Vinny Sha Tu Nisha.
Everything is difficult at the beginning, and ambiguous borrowing is the first. ”
Ambiguous relationships, this subtle and complex emotional bond, often inadvertently from".BorrowThe action began quietly.
Borrowing a book, borrowing a shoulder, borrowing a little time, going back and forth, the boundaries of emotion become blurred.
Today, I, an "emotional observer", will reveal to you the truth behind the "borrowing and borrowing" behind the ambiguous relationship.
1. Borrowing books to convey love: It is not only the pages of the book that are opened, but also the heart.
There is a ** house in the book, and there is Yan Ruyu in the book. ”
Wang Sheng and Li Xiaojuan are colleagues, and the two met through work. One day, Wang Sheng found that Li Xiaojuan had a book in his hand that he wanted to read, so he opened his mouth to borrow it.
Li Xiaojuan readily agreed, and the two communicated frequently in the process of returning and borrowing books, not only discussing the content of the book, but also sharing each other's lives.
was originally just a simple act of borrowing books, but it unexpectedly shortened the distance between the two. Soon after, they discovered that their feelings for each other had gone beyond the boundaries of ordinary friends.
2. Rely on shoulders: short-term comfort, long-term entanglement.
Sometimes, the lending of the shoulder is more valuable than the money. ”
Li Hongmei was at a low point after falling out of love, and was cared for and comforted by her male colleague Xiao Ming. Xiao Ming often comforted Li Hongmei between work, and even lent his shoulder when Li Hongmei was crying.
This kind of physical closeness and spiritual comfort made Li Hongmei rely on and have a good impression of Xiao Ming.
However, when Li Hongmei came out of the trough and tried to develop a further relationship with Xiao Ming, she found that Xiao Ming's feelings for her were limited to friendship.
This ambiguous relationship eventually made both of them feel embarrassed and troubled.
3. Spend time together: spend time together, but it is difficult to spend the rest of your life together.
Time is money, but borrowed time often comes at a greater cost. ”
Zhao Xiao and Zhou Muyun are college classmates, and the two are relatively close because of their common interests and hobbies.
After graduating, they stayed in the same city to work, often meeting together for weekends and holidays.
They watched movies, went shopping, cooked together, and enjoyed time with each other. However, over time, this frequent relationship has led them to develop feelings for each other that go beyond friendship.
When one of the parties tries to escalate the relationship, it is found that the other party is not prepared. This kind of ambiguous relationship eventually makes them lose their way in each other's worlds.
4. Borrowing money for love: the emotional entanglement behind debt.
It's easier to borrow money than to pay it back, and even harder, it's hard to deal with the emotional debt that comes with borrowing money. ”
A good friend of mine, Xiao Zhang, once got into an ambiguous relationship because he borrowed money. At that time, she was struggling financially and asked a male friend for help, and she was grateful for his generosity.
Over time, however, this gratitude gradually degenerated into dependence and goodwill. When Xiao Zhang realizes that she has feelings for this friend, beyond friendship, she falls into a tangle and pain.
In the end, this ambiguous relationship caused by borrowing money ended in the deliberate estrangement of the two parties.
Conclusion: When the judgment is constantly subject to chaos, the 'borrowing' in the ambiguous relationship is often a double-edged sword. ”
Moderate mutual assistance and love can enhance friendship and affection, but excessive or inappropriate "borrowing" can lead to imbalance and deterioration of the relationship.
Therefore, when we get along with others, we should maintain an appropriate distance and proportion, and avoid falling into unnecessary ambiguous entanglements.
Remember that true affection is based on respect, understanding, and sincerity, not by "borrowing and borrowing".