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I recently re-watched "Ten Years of Love", I remember that I was still very young when I watched it before, and I sympathized with Han Ling very much at that time, and felt that Xiao Ran was sorry for her, and it was Xiao Ran who missed the beautiful, kind, and innocent Han Ling. Later, I learned that her fault was not because she didn't love her, but because she didn't cherish herself and failed to protect herself well. Looking back now, I suddenly realized that all the misfortunes were related to Han Ling.
Han Ling's life is full of tragedy, no matter who she marries, she will not get true happiness, on the contrary, she may bring great disasters to the other party.
Liu Yuan and Han Ling grew up together since childhood and are Han Ling's childhood sweethearts. Liu Yuan's kindness to Han Ling was wholehearted, Han Ling went to school in Beijing, and Liu Yuan also went to school in Beijing.
On the occasion of festivals, Liu Yuan always thinks about buying gifts and flowers for Han Ling. Liu Yuan often took Han Ling out to eat on his bicycle and took the initiative to pay the bills. Whenever the holiday comes, when Liu Yuan chooses gifts for his family, he always remembers that he also prepared the same gift for Han Ling's mother.
Han Ling enjoyed Liu Yuan's kindness to her without any guilt.
Liu Yuan's roommates almost all default to Han Ling as Liu Yuan's girlfriend.
Except for Xiao Ran. Xiao Ran always firmly denied that Han Ling was Liu Yuan's lover, and he contacted Han Ling without reservation. On Chinese New Year's Eve one year, Xiao Ran decided to go to Han Ling's home to look for her, and the two even spent a night in a hotel.
From that night on, the two fell into a romantic relationship.
Liu Yuan felt extreme heartache after discovering the love relationship between the two. He revealed to Han Ling that he had made detailed plans for the future, but unexpectedly, his future did not include Han Ling.
Liu Yuan plans to return to Lushun after completing his university studies, and both of them have quite high academic qualifications, so they are fully capable of finding two stable jobs and planning to get married and have children.
In fact, isn't that exactly the lifestyle that Han Ling pursues? Find a husband who loves him deeply so that he can have enough time to spend with him and live a peaceful life.
However, Han Ling chose to give up the man who could create an ideal life for her, and instead chose an unknown Xiao Ran.
Xiao Ran lost his parents when he was young and was raised by poor relatives. He was small, mischievous, often bullied by his classmates, and often criticized by his teachers. He lived in poverty and was often subjected to cynicism from others. He often comforted himself and Han Ling with one sentence, that is: "You have to trust me, I will definitely make a lot of money in the future."
Judging from Xiao Ran's life goals, his greatest wish is to earn a lot of wealth, and he hopes that everyone can admire him instead of living a stable life with Han Ling.
However, Han Ling was completely attracted by Xiao Ran's charm and did not hesitate to follow him to Shenzhen.
When Han Ling became pregnant with her first child, Xiao Ran didn't consider Han Ling's feelings at all, but asked Han Ling to terminate the child's life. Thinking that he could not afford to raise a child, he decided to let Han Ling have an abortion. However, the safety of abortion is not as high as that of a haircut, and Xiao Ran was unable to accompany him due to time constraints, so Han Ling chose an informal medical institution for abortion.
Unfortunately, due to the irregular abortion procedure, Han Ling suffered a serious negative impact. She began to become very weak and often needed to take sleeping pills to fall asleep. She was unable to conceive again and often suffered severe abdominal pain.
At the moment, Xiao Ran is busy fighting for his career to realize his vision of life. However, Han Ling's life has encountered many lows and challenges. Although Xiao Ran still loved her deeply and felt deeply guilty, Han Ling was unable to bring back the child for Xiao Ran, which was an insurmountable obstacle.
Xiao Ran's career is becoming more and more successful, and the time he spends with Han Ling is gradually decreasing. Xiao Ran even had relationships with other women outside, while Han Ling gradually lost her youth and beauty as she grew older, and she was even unable to have children. As time passed, she gradually lost confidence in her life, became increasingly anxious, and often had trouble sleeping.
Han Ling began to use various means to torture Xiao Ran, sometimes rushing into the mall to steal, and sometimes running to the song hall to clash with Xiao Ran.
Xiao Ran curiously asked what Han Ling was really pursuing, but Han Ling responded that she only hoped that Xiao Ran would always be by her side, and she didn't want to accept Xiao Ran's money because she was deeply disgusted with Xiao Ran's wealth.
In short, their marriage is like chicken feathers all over the floor. The story ends with Xiao Ran being in a car accident, which is, in short, a tragic event.
All things considered, there are three main reasons behind Han Ling's unhappiness:
1. I really don't know what kind of life I really pursue. When Liu Yuan's kindness to her made her feel satisfied, her life was very easy and happy, but she didn't know that this lifestyle was what she had been pursuing all her life. She betrayed Liu Yuan and chose the incomprehensible Xiao Ran.
2. Pursue vanity, desire to live a rich life, but cannot be satisfied with a lonely and rich life. She said that she is a person with dreams, she hopes that she can have a world of her own, and she wants to use this world to prove her strength and ability. Every time Xiao Ran told her that she was going to earn a lot of money in the future, buy a mansion for you, and hold a lavish wedding, she would be deeply moved. Xiao Ran did achieve his goal, he earned a lot of wealth, which allowed Han Ling to live in a spacious residence and live a prosperous life, but unfortunately he did not have enough time to spend with her.
Obviously, Han Ling was also dissatisfied with this way of life. Since we live in affluence, we should enjoy it to the fullest, instead of always being entangled in letting Xiao Ran always accompany us?
3. In the marriage relationship, Xiao Ran lacks decisiveness and economic independence, if she chooses to have an abortion, then she will choose to have an abortion herself. If even the right to have children cannot be decided by oneself, then can such a marriage really be happy?
The author, Yubai Gao, is an attending physician and holds a master's degree in neurology. He has carried out clinical work in many hospitals and has been responsible for many rescue tasks of difficult and critically ill patients. He has many years of professional experience in the diagnosis and development of cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases. Currently, I focus on precision medicine research and work in the field of oncology.