Grandma Hengzhi said"The essence of life is to live alone, realize that you are always a person, you will not expect too much from others, but live a relaxed life. ”
I think so. In life, there is no easy word, everyone is running for life, even healing at night, and continuing to rush during the day.
As the saying goes: the mountains will fall, everyone will run, and only you can rely on yourself to be the most reliable.
When you are sad, you can confide in your friends and get some comfort, but they can never empathize with your heartache, your anxiety cannot be solved by others, and your happiness cannot be experienced by others. In the end, I healed myself.
Parents of girls think that their daughters are relieved to marry a good husband. But marriage is a two-way street, and people are not looking for a wife to be filial, everyone will ask for something.
Besides, even if you marry a good husband, whether you can be happy forever depends on how you manage your marriage.
Some people rely on their parents' relationship to find a job, but it is themselves who really face it.
No matter how rich your parents are, it is better to earn money yourself, because your parents can't protect you for a lifetime, and no one can walk your own path for you, so you still have to rely on yourself to walk step by step.
Some people think that they are in trouble and their parents, brothers and sisters should help, but in fact, there is no such thing as a should, and they also have their own lives.
Mr. Yang Jiang said:"It's best not to expect too much from others, everyone has their own difficulties, you really have to hope and can't expect too much, expect too much and be easily disappointed, on the road of life, we are all lonely walkers, such as people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge, can really help you, always only yourself. ”
When it rains, no matter how big the eaves of other people's roofs are, it is not as good as having an umbrella for yourself. When you encounter difficulties, expect others to help you, it is better to find a way to overcome them yourself.
Even if someone else can help you once, it can't help you all the time.
So, don't expect too much from others, the only thing that can give you security in this life is yourself.
Dong Yuhui's small essay incident last month, everyone was upset about him, many people wanted to dig him, and many people made ideas for him, and he himself chose to block all the information and voices outside to heal himself.
But in the end, how to choose, it is still up to him to weigh and choose.
It's like someone can pull you or push you, but whether it's pulling or pushing, in the end, it's up to your legs to move forward.
Of course, in our lives, we will meet many people, some will accompany us on our journey, and some will become our friends and confidants.
However, we can't expect too much from these people, because everyone has their own life and choices.
What we can do is cherish the time we spend with them, but also learn to go it alone.
Hayao Miyazaki said:"Don't depend too much on anyone in this world, because when you struggle in the dark, even your shadow will leave you. We seem to be inextricably linked to many people, but when it comes to making decisions, we are often alone. ”
When my wife died, I was left with a debt of 70,000 yuan, and my child was in the second year of junior high school at the time.
Thousands of miles away from my parents, I am my daughter's dependence, but no one is my dependence.
Moreover, you can't accompany and honor your parents, let alone drag them down. Younger siblings also have their own lives, and it is not easy for anyone.
That's when I knew that the only thing I could rely on was myself.
I remember that when my daughter went to college, she only had 10 yuan left in her hand, and there was still a week before her salary was paid, so I would grit my teeth and persevere.
The child was sick at night, and I had to take her to the hospital aloneThe house was filled with gas, and I dragged the gas bucket from the first floor to the fourth floor by myself.
When I was sad and sad, I hid in the bed and cried, but I went to work full of vitality the next day.
The essence of life is that a person lives and realizes that he is always a person, so he will not expect too much from others, but pay more attention to self-growth and self-realization.
And you are not brave, there is no one to be strong for you. This is an eternal truth.
As asked in "The Ferryman": "If fate is a lonely river, who will be the ferryman of your soul?".”
Answer: It's yourself.
Therefore, in the sea of life, your role must be interpreted by yourself, and your life must be created by yourself. No one can rely on others to live their own future.
Write at the end
Mr. Yang Jiang said:"We used to look forward to the recognition of the outside world, until in the end we realized that the world is our own and has nothing to do with others. ”
On the road of life, it is better to rely on no one than on yourself, and only by living yourself as a light can you illuminate others, warm yourself, and create the life and life you want.
I remember someone said: Life is a lonely trek, walking alone, crying alone, laughing alone, being strong alone;An ordeal is a baptism;A pain is an awakening. Walking, tired, crying, will grow;After pain, sadness, and loneliness, you will be strong.
Therefore, even if life is hard, do not rely on others;Life is hard, don't expect others. Walking in the world, everything has to be experienced by yourself.
Only by strengthening oneself, overcoming joys and sorrows, facing calmly, moving forward with a smile, truly living oneself, and living a relaxed life is the most important posture that a person should have.