As the saying goes, "the child is not filial, the dog is on the stove", many of us will also see this phenomenon, some people love their children very much, and do everything possible to meet the needs of their children, these people think how to treat their children now, how their children will be to themselves in their later years, but often it backfires, these children will drive the old people out of the door in the futureOn the contrary, there are some people who only meet the minimum needs of their children when they raise them, and sometimes even add sticks, but when these people reach their old age, these people's children are very filial. Therefore, when raising children, you must not be overly spoiled, excessive spoiling will make your children think that your contribution is taken for granted, once he forms such a concept, then you don't expect him to provide for you.
Uncle Li, the protagonist of our story today, has such an only child, because he is an only child, Uncle Li and his wife are afraid of falling when they raise him, and they are afraid of melting in their mouths, and they are responsive to their son's needs. When his son grew up, his son didn't want to go out to find a job, so he sat at home and ate nothing, and asked Uncle Li to give him his retirement salary card. After Uncle Li's son got the retirement salary card, he only gave Uncle Li 800 yuan every month, and the rest of the money went to himself. Later, Uncle Li's battery car broke down, and Uncle Li wanted to find his son to buy a car, but his son only said two words, "no money", which made Uncle Li disheartened.
Let's listen to Uncle Li's personal above.
My surname is Li, and when I was young, I got a job in the county seat and met my wife at work, and then we got together, and after we got married, we settled down in the county seat. Since we were in the establishment, my wife and I had to have one child due to the birth policy at the time, and if we had one more, we would have no jobs for both of us. There was no way, my wife and I could only have one, but we didn't expect that the first child would be a son, and we were very happy at that time, thinking that it was God's favor.
This son has become the treasure of everyone's hands in our whole family, everyone loves him very much, he was not popular to drink milk powder when he was a child, because many people can't afford to drink milk powder, at that time I helped him everywhere to find milk powder to drink, sometimes I also asked someone to try to help him get fresh milk to drink, in the eyes of other people at the time, my child's life is too good, born in such a family. Many people also jokingly refer to my children as "young masters".
In terms of life, my wife and I arranged all his things in an orderly manner, even what time we got up in the morning, we called him, he didn't know how to set an alarm clock, if we didn't call, he would definitely be late for school, and then he would blame me and his mother.
When the child went to junior high school, my wife died of illness, and before she died, my wife took my hand and said: "I can't get rid of our son, after I leave, he is a child without a mother, you must take good care of him, he is the continuation of my life." If you treat him badly in the future and make him suffer a lot of grievances, I won't be able to close my eyes below, and I won't let you live at that time. ”
I heard that this was my wife's dying words, and I quickly promised her: "He is not only your son, but also my son, how can I be bad to my own son?"Don't worry, even after you leave, I will not remarry, and I will give all my love to our son. ”
When my wife heard me say this, she nodded with satisfaction, and it didn't take long for her eyes to close. Since then, I have been dependent on my son for my life. I am a father and a mother at the same time, and in order to be able to cook some delicious meals for my children, I also consulted the master of the canteen for a period of time and asked him to teach me how to cook. Usually I change my tricks to cook some delicious food for my children, and even the female neighbor next door praised me: "We women are not as patient with children as you, and you hold two positions by yourself, which is really amazing." ”
Although the son has no mother, the son has never lacked love. In such an environment, the son grew up slowly. After graduating from college, the child was arrogant and asked him to go to work, but he did not go to work, but had to start a business. At that time, I thought that now that the child is young, he can hit the wall, and there is a cost of trial and error. So he was given a sum of money to use as his start-up capital.
As I expected, my son didn't take long to return home without a penny. When I got home, I stayed at home and did nothing. At that time, I thought about it, if my son is allowed to start a family first, and with the responsibility of the family, the son will be stable, and there will be a woman to take care of him, then my son will live with peace of mind and work with peace of mind.
Later, I put the news out and asked someone to help my son be a matchmaker. As soon as the matchmaker heard that he was going to help my son be a matchmaker, the threshold of my family was broken all of a sudden, because they thought that I was a person in the system, my family conditions were good, and I would have a large retirement salary in the future, which girl would not want to marry into such a family.
Soon my son has a crush on a girl, and as long as the two are in love, then the rest of the matter will go quite quickly. It didn't take long for my son to get married. I helped my son pay a down payment and also helped him buy a car. My son and his daughter-in-law lived in the house they bought, and I lived alone in the old house.
After getting married, my son also found several jobs, but none of them worked for a month, either because the salary was low or because the work was too hard. It was delayed in this way, until the daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, and after giving birth, the burden on the family was very large, but the son was still idle and did not plan to look for a salary. As soon as I talked to him about finding a job, he immediately said that he was going to work on a big project with a friend. I don't know how capable my son is, he is the kind of typical person who has low eyes and low hands, is so ambitious, and wants to learn to run before he learns to climb.
Since the son could not make money, the quarrels between the daughter-in-law and the son became more and more frequent. In the end, it evolved into a small quarrel for two days and a big quarrel for three days. Later, my son was annoyed and didn't usually go home. When the daughter-in-law saw that her son was not coming home, she also took the child back to her parents' house in a fit of anger and never came back. Later, the two divorced in this way, and their grandson was also taken away by their daughter-in-law.
After the separation of his wife, his son did not learn any lessons from it, and he still went his own way. But my son's loan needed to be repaid, so my son approached me and asked me to help him pay off the mortgage. I was also annoyed at the time, so I said, "I helped you buy a house, and now I have to help you pay off the mortgage, do you think this is like that?"Can you make a difference?”
Unexpectedly, his son said: "Okay, why don't you still do it, then wait for the court to auction it." "Seeing my son say such things, I was really speechless, I didn't expect that I had put in my life's work to raise such a useless son. My son is useless, and I can't really bear to watch the court auction the house I bought, so I can only help my son pay off the mortgage. At that time, I was not retired, and I had a salary of 9,000 yuan a month, so I could still afford my son's mortgage.
Later, my son was so confused for a few years, and I also talked with my son many times, and I said to my son: "Dad is about to retire, you can't expect Dad to live a lifetime, after retirement, although Dad still has a retirement salary, but it is a lot less than when he went to work." So, you have to plan for yourself, and you have to be responsible for yourself in the future. ”
But my son just didn't listen, there was no way, and in the end I didn't bother to talk about him. After I retired, I could get a retirement salary of 7,000 yuan a month, and my son's mortgage was also reduced, and I used to have to pay 4,000 a month, but now I only need to pay 3,000. So after helping my son pay off the mortgage, I still have 4,000 yuan left in my hand.
If I rely on the 4,000 yuan alone, I can live comfortably. I have always been looking forward to my retirement life, I have dedicated most of my life to my career, after retirement, I want to experience life, like other retired old people, to travel, to see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland.
But it backfired, and who told me to have such a son? Although my son didn't have to pay the loan, he didn't have a penny to spare, so he came up with the idea of my remaining 4,000 yuan. He said to me: "Dad, you give me your retirement salary card for safekeeping, so that you don't have to transfer money to me every month, how troublesome, you are old and you can't operate, I will use your card to pay it back directly in the future." ”
When I heard my son say such things, I was so angry that I didn't come up in a breath, and my eyes went dark. When I woke up again, I was already in the hospital. My son took care of me in the hospital for a few days, and I looked at my son who was in front of the bed, and I felt that my son was not bad, but he had not grown up. When my son had to go to the hospital to pay the bill, I had to give him my retirement salary card, and I thought about it, who called him my son?This is my life.
I was discharged after staying in the hospital for a while and being fine. Since then, I have lost control over my retirement salary, my retirement salary of 7,000 yuan a month, except for loans, my son only gives me 800 yuan a month, and the rest of the money falls into my son's pocket. Sometimes I can't help but ask my son: "You only give me 800 yuan for 7,000 yuan, are you happy to go?"The son said impatiently: "You are all in your 60s, you can't spend so much money, the old people in your hometown are more than 100 yuan a month, and you can still live, not to mention that you still have 800." This sentence almost made me angry in the hospital, and then in order to be less angry for myself, as long as he gave me 800 yuan a month, I didn't bother to talk about him.
Once, my battery car broke down, I pushed it over to repair, the boss said: "How many times have you repaired this car, now you don't need to repair it, it's going to be scrapped, let's replace it with a new one." "I asked my boss how much it would cost to buy a new car, and he said about 3,000 yuan.
Later, I asked my son to buy a new battery car and asked him to give money, but my son directly said two words: "no money". After hearing these two words, I was disheartened, I gave my retirement salary card to my son, and now I asked my son to help me buy a battery car, but he didn't buy it.
Netizen friends, you have given me ideas, I know that if this continues, it will be a problem for me to provide for the elderly in the future. Do you say that my son is still saved?How can I save it?