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In the TV series and the original book "Do You Know", although the role of Mama Kong does not appear frequently, she has left a deep impact on the audience. The TV series brilliantly shows the scene of how Mama Kong educates young women in the Sheng family.
Mama Kong and the old lady of the Sheng family met in the palace, and the two had very close personalities, so they became sisters. Later, the old lady of the Sheng family wrote a letter to invite Mama Kong to her home for etiquette education, and Mama Kong walked in without hesitation out of consideration for sisterhood.
In the original work, Hua Lan is about to get married, and she is in the Earl's Court, so Hua Lan was specially invited to teach her some rules. But after reading the original book many times, I realized that things were far more complicated than I thought, and the real intention of the old lady was not to educate her daughter, but to the Sheng family.
Hua Lan was about to become the bride of the Earl's Court, but due to her lack of experience, she could not keep up with the pace of the Prince's Mansion, so she invited Mama Kong to her home for education and guidance.
Initially, Wang Ruofu expressed to the old lady his concern about Hua Lan's bad temper at home, fearing that she would be treated unfairly in the future at her in-laws' house.
The old lady continued: "Since Hua'er decided to get married, I have written a letter to the old sisters in Kyosato, asking them to recommend a well-bred and well-bred grandmother. These old women who came out of the palace were not only educated, but also well-read and well-informed. I hope they can come to our house and help Hua'er girl Xi learn some rules, I just hope that my wife won't blame me for being too busy. ”
From this description, we can clearly feel that the old lady has actually written a letter to Mama Kong a long time ago. Regardless of whether Wang Ruofu was dissatisfied with Hua Lan's pampered personality at home, the old lady had already prepared and said that she invited Mama Kong to teach Hua Lan the code of conduct. Wang Ruofu was very surprised and happy that the old lady could invite such a person to her home to educate the young woman, she never expected that the old lady would have such prestige to invite the grandmother in the palace.
After listening to the old lady's words, Wang Ruofu was overjoyed, immediately stood up, bowed to the old lady affectionately, and said with a crying voice: "Thanks to the old lady's thoughtful consideration, I was originally worried about this. If it was an ordinary eunuch's house, it would be fine, but Hua'er married an earl's house. Although the conditions of our family are also good, there are too many rules and routines in the Prince's Mansion. Ordinary people may not know that Hua'er's relatives and friends in the future will either be the royal mansion or the Jue's mansion. Hua'er has a straightforward personality, and I am always worried that she does not understand etiquette and may be looked down upon in the future. The old lady finally solved the big problem in my heart today, and I am here to kowtow to the old lady to express my gratitude!Hua'er, come over and kowtow to the old lady!”
Seeing her grandmother care so much about her, Hua Lan was deeply moved, but before Hua Lan could kneel, the old lady had already pulled her into her arms.
Hua Lan took care of her next to the old lady for a while, but later because Wang Ruofu was reluctant to let go of her child, she was taken home again, so it can be said that during that period, Hua Lan was the granddaughter who had the deepest relationship with the old lady.
The reason why the old lady invited Mama Kong to her home to educate her daughter was actually to hope that she could better educate Hua Lan, because she was about to marry the Earl's Court. She was worried that Hua Lan's knowledge might not be able to keep up with the rhythm of the Earl's Court and might become the laughing stock of everyone, so she specially invited Mama Kong to her home for education.
Being cared for and educated by the grandmother in the palace is an additional value for the daughter's family, and if it is said, the reputation will be even louder.
Mama Kong was originally a descendant of a branch of the side branch of the Confucian Mansion in Shandong, and she was promoted from a palace maid to a female official. Over the past few decades, she has steadily rotated her position as a female officer in the Sixth Bureau, despite several changes of emperors. After dying of illness a few years ago, she chose to spend her old age in Rongenguan in the capital.
At that time, many princes and other prestigious families wanted to invite those who had retired from the palace to their homes to teach their daughters certain manners and rules. In this way, the value of the daughter can be enhanced in future weddings. And those who have been educated by the grandmother in the palace will naturally be evaluated higher.
Mama Kong has trained several daughters in the British Mansion, the Governing Mansion and the Xiangyang Hou Mansion. She is widely believed to have a gentle personality and is very patient and meticulous in teaching etiquette and etiquette. Unlike other grandmothers, she was not often punished or corporal punishment, but she was able to teach etiquette and etiquette accurately.
Therefore, this Mama Kong not only has status, but her reputation is also very high, and it would be very ideal if the young woman of the Sheng family could be cared for and educated by her.
Even if Hua Lan later went to the Earl's Court, she would not be despised for her lack of experience. And those young Hua Lan, in the later blind dates, will also mention that they were taken care of by Mama Kong when they were children, and hoped to marry a better family.
Therefore, inviting Mama Kong to her home to teach young women some rules and etiquette will not only allow them to truly master some basic rules and etiquette, but also enhance their reputation in the future, and at the same time achieve something in both physical and external aspects. The old lady is also a very filial person, she cooks for the girls every day, and she cooks all the food herself. This old lady really put in a lot of effort.
The old lady invited Mama Kong to her house, ostensibly to teach the girls to follow the rules, but in essence, it was to teach Sheng Hong to follow the rules.
What kind of person is Mama Kong?
She has stood tall in the palace for decades, a testament to her ability and insight. Therefore, when she visited the Sheng family, she immediately realized that the family was not in a normal way. So, she chose to stay in Shou'an Hall that night to relive the old relationship with the old lady, the two had not seen each other for many years, and it seemed that there was a lot to say.
As soon as Mama Kong entered the door, she noticed that the family lacked rules. Sheng Hong killed his wife because he favored his concubine, and the old lady kept her door alone. Therefore, Mama Kong opened her mouth and said that the most unruly person in this family is the old lady. The old lady gave up remarrying, raised her concubine by her side, and supported the Sheng family with her own strength. She also invited a famous teacher for Sheng Hong, helped him open up his career, and hired a wife and children for him. Eventually, when he became famous, the old lady closed the door and lived the life of the living dead. Therefore, Mama Kong scolded the old lady because she had a good relationship and was not worth it for the old lady, so she said such a person.
Despite this, the old lady insisted that she was not Sheng Hong's biological mother, because there was her biological mother on the other floor.
Mama Kong said to him: "Although you are not his biological mother, you are his legal mother, and your kindness to him is as deep as a mountain. You can do anything with your head held high, what's there to worry about?I tell you, your sons are short-sighted. If you marry a daughter-in-law and forget your mother, if you don't take yourself seriously, he will happily leave you aside!I am a person who governs the world with filial piety, and as long as he has any resistance, he should not want to work in the officialdom. You should at least make your life more comfortable, if not for yourself, but for your little one. ”
When Mama Kong saw the appearance of the old lady, she no longer had the arrogance of the eldest lady of the Xu family, and felt that it was not worth it to be an old sister. However, she also knew that Sheng Hong had no blood connection with her, and if she really interfered, it might hurt the relationship between mother and son. In addition, Sheng Hong's attitude towards the old lady is only average, so such an arrogant old lady will naturally feel heartache.
Because of this, she took the initiative to find herself to help her manage this son and the whole family.
Mama Kong used the incident of several girls in the Sheng family as an excuse to summon Sheng Hong, Wang Ruofu and Lin Hanshuang, and punished them in front of them, and also taught Lin Hanshuang to remind Sheng Hong's irregular behavior in the family.
Mama Kong privately taught Sheng Hong three tricks to respond to Lin Hanshuang's deep feelings. Mama Kong's ability is indeed very strong, but under Mama Kong's guidance, Sheng Hong realized that Lin Hanshuang didn't seem to be so sincere to him. Although Sheng Hong was also very fond of Lin Hanshuang later, he became a little wary of Lin Hanshuang.
Therefore, for Mama Kong, such a thing seems to be more appropriate. The old lady can both speak and teach in the same situation and rules, but she can neither speak nor teach.
This old lady was born in the Yongyi Marquis Mansion, and when she was young, she also entered the palace and had a very good relationship with Mama Kong. She knows many principles and rules of life well, but she can't express them, so she can only be explained and guided by Mama Kong.
If the old lady really taught her granddaughter, then it is likely that there will be a situation of moral preaching in the process of education. This may make Sheng Hong and Lin Hanshuang feel that the old lady is prejudiced against them, not only does not like Lin Hanshuang, but also does not like her children. And the old lady's remarks only made Sheng Hong feel displeased. Although she seems kind on the surface, there may be a deeper estrangement on the inside. Only someone like Mama Kong, who has status and can make Sheng Hong respect, can really listen to her words, so that the Sheng family can be redeemed.
Eventually, I carefully read the original book several times. I think that Mama Kong came to the Sheng family to educate several young women, and she criticized Lin Mai Mishuang for having no rules, and criticized Sheng Hong's behavior of killing his wife because of his favored concubine. These suggestions are all acts that the old lady hopes her friends will help her. Therefore, instead of saying that Mama Kong is here to teach Sheng Hong how to obey the rules and how to save this unruly Sheng family, I am more inclined to think that Mama Kong is here to teach her.
Therefore, Sheng Hong didn't actually pamper Lin Hanshuang as much as he did before, because he was an aspiring person. Mama Kong's words woke him up and made him realize that if he really wanted to make a difference and improve the reputation of his family, he could no longer continue to spoil his concubine and kill his wife. Therefore, Sheng Hong's behavior of spoiling his concubine and killing his wife was greatly improved.
If Lin Hanshuang can be rude and honest, she will have a good life. But unfortunately, she later became greedy, plotted an affair between Mo Lan and Liang Han, and betrayed the Sheng family. Sheng Hong was completely dead, and the old lady gave Lin Hanshuang the final blow, leaving the beautiful maid Juxiang that Lin Hanshuang found for Sheng Hong during the national funeral, and prescribed her a mild abortion pill, removed the handle in her stomach, and promoted her to an aunt.
Beside Sheng Hong, there was a person who was young and beautiful, but who also had a grudge against Lin Hanshuang. Lin Hanshuang hoped to return to the Sheng family again, but her wish seemed to be out of reach, so she could not return to the Sheng family until the last moment of her life.
There is a trace of support from Mama Kong in the past, and it is precisely because Mama Kong made Sheng Hong understand that Lin Shaoshuang's true feelings for him are not deep, which made Sheng Hong more determined to expel her.
* After reading "Do You Know" many times, I deeply felt that the old lady's strategy was so ruthless. Since the arrival of Mama Kong, the old lady has started her actions, which is really her sincere dedication. For the prosperity of the family, the old lady really gave her life.