When I went out a few days ago, I happened to meet my friend Yaoyao, whom I hadn't seen for half a year. She used to be bright and cheerful, but now her face is full of sadness.
It turns out that Yaoyao's married life is undergoing tremendous changes. A few months ago, she stumbled upon an ambiguous text message on her husband's phone, and after interrogation, she learned a truth that she didn't want to believe.
When Yaoyao heard the news of her husband's cheating, she trembled as if the world was spinning.
She began to cry loudly and asked her husband a series of questions. "Am I doing something wrong?Why are you doing this to me?Did I do something wrong and you found someone else again?He asked again and again. "Who?"Do you love me?Is she or me?The husband patiently replied at first, "I love you, it's just a momentary mistake." But when his wife repeated the question, he himself began to hesitate, not knowing who he loved.
After that, Yaoyao began to ask her husband about the details of the matter, and even asked him what kind of underwear he was wearing on a date.
The husband felt guilty and didn't want to recall the past, but after Yaoyao's repeated interrogation, he gradually began to expose the incident.
Hearing these details, Yaoyao's heart felt like it had been cut by a knife, and it hurt. Seeing all the unsatisfactory things in her life, she despaired and fell into deep pain again. When her husband saw Yaoyao suffering, he hurriedly comforted her.
However, after a while, Yaoyao couldn't help but ask her husband the same question again, but the result was still the same. The torture again and again made Yaoyao suffer endless pain, and her husband gradually lost confidence.
Yaoyao gradually felt that if this continued, his marriage might really end. She kept asking why, and trying to find out.
However, the husband begins to feel that his wife is deliberately torturing him and loses faith in the marriage. Yaoyao's pain and frustration could not be released emotionally. Because her husband's defensive attitude only exacerbates the anger and aggressive emotions inside her.
If the husband had been able to take the lead from the beginning and tolerate his wife's anger and resentment, instead of rushing to apologize and promise, perhaps everything would have been different. They need to face the crisis of their marriage together, not argue endlessly.