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When I was 25 years old, I was introduced to my ex-husband, and after more than a year of dating, I got married. After marriage, because he couldn't afford to buy a house, he could only live with his ex-in-laws temporarily. During this period, I couldn't stand the fragmentation of my ex-in-laws, and when my ex-husband's child and I were 3 years old, we rented a house in the community near my unit. Subsequently, I met a divorced man because of playing mahjong and developed a relationship with him (the lover has his own house).
My affair with my lover was eventually discovered by my ex-husband, and after I asked my lover if I had any possibility of reuniting my family with him and got his lover's affirmation, I divorced my ex-husband and I moved in with him. After actually starting a cohabitation life with my lover, I found that he also kept in touch with several girls through online social software. For this reason, I had a fierce quarrel with my lover, which made him delete the *** of those netizens
When our relationship came to more than a year, I asked my lover to marry me, but my lover kept procrastinating. After another half a year, my lover inexplicably told me to break up. No matter how much I try to keep it, it won't help. After breaking up with my lover, I cheekily went to my ex-husband to remarry, and my ex-husband's attitude: I don't accept garbage.
There are three reasons why I would ask my ex-husband to remarry: 1) We have children between us;2) After breaking up with my lover, I have no place to live for a while3) The ex-husband is just a little poorer, and the person is not bad. I thought that my ex-husband would re-accept me in order to give the child a complete home, but I didn't expect him to let me eat the closed door.
My personal general situation: my hometown is a county in the north, I went to university in a provincial capital city in the south, and after graduating from university, I stayed in the city where I went to school to work. Before I met my ex-husband, I had been renting a house in an urban village. After marrying my ex-husband, if it weren't for the conflict between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, my ex-husband and I would not have chosen to rent a house when our children were 3 years old. Now, I'm back to where I started when I first started working, and I feel like I've failed to live a life when I've started anew.
Mu Zi Li emotion**:
Marriage is the product of two-way choice, and because everyone longs for a relatively wealthy life, there will inevitably be high feelings when choosing a marriage partner, but the field of love often presents a radish and a pit, which means that many people finally look for a marriage partner who will often present a situation of matching the door, rather than a high climbing situation. It's just that some people can't have a relatively reasonable position for themselves in a relationship, and feel that they can find a better remarriage partner in the state of riding a donkey and looking for a horse, which leads to their betrayal of marriage. Unfortunately, most cases of divorce between a lover and a legal lover hide a cruel reality: after the real cohabitation with the lover, it is difficult to exchange the result of reuniting the family.
Why are many people who can develop a lover relationship with you, but are not willing to become a husband and wife with you?Answer: 1) Many people will have a debatable stereotype of character for people who are lovers for themselves;2) During the relationship with lovers, each other cares more about taking what they need, and once it rises to the height of marriage, more factors will be considered, so that the two parties may not be able to pass the run-in period;3) The reason why many people are looking for a lover is because they live in their bones, or because they are willing to become a gamer of love, they may value the freshness between people more, and do not care about the responsibilities, obligations and longevity in the relationship. It means that if you are serious in a cynical relationship, you will inevitably lose badly.
When you and your ex-husband get married, you belong to the foreign workers, and your ex-husband belongs to the local aborigines, although his family background is average, his existence can give you a home harbor, so the two of you formed a marriage result;When your married life came to the 3rd year, because you couldn't stand the fragmented thoughts of your in-laws, in order to get your ears clean, so you and your ex-husband reached a consensus on renting a house in the community near your unitLater, you met a divorced man with a house by playing mahjong, and you divorced your ex-husband when the other party was inclined to exchange for you to reorganize the familyIn the end, you and your lover did not get the result of remarrying, either because he was motivated by his intentions, or because you did not get along well during the period of cohabitation.
In the field of marriage and love, sometimes there are two phenomena: 1) If your experience in married life is not good, after the divorce result, you will no longer yearn for married life. 2) After the divorce experience, you will become more cautious when choosing a family partner. You divorced your ex-husband because you betrayed your marriage, so when you asked him to remarry, he refused, and his heart was true: 1) Don't ** garbage;2) There is a rift between them, and he can't accept you again. The reason why you and your lover will break up in exchange for: 1) or because he is more picky about the person he remarries;2) Or after more than a year of cohabitation with you, they think it is difficult to be on the same page with you in many things.
Many people regret it after getting out of the siege, probably because of the following reasons: 1) During the period of marriage, they are not able to cherish each other's feelings well, and self-righteously think that if they get divorced, they can have a better place, but after the real divorce, they find it difficult to find a remarriage partner who surpasses their ex when they are burdened with the label of divorce;2) Because of the extramarital affair, which led to the divorce result, I originally thought that after the divorce, I could exchange the result of reorganizing the family with my lover, but in exchange for the result of being abandoned by my lover, at this time, I will find that the ex is not so bad, so I have the idea of remarriage, the key is that the ex is not a ball, how can you be allowed to kick around?In the case of not being able to get the result of remarriage, I especially regret it.
Life may have a fixed number, which means that the person you meet at the marriageable age may be your best marriage, if two people do not have a deviation in the three views in the process of managing their marriage, they should show their feelings of giving in this relationship, and manage this relationship with their hearts. If you cause the relationship to collapse because of your heart, or in later life, you will reap relative retribution, and at that time, you should regret it. Unfortunately, once many things happen, they will have the effect of being overwhelmed, and in this case, when recalling the past, they can only be sad because they didn't know how to cherish it at the beginning. However, we must not live in the memories of the past, and still actively strive for the future life.
Editor's note: Everyone will have character flaws, which will inevitably lead to some disputes and frictions in married life, and sometimes, in the face of the dilemma that life gives you, you need to accept it calmly. Unfortunately, there are always some people who are unwilling to accept their fate when they are in a predicament, but want to try to get themselves out of the predicament through the crooked ways. Once the betrayal of married life is deduced, it may be exchanged for a more embarrassing state of life.
Life is full of too many choices and choices, which means that when making decisions about big things, it is a game that is difficult to predict the future. I believe that many people will have the feeling of "thinking beautiful" when making decisions about major things, but once many people fail to make "thinking beautiful" shine into reality, they can't calmly face the so-called tragic situation. What I want to say is that as gamblers in this game of life, we all need to have the feeling of being willing to gamble and lose.
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