Xiao Li and I met online at the beginning of this year. We've been together for a full ten months now.
As an older leftover girl, every Spring Festival, the relatives at home are urging marriage one by one.
A relative introduced me to a blind date. The blind date was four or five years older than me.
We met once and he was very shy. I don't know how to talk to him.
After that meeting, we both went back to work. He works in the north and I work in the south.
During this period, we chatted a few times through WeChat, and it was not easy to find a topic, but then we were not reluctant.
In the end, the first blind date in his life ended in failure.
You may say that online dating is unreliable!
Some time ago, there was a news that an aunt in her fifties pretended to be a young girl and deceived innocent young men.
The bad thing about online dating is here, there is no way to contact the real other party, what if the other party is **?
You may ask: Aren't you afraid that the other person is a bad person?
My answer is: Of course I'm afraid!
When I made an appointment with Xiao Li for the first time, I repeatedly told him that he would be gone.
I was so scared that I couldn't do it. We have only chatted two or three times through WeChat, and we don't know each other at all.
What if he doesn't look like me, or if I don't look what he thought I was?
Wouldn't that be a direct death scene!
What if he is a human trafficker and disguises the online image of a good young man to deceive girls who are not deeply involved in the world?
I haven't lived long enough to die young!
But he said, "I'm coming to you, don't be nervous, just make a friend."
He gives people the impression that he is a big boy who is honest and more personable.
In fact, when we chatted on WeChat before, we talked very little.
He said that he was working alone in a field with no relatives and friends around him, and felt very lonely.
It just so happens that I am.
He asked me why I wanted online dating. I said:
Clause. 1. Because of the tight family urging, my cousin's children are how old they are, and my mother has been single for more than 20 years, which makes the family very worried that they will not be able to get married.
Clause. Second, although the last blind date failed, it also succeeded in making me realize that in fact, I have reached the marriageable age, and I have to at least try to have a boyfriend.
Clause. 3. There are very few men I know in real work, and they are either married or of an inappropriate age.
Clause. Fourth, I am too busy at work and simply do not have enough time and occasion to meet the right boys.
Clause. Fifth, the personality of social fear. The usual range of activities and social circles are too narrow, and it is rarely possible to make more friends.
So, that's it. And the Internet makes it possible for me to meet the right guys, so give it a try, maybe there will be a chance.
After this conversation, he said that he was similar to me, and for similar reasons, he had also become an older leftover man.
He said, "If I don't go to you, let me get to know you."
I think he chats more straightforwardly and sincerely, and I feel that his character should be good, so I said: Okay.
We made an appointment to see each other on Saturday that week, and then we barely contacted each other on WeChat.
When we first met, we were very reserved and like strangers to each other.
It's so embarrassing!He tilted his head away, not daring to look at me, probably shy. When I saw this, I tried not to look at him very little, so as not to make him nervous.
If you say before, talk to him as a prep boyfriend. After meeting, it is polite to meet strangers.
The change of roles between each other was too abrupt, and it made me feel a little cool.
It should be out of play, right?
But out of politeness, he came from afar, and I couldn't help but say it, so I invited him to watch a movie. During the two hours of watching the movie, we didn't speak the whole time.
We also ate hot pot together afterwards. I accidentally spilled the soup on him, and he wasn't annoyed.
Noticing what I like to eat, he clips it for me. We asked each other about the basics of the situation.
At the end of the meal, I said I was in for a treat, but he rushed to pay, and I thought he was very generous.
After eating the hot pot, he went back.
Maybe it's because it's the first time that a boy of the same age has been so considerate to me, so I have a pretty good impression of him.
That's all for today, unfinished...