emotions, and I want you to go to him. What the other person wants is nothing more than more attention, to see if you will bow to the other person.
Repeatedly blocking is actually essentially a kind of venting emotions, and you don't really want to break up. Especially girls, emotions come and go quickly, and at the moment of the outbreak, they just don't want to see your news, maybe the mood has fallen, and they start to think of you. So don't prematurely make up your mind about your relationship, sometimes a bad situation can be the best turnaround.
02 Keep some lines of communication
The person who is still willing to get back together with you may block and delete some of your ***, but the other party will definitely find a way to keep some communication channels. For example: block and delete your **, but keep other social ** accounts.
Why does the other party keep some channels of communication?Essentially, it's because the other party doesn't want the relationship between you to be completely broken, and wants to leave a little way back for yourself.
People who really don't want to get back together with you will definitely cut off contact with you completely, as if they have disappeared, and will not give you any channels to contact at all, but anything that is really reserved for you is deliberate.
Since you want to get back together, what about blocking some channels?Because the other party also has their own grievances, they also want to express their attitude.
Blocking is venting your emotions, leaving a back way because you don't want to separate yet, and you want to see your subsequent performance.
03 Yin and Yang are weird, talking the opposite
Many people may wonder if the other party is emotionally impulsive and speaks violently, and this behavior is obviously angry, how can they want to get back together with me?
Especially some boys, seeing that they have been blocked by the other party, feel that the two of them are over, and there is no chance at all.
In fact, this is not the case, many people are still very conflicted or have some negative emotions in the early stage of the breakup, and at this time they will instinctively make some avoidance behaviors or verbal conflicts.
These are essentially self-protection mechanisms, and they want to protect themselves from harm in this way, as well as vent their inner dissatisfaction. So you will see that the other person will be emotionally unstable and resistant to you after the breakup.
But these also just show that the other party is really wronged, and that the other party once really loved you very much. So after the breakup, he can't face the person he loves, he is not worth his effort, and he is unwilling to be in the relationship he once had, so he can only face you in this way.
The more intense the other party's emotions, the more it means that the other party can't let go of you, and the other party's hysteria is now forcing himself to let go, so he will be emotional.
In this case, when the other party calms down, have a good chat with the other party, and solve the contradictions between you, the probability of reuniting between you is very high.
04 Engage in some abnormal behavior
Think carefully about whether the other party has had some abnormal behavior after the breakup.
will frequently show their lives in their own social **.
Originally, a person who didn't like to post on Moments would begin to update his news frequently, and a very sensible person would publish some sad copywriting and songs.
These behaviors of the other party are abnormal, very different from the previous person.
Why would the other party do this?In fact, it is nothing more than trying to get your attention and get some response from you. The other party may just want to test your attitude, whether you will give them likes, comments, or even communicate directly with the other party.
Some people want to get back together, but when they take the initiative to find each other, they feel that they are very faceless, and they obviously want to break up by themselves, and now they want to get back together. Therefore, before taking the initiative, the other party will test the other party's ideas first, so that they are not too embarrassed.
At this time, the other person will do some abnormal behavior in front of you to get your attention and want to see your reaction.
If you give the other person some positive feedback, the other person may also do something that will make you understand what the other person is thinking;
If you don't have any reaction, the other party will start to retreat if they want to get back together, and they will start to struggle with whether to take the initiative to turn back
Although many people say some cruel things when they break up, they may regret it after saying it.
This situation can be reconciled, because the other party still cares about you and your feelings, don't lose your beloved because of face.
05 It's not yours to be counted
"You don't think about other people's feelings at all, and being with you is a waste of my feelings. ”
"After being together for so many years, I have accompanied you from scratch, but as a result, I have gained nothing. ”
"I've never seen someone as irresponsible as you, it's so selfish. ”
When you break up, many people have heard such words, and the other party has been counting down your mistakes and telling them their grievances. It seems that the other party said this, as if there is really no possibility of getting back together.
Actually, no, a person who wants to leave will not waste words with you at all, let alone talk any nonsense with you, because you have no relationship with the other party. The other party is still willing to ask your questions, and counting down your no, it shows that the other party's subconscious is still willing to give you the opportunity to change, and also wants you to realize your own problems.
It's just that many people don't understand, thinking that this kind of behavior is belittling themselves, denying themselves, and showing that the other party is unwilling to get back together. Remember, a person doesn't want to get back together with you and definitely doesn't want to waste a little time on you.
This situation does not need to be explained to the other party. When the other party vents his emotions, he will naturally come back to his senses. At that time, if you communicate well with the other person, there is still room for relaxation between you.
06 Be willing to reply to your messages
After the breakup, the other party is willing to reply to your messages, at least it means that they don't dislike you and don't worry too much.
Being willing to reply to your message does not mean responding to you positively, it may just reply to you with a few words, or reply very bluntly, just like an ordinary friend.
The other party's performance is already very good, don't expect the other party to face you enthusiastically, or even think like before, you are just ordinary friends, the other party has no obligation to respond to you, and being able to take the time to respond to you already means that the other party does not hate you.
If the other person doesn't hate you, you have the opportunity to get close to the other person and regain their affection.
The above is the performance of the ex who still has feelings for you and has not forgotten you. If you still love him, if you still have expectations for this relationship, then don't miss it again because of a temporary face, maybe he is the right person for you.