Heading The retired bureau chief ordered his family to hand over their salary cards, and his son and daughter-in-law left home in anger
Hello everyone, I'm Lao Zhong.
In January of this year, I reached retirement age.
On the same day, the unit arranged a farewell party.
The new Director of the Bureau delivered a cheerful speech, reviewing my achievements over the past 30 years and commending my achievements and contributions in the past five years as a Director.
He spoke very highly of me and invited me to make my final remarks at the meeting.
Looking at the dozens of old colleagues under the rostrum, I was still emotional.
Realizing that I was about to retire and cut off from my unit, I inevitably felt a little sad and lonely.
After leaving the unit, I couldn't calm down for a long time.
When I got home, I spent the entire 24 hours at home.
It became very long, and things like watering the flowers and watching TV didn't interest me at all.
My wife suggested that if you have time, you might as well go for a walk on the riverbank to exercise and make time pass a little faster.
I gladly accepted her suggestion and went out for a walk with my wife.
When we walked to the bridge, we met an old friend, Lao Ding.
When he saw me, he laughed, patted me on the shoulder, and said, "Old Zhong, I heard that you are retired, and now you are fine, how comfortable you are free." ”
Looking at his happy face, I suddenly felt angry.
In the past, he would never do this to me, and every time he would nod his head and say, "Hello Zhongju, you've been busy lately, right?""Unexpectedly, as soon as I retired, he called me Lao Zhong and patted me on the shoulder in public.
I scolded: "Lao Ding is really too much, there is no politeness at all." ”
My wife smiled and said, "You think you're still the director, just relax when you retire, don't be so nervous." ”
After returning home, the daughter-in-law had just picked up her grandson, and she shouted, "Dad, I have something to go out later, can you take Yang Yang out to play?"Hearing this, I felt a little uncomfortable, but I agreed.
I feel that the people around me have changed, because I am no longer the director, and everyone treats me like an ordinary old man, and even starts making fun of me.
Even my daughter-in-law asked me to do this and that, and she no longer respected me as much as she used to.
No, I have to take action.
After dinner, I said loudly to the people in the family, "Wait a minute, everyone don't go out, let's have a meeting and arrange a few things for the last few things." ”
The son and daughter-in-law were slightly stunned when they heard this, and soon understood that it must be everyone's performance during this time that made me uncomfortable.
In the end, our family of five sat in the living room.
I cleared my throat and said, "Everyone knows that I recently retired from the position of director of the bureau, but as the saying goes, although the position is retired, the spirit cannot be retired, and the spirit cannot be retired.
In the future, things at home will continue as before, and they will still go according to the previous way.
In fact, I did this mainly to remind my son and daughter-in-law, lest they think that I will become an ordinary old man after I retire, and I can't stand this and that.
And, very importantly, although my daughter-in-law is very good-looking, she also has a strong temper, and it is said that she was at odds with her parents in her mother's family, and she does not have a strong sense of respect for her elders.
After marrying into my family, she didn't dare to be too arrogant.
But since I retired from the position of director, my daughter-in-law has felt completely different.
It was her own business, but now she has begun to arrange for me to do it.
This is unacceptable, after all, in the unit, I am the number one who has the final say, and no one has ever dared to dictate to me.
Therefore, I have listed a few principles, mainly to maintain the traditional concept of dignity and order, and the distinction between old and young.
The daughter-in-law really couldn't sit still, and she boldly said, "Dad, what do you want to do?"Our family is not a unit, and you are no longer the director of the bureau now, and you are retired, so please don't bring your old way of working to your home, it will make people feel awkward. ”
What's awkward, even if I'm no longer the director, I'm still the head of the family.
How can what the master of the family say not count?The daughter-in-law still wanted to argue, but she was held down by her son, but I was quite satisfied with her son's behavior.
From childhood to adulthood, he has been under my education and requirements, respectfully obeyed my orders, and his academic Xi grades have always been among the best.
After graduating from university, he originally planned to continue his education, but I stopped him.
I said that he has enough to learn now, and there is a place for construction in China, so why bother to go abroad.
So, he obediently returned to our city, was admitted to the civil service, and now he is being treated well.
Once, I asked my daughter-in-law to help me get the medical report, but she didn't get it back twice.
I asked her what was going on, and she said that every time I went to the medical institution, there was a long queue, and she didn't have time, so I asked me to pick it up myself.
I was very angry when I heard it, if I could go myself, would I still let you go?Looking at my daughter-in-law's uncompetitive appearance, I regret very much that I chose such a disobedient daughter-in-law in the first place.
So, I called my son ** and asked him to pick it up for me when he came back.
Unexpectedly, my son returned empty-handed when he came back from work.
I asked him what was going on, and he said he was working too late and was already off work by the time he arrived at the medical facility.
I felt that my authority was being challenged.
The two young men couldn't even get a medical examination report back.
On the surface, they said that it was the reason for the overlap in commuting time, but in fact, they psychologically despised me.
In the past, they would never have done this, and they would have helped me no matter how hard I tried.
Lying in bed at night, I said to my wife beside me that it seems that the most feared thing in this life is old age and lack of money.
Now I have both.
My daughter-in-law is disobedient, and my son doesn't take my words seriously, so they may not listen to me anymore in the future.
My wife is soft-hearted and has no own opinions.
He said: "Old man, you are retired now, you have worked hard for almost 40 years, and you should take a break.
In the future, don't bring home the problems that have developed in the unit, so that everyone will be unhappy, and there is no need. ”
However, I do not agree with him.
With my years of work experience and political wisdom, I am much better than them.
Will they still question what I say?I think it comes down to the fact that I don't have any power in my hands, and I will be fully responsible for everything in the family in the future, including the income of family members.
Anything that costs money, report to me in advance, which not only saves unnecessary expenses, but also strengthens my core position.
Thinking of this, I was so excited that I quickly got up and drafted a decision.
Early the next morning, when they were all up and ready for work, I hurriedly called a family meeting.
I told them that in the future, all the big and small things in the family should be subject to my arrangement.
All income and salary cards of the family must be handed over to me for safekeeping.
My son looked at me in surprise, and my daughter-in-law couldn't help it, picked up her bag and turned away, deliberately pretending not to hear.
I have always been resolute and resolute, and I have never been afraid of any hard-line forces.
After work, I waited for them to come home and immediately went to their room and asked them to hand me their pay card.
My daughter-in-law was very reluctant, but under the persuasion of my son, she finally handed over the salary card to me.
They're basically under my control and I'm pretty happy with that.
After a while, I remembered that everyone is now Xi to using WeChat Pay and Alipay payment.
Knowing that I couldn't control their spending just because I had their payroll card, I notified them and asked to turn on my phone so I could check my recent spending.
My son and daughter-in-law immediately got angry and asked me what was going on, did I get addicted to my official position?I replied that everything should be under my management, and that I would talk about it later if I had any questions.
The daughter-in-law immediately complained that her income was earned by herself, so why should I manage it?She even suspected that I had a brain problem after I retired and advised me to see a doctor.
I was so angry that I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to accuse me like this in front of my family, so I reached out and slapped her.
The daughter-in-law cried and returned to her parents' house with the child.
My son was also very angry and asked me if I was confused, how could I do such a thing?He then chased after his daughter-in-law and grandson, and I was left alone on the couch to sullen.
My wife also blamed me, saying that I had been a little abnormal recently, and suggested that I go to a psychiatrist for consultation.
I think this is just a one-sided statement, and as long as I work hard, they will definitely obey my management.
Unexpectedly, my son and daughter-in-law never came back after leaving, and more than a month has passed.
I called my son and he told me that they had already rented a house and would not be coming back to live with us for a while.
I angrily said that the two of them were casual, but the grandson should be educated by me personally.
To be honest, I can not care about my son and daughter-in-law, but I have to take care of the education of my grandson myself.
You say, 'Am I doing the right thing?'