In real life, another phenomenon is often observed. Men and women often react very differently to infidelity in marriage. If a man cheats, many women will choose to forgive, but if a woman cheats, many men are more likely to choose divorce.
There are many reasons for this phenomenon. Some married women have told me that it may be because of their children. They are worried about the impact of divorce on their children, that they will lose their sense of security after divorce, and even that they will not be able to live independently without the support of a man.
Perhaps this view is deeply rooted in some traditional beliefs. While men seem to be able to find a younger and more beautiful partner after a divorce, women find themselves in an awkward position of "no one cares" after a divorce. But is that really the case?
Actually, I don't quite agree with this view. In my opinion, even if a woman is divorced, she still has the ability to live well on her own. They can live a happy and independent life on their own.
Instead of "moving on" in an unhappy marriage, choose to separate and find happiness that truly belongs to you. This decision does not mean that the situation of women will be worse as a result;On the contrary, they may gain more freedom and happiness as a result.
Let's talk about real life. Her story shows that with a positive attitude and courage, women can still survive without marriage or a man.
Wang Yuting has been divorced for 10 years. At first, she had a good relationship with her ex-husband, but she didn't expect them to divorce. However, due to a long period of separation, their relationship gradually drifted apart.
How did Wang Yuting know about her husband's affair?This is a complete coincidence, if it weren't for her husband coming home from vacation, Wang Yuting might not have known about it. She was interested in her husband's new phone and came across a message from a woman. If it weren't for this coincidence, she would have been deceived by her husband for the rest of her life.
When Wang Yuting found out that her husband had been dating the woman for nearly three months, she was very angry at first and questioned her husband like an unruly woman: "This situation is really ridiculous, obviously a victim, but he had to compromise and became a poor person with low self-esteem and self-pity. ”
However, the husband did not feel any guilt and seemed indifferent to Wang Yuting's anger. "Don't cause trouble, don't get divorced, just take care of the children. But Wang Yuting doesn't need such a marriage. She doesn't want a husband who is not at home, and she can't stand him having illicit relationships with other women behind her back.
Wang Yuting couldn't bear the pain, was angry for a year, and finally "let her die" and bravely chose to divorce. At the time of the divorce, her husband threatened her: "If you divorce me, I will not let you see my children, and I will not take your property unless you take it." Firmly: "Okay, I'll do it." You can give up your possessions, but you have to give me access to the children. ”
Many people say that Wang Yuting is stupid and thinks that if a divorced woman still has children, life will be very difficult. But Wang Yuting has his own plans. She is determined to create a better future for her children through her own efforts, and even if she can't get married, she can go on strongly.
Before the divorce, Wang Yuting was a housewife and her child was only 6 years old. Just like Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of Her Life", after the divorce, she could only start from scratch, rely on herself, struggle step by step, and build a new life.
After the divorce, Wang Yuting engaged in grassroots activities in the professional field, and the two relied on each other and brought their 6-year-old son. For the sake of her own and her son's future, she studied hard, worked hard, attended night school during the day, and tutored her son with homework at night.
Life is full of difficulties, but Wang Yuting admonishes herself in her heart. She has lost a lot in the past. And now she must devote the good times and strong love to herself, trying to find the lost youth and love.
She never thought about improving her life by remarrying, because she knew that it would not be easy to remarry, and she was also worried that remarriage would cause trouble for her son. She endured all the pressures of life alone, but never gave up.
After 10 years of hard work, Wang Yuting is no longer a single mother with nothing, but a woman who is the envy of her friends. Her son was successfully admitted to a key high school and achieved excellent results. This is not surprising because he has a very good mother and Wang Yuting also has a personal influence on him.
Unlike her friends who had advised her not to divorce, some of her friends are still struggling with unhappy marriages. Although they envy Wang Yuting's courage and independence, they lack the courage to really take the step of leaving.
Wang Yuting's experience is similar to Luo Zijun in the TV series "The First Half of Life", but her path is more difficult. Luo Zijun was once in trouble, but there was a good man He Han who helped and supported him, and Wang Yuting had no choice but to rely on her tenacity and hard work to create a happy future for herself and her son. Done.
Wang Yuting hopes to tell all married women through her story:
Whether married or not, a woman should not give up on herself. Maybe you're worried that the divorce will be embarrassing, but what I'm trying to say is that you earn face, and it doesn't matter what others think of you, that's all. Others will not bear your sins and will not leave money in your wallet for you to spend. Taking care of yourself is the truest experience.
Now, Wang Yuting has also bought a house in her hometown. As for the ex-husband, of course, her current living situation is enough for him to regret it.
But it doesn't matter if you regret it or not. After all, life is your own, and your feelings are the most important. A woman should not fall into self-pity because of an unhappy marriage, but should find a way out and try to change her life for the better. It's not that you can't get rid of the problem, it's that you have a strong enough heart.
In the journey of life, everything depends on yourself. Women are no exception. No matter what difficulties you encounter, learn to rely on your own strength. Because only you know your own needs best, and only you can best determine your own happiness.