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Recently, I was watching a variety show "Little Flowers", and I was really pinched by Qin Lan's mentality, her emotions are really too stable, and she really wants to be such a person.
I've heard a good compliment, she's really a blunt girl, it's really amazing to be a blunt girl!
What is blunt sensibility?No anxiety, no sensitivity, no internal friction, no crankiness.
As a very sensitive person, I feel that it is very necessary to strive to be a person with a dull sense.
1. Accept your imperfections
Many times we are anxious because we have too much of a task on ourselves, and we always want to do things perfectly.
But in fact, we have to understand that no one is perfect, and we can't do everything perfectly, so that everyone is satisfied.
So, take it easy. Accept that we are just ordinary people and allow ourselves to be less than perfect. If you think about it differently, maybe life will be different.
2. If there is a problem, say it directly
Many times, it is easy for us to think alone for a long time because of a look, a movement or a word of others, and fall into the emotional whirlpool by ourselves.
But in fact, sometimes others are just an unconscious behavior, if you really suggest the other person to make an action or say it.
Then it's better to ask, or say what you think, don't expect others to guess what you're thinking, or think silently by yourself.
3. First of all, you are the most important
I have also slowly figured out some things in the past few years: in a relationship, whether it is family affection, love or friendship, we must first make ourselves feel comfortable.
Never wronged yourself for the sake of others, people close to you will not let you be wronged, and people who make you wronged are not worthy of your friendship.
So, remember to always put yourself first.
4. Learn to do subtraction
As people grow up, they want more and more things, but their energy is limited, and the more things they want, the more tired they will feel.
Anxiety will also increase, and it is easy to be controlled by anxiety.
In fact, the best way is that when we grow up, we have to learn to subtract our thoughts. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to live a simple and happy life.
Write at the end:
Being an emotionally sensitive person is actually really tiring and easily affected by other people's emotions. It is also easy to fear that I am not good enough and will not be recognized by others.
I always want to be a perfect person, but such a person will be very tired and prone to emotional breakdowns.
As a person who has been emotionally injured, I sincerely advise all girls to exercise their blunt sensibility and quit their "glass heart".
Be a person with blunt sensibility, like yourself and live the life you want.
About the author: [Upward Small Town Girl].A full-time mother born in the 90s.
Focus on self-growth and dry goods sharing.
Strive for a life where you don't go to work and only work.