Raising a daughter-in-law in confinement, she has to be picky every day, and the woman understands what she means and leaves immediately.
The mother-in-law used to take care of the daughter-in-law of the mother, but she found it difficult, not because she could not take care of her, but mainly because the daughter-in-law always had a lot of needs. The high standards of the daughters-in-law are commonplace, and the children are just as picky about their mothers. This situation is worth thinking about for the elderly, and children's nitpicking behavior usually has a deeper meaning, which is also a kind of self-maintenance, after all, the life norms of two people are different.
Aunt Jia began to take care of the child who was giving birth, she had long been Xi to the harshness of her daughter-in-law, but what made her more uncomfortable was that he was too demanding of herself. This made Aunt Jia feel very uncomfortable, and after several prompts from her son, she suddenly realized. The next day, she left without the slightest hesitation, to the delight of both his children and daughter-in-law.
Aunt Jia's self-description.
I went to give birth to my daughter-in-law, but I didn't want to encounter so many difficulties. My daughter-in-law is always critical of my work style, and my son is demanding more and more from me, which makes me angry. Once, when my daughter-in-law criticized me, I saw him give me a look, and I realized that he was defending me. The next day, when I had everything figured out, I was going to leave.
After my daughter-in-law gave birth, I went to postpartum care with joy. The work of the two people is clear, what I do is cooking, and my mother-in-law takes care of the children. I handed out the red envelope of 100,000 yuan to my little grandson, and then I started to prepare the food I carried with me. After my daughter-in-law received the red envelope, she smiled and was very polite to me, which made me feel that it was good to be a happy family.
We had a pretty good first week. If my daughter-in-law is dissatisfied with anything, I will correct it immediately. My mother-in-law was also very polite to me and always let me eat first. However, over the next week, there was a subtle change in the family.
My daughter-in-law always said that the food I cooked was either bitter or rotten. Her tone became unkind, reminding me of the fish bones that I find at every meal. I saw that she was still recuperating from her injuries, and it was not easy to see her in general, and my mother-in-law kept telling her to pay attention to proportion. I had no choice but to swallow this breath in my stomach, always with a smile on my face, and listened carefully to my daughter-in-law's words.
However, slowly, I realized that not only did my daughter-in-law's temperament get worse day by day, but every time I walked out of my daughter-in-law's house, what he said and did made me angry.
My daughter-in-law complained that I couldn't wipe the floor clean, and as soon as I went out, he yelled at me. He said, "Mother, you are so old that you can't sweep the floor." If you can't do it, you won't have to bring your grandchildren with you in the future. "This makes me feel very uncomfortable, after all, I am my own child, I have raised him for more than 20 years, why did he scold me in front of my daughter-in-law?
I gave him a hard look, and he grinned, "Mom, if you're tired, leave me alone." I resolutely refuse, which mother-in-law would not even take care of her daughter-in-law's confinement?I'm afraid that people will say that I abuse my daughter-in-law and children.
Whenever my daughter-in-law talked about what I cooked, he would scold me in front of the door: "Mom, you are really old, and you don't add a few salts to cooking." While squeezing his eyes at me, he yelled at me.
It's okay once or twice, once or twice, even if it's biological, it can't bear it. My daughter-in-law finds fault every day, my mood is already very bad, and I am scolded by my son every day. That day, when my daughter-in-law and mother-in-law were both descending the stairs, I was alone in my bedroom crying.
Soon after, my child pushed open the door and walked out, saw me wiping tears, and sighed, "Mom, why do you have to do this?"How many times have I reminded you, and you still don't understand?”
I was angry when I was scolded by my son. He seemed to get angrier and scolded me for ignorance. I said angrily: "I'm here to give birth to your wife, not to be a wet nurse for you." You husband and wife have done this to me, and I feel insulted. ”
My child told me helplessly, "I've warned you, but you just don't understand." ”
I didn't understand at first, so I asked him angrily, "What are you messing with me?""Just because I'm your mother, you blame me every day?You think I'm a babysitter?”
Mom, can't you see that?Recently, my inner son has been demanding more and more from you. Whether it's cooking, cleaning, or taking care of the kids, she can find fault with it. ”
I said angrily, "I can see that you and my husband are quite picky eaters." ”
His child then said, "Didn't you notice?".When my mother-in-law said this, she was worried about my wife. ”
I scoffed, "Are you an idiot for me?"”
His child sighed deeply: "Mom, you still don't understand, every time I look at you, you can't understand what I mean." 」
I was stunned: "What do you say?".”
His child shook his head and sighed, "You kid, you're really slow, you should have heard us when my mother-in-law went down the stairs every night to square dance." ”
I was a little confused, but I chose to wait and wait until the evening to see it. My mother-in-law descended the stairs, and I stood silently outside the door, listening to the conversation between my son and daughter-in-law. This time, I wanted to know what they were trying to say.
When his son asked her if she wanted her to stay at home to take care of her, she was silent for a moment and finally said, "I feel very uncomfortable with your mother here." ”
His child struggled to think, "Maybe I can understand." First of all, mom is mom, and sometimes it feels awkward at home, after all, we haven't been together for a long time, and it is inevitable to feel weird when we get together all of a sudden. ”
Second, we agreed that if your mother wanted to, I would pay her a salary. I guess you're afraid your mom will feel uncomfortable?She's also for us, so she can't let her do it alone, right?”
Also, I think you also said that if our parents are older, we can live with them, but not together. Maybe you're afraid that my mom will look at them for a long time, and you'll feel uncomfortable, so you don't want them to live together. ”
After listening to her son's words, the daughter-in-law groaned for a while and said slowly, "You may already know." Actually, I don't blame your mother, I just thought, it's enough to have my mother. So, I can only make an excuse to tell you that I don't need her at all. ”
His child hurriedly said, "I understand, I'll tell you later." If you can understand my mother's heart, I will let her go. ”
Hearing this, I understood. He meant to tell me to hurry home and not make me sad, but I still didn't understand. Now that I know it, I have no intention of staying further. Since I was not accepted, I preferred to go home.