Meta-view--- not every point of view can be called meta-view.
There are many couples who are close to the wedding date, and there will be varying degrees of fear of marriage, and even two people quarrel more frequently than before, and they do not give in to each other, and it is especially easy to turn over old accounts with each other. In fact, this phenomenon is not an accidental phenomenon, it has a reason.
Everyone knows that people have different mentalities when facing marriage and falling in love. Everyone can accept it in their hearts when they fall in love, and it is not suitable for such a result as breaking up.
But when it comes to getting married, no one wants to see that they need to separate one day. Therefore, before getting married, everyone will think a lot about it and be more cautious.
Especially those hidden dangers and contradictions that may affect the breakdown of the relationship. I used to be too lazy to care, but now that both parties are preparing to get married, both of them will repeatedly confirm whether these problems will bring the risk of possible separation to the future marriage.
The teacher has come into contact with many cases of breakups after engagement, all because the two parties have frequent conflicts during this sensitive period, and they have been in a state of anxiety to resolve the conflict, and finally collapsed, so they can only break up unhappily.
So when you fall in love, you must not be lazy, you have to get by, what problems are put in the usual relationship, slowly solve, little by little to solve, the process of falling in love is originally a process that gives both parties enough time and runs in.
If you spend all this time eating, drinking, and having fun, you are likely to be overwhelmed by the accumulated hidden dangers when you are approaching marriage.
Nowadays, more and more young people do not want to get married, and even fear marriage. So what is it that makes them so afraid of marriage?And what is the reason why they miss the right fate?
Now Mr. Yuanguan will reveal the real reason for your fear of marriage through Doushu!
01.There are seven killing stars in the house of life or the house of husband and wife.
Less control.
Reason: Thinking that it is not enough for lovers to love themselves.
There are seven killing stars in the house of life or the house of husband and wife, his character is very upright and strong, his love is vigorous, he has a very strong desire to control, he hopes to dominate everything, no matter what he does, he wants his lover to do it according to his ideas and requirements.
If the other person refuses to comply or compromise, he will feel that the other person does not love him enough and that the other person is not willing to give. In this case, he doesn't want to get married too much, for fear that he will be controlled by the other party, and it will be difficult to get the same return for the feelings he pays.
Meta-view advice: reduce the desire to control, and try to change for the other person when there is love.
02.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has a broken military star.
Listen more and don't argue.
Reason: The feeling of love is getting weaker and weaker.
There is a broken military star in the house of life or the house of husband and wife, he likes to pursue change, and only when the feeling of love is strong, he will be very eager to get married, but when the feeling slowly cools down, he will be afraid of getting married.
He will think in his heart: Holding hands now is like touching each other's left and right hands, and after getting married, it won't feel even less!Instead of letting the feeling of love disappear, it is better to maintain the current state of love.
Yuanguan suggests: Marriage does not necessarily lead to the loss of love, the key is to cherish each other and work hard.
03.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has the star of Lian Zhen.
Pessimistic, chosen.
Reason: Not satisfied with the current lover.
If you have been in love with your lover for many years, but you are unwilling to get married, then there is only one truth, that is, you are not satisfied with the conditions of your current lover in all aspects, and she feels that she is not the ideal object in her heart.
When it comes to marriage, he will quickly avoid talking about it, and even compare his lover with other friends of the opposite sex, magnifying his lover's shortcomings and making excuses for not wanting to get married.
Yuanguan suggestion: lower your standards appropriately and think more about your own shortcomings.
04.There is a greedy wolf star in the house of life or the house of husband and wife.
Adjustment restlessness. Reason: Unstable heart and desire to choose again.
There is a greedy wolf star in the house of life or the house of husband and wife, his popularity is very good, and he is very sociable and social.
Peach Blossom Luck is also quite strong, and since there are so many friends of the opposite sex around, there are many opportunities to choose. Looking at the long list of high-quality candidates emerging around him, his heart will be ready to beat again, and he is afraid that he will get married too early and miss out on the best partner.
Yuanguan suggestion: Adjust the restless mentality, what suits you is the best.
05.There is a purple microstar in the natal house or conjugal house.
Change, give.
Reason: Too much pressure from lovers.
There is Zi Weixing in the life palace or the conjugal palace, he has a strong desire to lead, and he will help his lover arrange a lot of things. If the lover can be obedient and obedient to himself, he will feel a great sense of accomplishment and will be very satisfied.
If the lover has a strong personality, he will feel that he is very powerful, he does not have the dignity of being a man, and he can't make the other party obedient before marriage, so I'm afraid it will be difficult to control after marriage.
Yuanguan suggestion: let go of your subordinates and enhance your tolerance.
06.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has the star of Tianfu.
Rational planning. Reason: Career-oriented, worried that marriage will affect career development.
There is a Tianfu star in the house of life or the palace of husband and wife, he is a person who attaches importance to love and married life, and of course he is quite ambitious. If marriage will affect his career development, he will delay the marriage for the sake of his career.
Now that the unemployment rate is rising, and the competition for jobs is increasing, getting married means taking responsibility for the family, and dividing one's energy to run the family, so it is difficult to devote oneself wholeheartedly to the career.
Yuanguan suggestion: reasonable planning and arrangement, career and marriage can also be effectively balanced.
07.There are martial arts stars in the life palace or husband and wife palace.
Try, grind.
Reason: The economic conditions are not yet ripe.
There is Wu Quxing in the palace of life or the palace of husband and wife, he is a more pragmatic person, focusing on bread more than love, he believes that sufficient material conditions are the prerequisite for ensuring a happy marriage, he is afraid of the days when there is no money, and he is worried that because of the lack of money, it will affect the feelings of two people, and increase the strength and psychological burden on both parties.
For the ideal life in his heart, he will work hard in his career, and he will not dare to get married until the day when his economic conditions are mature and stable.
Yuanguan suggestion: It is also a good choice to make money together after marriage and strive for an ideal life together.
08.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has celestial stars.
Worry less. Reason: The cost of marriage is too high.
There is a celestial star in the house of life or the house of husband and wife, he is a very realistic person who will calculate all the expenses of marriage. He considered that wedding rings, gift money, weddings, and houses are very expensive, and the cost of marriage is too high, and the power is too great.
As long as the other party agrees, he is willing not to get married, and he will always be in love, and the economy and the other party's AA system are very clear, even if they break up in the future, they will not have too much to lose.
Yuanguan suggestion: pay less attention to gains and losses, seize opportunities, and cherish good fate.
09.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has the sun star.
Dazed and struggling.
Reason: The other party cannot understand themselves and lacks spiritual communication.
There is a sun star in the house of life or conjugal house, he has a cheerful and positive personality, and is very eager for a partner who can understand his heart, if the other party rarely communicates with him, and the relationship is too cold and flat, he will feel that he is left out and has a very lonely feeling.
If the other party can't understand themselves before getting married and can't let themselves fully trust, then what's the point of getting married?
Meta-view advice: Tell your lover about your inner worries and find a way to deal with the problem together.
10.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has giant stars.
Profit, greed.
Reason: Picky, not easy to trust the other person.
There is a giant star in the palace of life or the palace of husband and wife, he is a thoughtful person, he is a little suspicious by nature, if he is afraid of marriage, he is actually not trusting his lover enough.
When he and his lover are usually in a relationship, if the other party is slightly dissatisfied with him, he is prone to think too right, worrying that he will not be happy in marriage and will be hurt in marriage.
Metaview advice: Try to trust the other person and think more positively.
11.There are celestial stars in the house of life or the house of husband and wife.
Stress, tension.
Reason: Too thoughtful, too sensible.
There are celestial stars in the palace of life or the palace of husband and wife, and the reason why such people dare not get married is that they always think too much and are too rational.
He will consider: whether the other party is the most suitable partner for him, whether the economic conditions are mature, who will manage the family finances after marriage, whether the other party can pay for himself, etc., the more carefully he thinks, the more he thinks about it, and often adds a lot of troubles to himself, and his thoughts often fall into the contradiction between marriage and not marriage.
Meta-view advice: worry less and go with the flow.
12.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has the star of Taiyin.
Reserved, hesitant.
Reason: Lack of confidence in marriage, insecurity.
There is a yin star in the house of life or conjugal house, he is a person who pursues perfection, on the one hand, he is very eager for a warm married life, and on the other hand, he is afraid of marriage.
Nowadays, the divorce rate in society is too high, and if a friend around him is divorced or unhappy in marriage, he is easily influenced by negative thoughts.
If the other party's character is not stable and down-to-earth, then he has even less confidence in his marriage, he is afraid that he will have a failed marriage, and often lacks sense of security.
Metaview advice: Enhance self-confidence, you will not fail if you don't try, and you will definitely not succeed.
13.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has the star of the Celestial Beam.
Spat at home, recognition.
Reason: Escapism, fear that marriage will disrupt freedom.
There is a celestial beam star in the house of life or the house of husband and wife, he enjoys love, but he takes marriage very lightly, he prefers an unrestrained life.
He is afraid that he will lose his freedom when he gets married, that he will be bound by marriage, and that he will break the romantic love atmosphere because of firewood, rice, oil and salt. In order to make himself less worried and more simple and happy, he often avoids getting married.
Meta-view advice: Escape is not the solution to the problem, it is better to face all difficulties with a positive attitude from now on.
14.The house of life or the house of husband and wife has the same star in the sky.
Desire, pursuit.
Reason: Immature mind, fear of responsibility.
There is a star in the house of life or the palace of husband and wife, he has an easy-going and open-minded personality, he thinks that he is still a child, he is not ready to get married, and all the responsibilities to be borne in marriage make him feel that he is too powerful.
When you are young, you should have fun and enjoy the process of falling in love, as long as two people are happy together, does it really matter if you get married or not?
Yuanguan suggests: rights and obligations coexist at the same time, change your own concept, and bravely assume responsibility.
Classmate, did you get it?How are your feelings?