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An Jie, who had just been seriously ill**, was sent out of the hospital, and when she walked outside the gate of the hospital, she felt a special freshness from the air outside. At this moment, An Jie's heart is full of satisfaction and peace, just like those ordinary and peaceful old ladies.
Yafei and Jiang Defu supported her together, and Yafei asked An Jie: "Do you think life is okay?""Okay!Jiang Defu couldn't help but interject: "Of course, being alive is the best!."Isn't that nonsense?”
Yafei complained: "Dad, why do you not know how to be amorous?"Mom, how have you survived all these years?"What do you mean by that?Unexpectedly, An Jie said to Yafei with a smile on his face: "I have lived a very good life in my life, I am really satisfied!."”
In An Jie's middle-aged life, when he summarized his life experience, he once mentioned marrying Jiang Defu, and she enjoyed a carefree life and a happy spirit. This rebirth made An Jie even more convinced that after marrying Jiang Defu, her life was so happy and satisfied.
When An Jie was seriously ill and unconscious, Jiang Defu behaved like a fragile child, he stood beside An Jie's hospital bed, not knowing how to eat, drink or bathe, he acted as if he had lost his soul, and said blankly: "If your mother leaves, what should I do?"What should I do?”
In the couple's life, there will always be someone who walks in the front, but Jiang Defu can't accept that An Jie always walks in front of him. As he grew older, he became more and more childish, vulnerable, and more dependent on others.
Therefore, for Jiang Defu, Anjie's success and discharge from the hospital is undoubtedly a great joy to regain. "Can you do what you can for me again?In order to make An Jie feel even happier, Jiang Defu once again shared a gratifying news to An Jie: "Jiang Dehua, she brought her quilt to our house and said that she wanted to stay at our house for a while!."”
An Jie's mood did become more pleasant, but he couldn't help but blame: "Why do you wrap the quilt yourself?"Don't we have a quilt for her at home?"She's my daughter. "Life is coming to an end, and An Jie and Dehua, two sisters-in-law who used to have completely different personalities and were evenly matched, are now close to the point that it is difficult to let go.
Dehua, who lives alone, returns to her brother and sister-in-law's house once again to spend time with three elderly people, which is certainly a good idea, but no one really understands Dehua's loneliness and sadness. She has been married to the Ding family for 30 years, but why did she finally choose to return to the Ding family?
Dehua is making noodles at home to deliver air to his sister-in-law, who has just been discharged from the hospital. When he heard the horn of the car, he stood outside the door and watched from afar as his sister-in-law walked towards him. The scene of meeting her sister-in-law for the first time seemed to come to her mind again, when An Jie stood at the door with Wei Guo in her arms and greeted An Jie warmly. An Jie had a warm smile on his face, but Dehua was still scared because An Jie was really good at that time. Because his temper is too short-tempered. Revealing a sharp aura in a harmonious atmosphere, this makes Tekuhwa very scared of her.
At this moment, Dehua looked at his sister-in-law, his heart was full of a deep sense of intimacy, and while eating noodles, An Jie responded: "Indeed, I have a soft spot for noodles made by Dehua!.""Why don't you like it?Teckwah joked lightly, "If you like to eat, I will prepare food for you every day!"."I like it!An Jie said happily: "This is what you told me personally, we will live together in the future, you better not leave, do what you say!."”
After saying that, Anjie added that if not, you also need to provide a written evidence to prevent you from changing your mind!"You write it!Dehua still maintained a straightforward and straightforward character, and did not know what it was to be reserved, and he said happily: "If you were to write, I would not be able to write!".”
Therefore, Dehua decides to return to his maiden home and spend his old age with his brother and sister-in-law, all of which are agreed upon in those few words that seem like a joke.
In real life, few sisters who have been married for thirty years choose to return to their brother and sister-in-law's home to enjoy their old age, but when we ** this drama again, we understand why Dehua finally chose to return to his brother and sister-in-law's home.
Dehua's marriage lacked love and respect.
When Dehua was about to enter the palace of marriage, her heart was filled with intense joy. She followed in An Jie's footsteps and carefully observed the various dowries that An Jie had prepared for her, while An Jie said to her: "Jiang Dehua, your heart has become unruly, and you don't even want to feed the chickens." Before you get married, make sure you stand at the end of the line!”
At that time, Dehua was eager to fly to Lao Ding's house as soon as possible to have a wedding ceremony with him, which Dewah described as being afraid of too many nights and too many dreams!Lao Ding agreed to marry her, a dream that she had been able to realize after years of waiting, and it was really precious.
In order to welcome this special day, Dehua went to Lao Ding's house every day and took on all the household chores in Lao Ding's house. Lao Ding's dissatisfaction with her is not important, and his marriage negotiations with other women are not a problem. Although she felt like she had been stabbed deep down, she never complained or regretted it.
It wasn't until Lao Ding's two marriages came to an end that Lao Ding finally let go of all his illusions and accepted the arrangement of fate, which also created opportunities for Dehua. For many women, marriage is an attitude that is not valued as an alternative by men, but Teckwah, a content, concise and determined man, has a soft spot for it.
On the day of his proposal to Dehua, Lao Ding was actually in a very low mood, because his heart was full of pain and helplessness that he could not get. The purpose of his proposal to Teckwah is simply to spend the rest of his life together, which has absolutely nothing to do with the ideal partner he has always dreamed of.
From Lao Ding's point of view, Dehua is actually not much different from his ex-wife Wang Xiu'e, who does not understand amorous customs without education, and behaves rudely and recklessly. His life unfolded in such a woman. This pattern of marriage was something he had longed to get rid of in the past.
Unfortunately, Lao Ding is always played by fate. When he tried twice to get closer to his dream, he failed. Whether it is Ge Meixia or Wu Yizhu, they all have some kind of fate with Lao Ding, and choosing Dehua has become his helpless compromise with reality.
Therefore, when he proposed to Dehua, his attitude appeared very perfunctory and unserious. He said to Dehua: "If I don't marry you, you marry me, and we can live together so that we don't cause trouble for others!."”
You see, Dehua's marriage showed a compromise and perfunctory attitude from the very beginning!In his eyes, marriage is a game, a game between love and money. On their wedding night, Lao Ding learns that Dehua is actually an unmarried eldest daughter, which fills his heart with unexpected joy. But this unexpected joy does not meet his real marriage expectations, what Lao Ding really needs is a spiritual partner.
Although Dehua provided extremely thoughtful life care for Lao Ding, he still could not penetrate into Lao Ding's inner world. Although Dehua already has a daughter and Lao Ding's family is already very harmonious, Lao Ding still reveals his true desire after drinking too much.
Lao Ding asked the painter for a portrait of An Jie and insisted that the painter hang the painting in the most conspicuous position in their room. The painter said I wanted to put it in the living room because there were a lot of people drinking in the living room. After the alcohol subsided, Lao Ding said that he had no memory of the painting and asked about it, but he denied that he had brought it personally.
An Jie's portrait reveals Lao Ding's deep dissatisfaction, his married life is the same as that of Dehua, but his deep yearning and desire have never changed.
If Lao Ding lives with this mentality, his respect for Dehua will be greatly reduced, and it can even be said that Lao Ding does not take Dehua seriously at all.
After getting married, Teckwah looked very humble.
After marriage, Dehua inherited her diligence and ability in her brother and sister-in-law's family, and she was willing to endure hardships and stand hard work, but in this spirit of hardship and hard work, there was also more humility.
Unlike his experience at his brother-in-law's house, when Dehua was at Jiang Defu's house, he was always treated indifferently by Ren Lao. Whether it is An Jie or Jiang Defu, Dehua's words are very harsh, and whenever he feels dissatisfied, he will be furious.
However, in Lao Ding's home, Dehua was always busy with work and rarely expressed his views and opinions. Because Dehua loves Lao Ding deeply, but she also knows that she is not worthy of Lao Ding, and Lao Ding's inner dissatisfaction, so Dehua, who married Lao Ding, became very humble.
In every shot after the marriage, Dehua can be seen concentrating on housework, while Lao Ding is reading the newspaper or practicing Xi calligraphy with ease.
One of her sharp mouths seemed to have turned into a sawn gourd. In order to prove her worth and gain the affirmation of Lao Ding and his four sons, she had no choice but to give herself desperately.
Dehua brought up all four things and his own samples, as well as the six children of Lao Ding's grandchildren, and when his arm was broken, he was still holding Lao Ding's granddaughter.
In the end, Lao Ding chose to leave this world, and in front of his stepsons, Dehua didn't even dare to say a word to protect his rights and interests. In the past few years, the once willful and flamboyant Dehua has now become more restrained and patient, which is very different from herself.
The stepsons all wanted to bury Lao Ding and Wang Xiu'e together, but none of them consulted with Dehua. Dehua told his stepson that he didn't want to be left alone in the grave for the next 100 years, but she didn't dare to object to his stepson, so she could only run to her brother and sister-in-law's house with tears in her eyes to share her heartache.
As Yafei describes: "She has been working in your old Ding family for thirty years, hard work and no complaints, but in the end she is still just an outsider. Have you ever met someone kinder than her?”
Yafei's next words profoundly revealed Dehua's humble status in the Lao Ding family!"Look, look, what is that?"Yafi asked three questions and four questions;"I'm your aunt, what is my opinion?"Auntie has been married to your Lao Ding family for thirty years, right?Have you ever seen her object to you doing anything?What did she do to your old Ding family?The only thing she's responsible for is to help you raise your children!”
Although Dehua showed humble patience and selfless devotion in his marriage, this did not lead to sincere affection, but instead he suffered disrespectful and unvalued treatment. In him, there is a feeling of being despised by others, but this feeling is not innate, but acquired. This point of view started from Lao Ding and extended to Lao Ding's children. Teokhua has been influenced in various ways since he was a child, and there are many people who dare to treat him in this way.
After Lao Ding's death, what is the point of continuing to live in such a life?It's to go to a small mountain village in the countryside. Or return to the home of her brother and sister-in-law, where there is at least one sister-in-law who sincerely serves her brother and treats her equally.