I always maintain a peaceful, respectful and understanding attitude in my communication with my children, which makes our relationship as harmonious as that of a mother and a child. This good parent-child relationship and family relationship is the cornerstone of a child's growth and development. Here are some of my experiences and practices.
Four principles for living peacefully with children:
1.Respect each otherWe respect each other, both as individual beings and as members of our family, and we do our best to maintain that respect. I always let my child know that he has his own opinions and ideas and is free to express them. At the same time, I also made him understand that his actions and words should not be offensive to others.
2.Non-aggression: We all have our own sense of boundaries and respect the boundaries of others. I told my children, "The so-called boundary is to make your business yours and my business mine." "This is the basic principle of getting along with each other. I tried my best to make him understand that when there is a lack of distance and boundaries between people, it is easy to have friction, contradictions, right and wrong, and grievances.
3.Equality and reciprocity: Our family is a collective, and each member is working hard for the happiness of the family. I told my children that we are all equal family members and that we should think and work together. Everyone in the family should contribute to the well-being of the family.
4.Peaceful coexistence: When faced with problems or disagreements, we never clash head-on, but adopt roundabout tactics. I tell my children that just as a stream meanders and eventually flows into the sea, we need to solve problems in a peaceful way.
One might scoff at these points of mine and think they're just a bunch of right nonsense. However, I would like to say that the realization of these principles requires parents to constantly learn, Xi perceive, practice and adjust. My goal is always to make my child who he is, not what I want to be. I believe that when we are able to treat our children with equality, respect, and understanding, they will give back to us in the same way.
If you could compare a child to a big boss in your unit, you would be more careful to communicate and get along with themWhen facing this boss, you will focus more on respect and understanding, rather than throwing tantrums, venting emotions, or taking a rough approachWhen you communicate with the big boss, you will pay more attention to the principles of equality and reciprocity, rather than condescendingly dictatingI'm sure you will. Because you know that only then can you get better development and returns in this unit. In the same way, when you are with your children, you should treat them with the same attitudes and principles. Only then will your relationship be more harmonious and beautiful.