As the saying goes, "Brothers are not neighbors when they are separated, and daughters are married in the same village", this sentence is a common saying circulating in rural Chinese society, which expresses some traditional concepts and wisdom of people when dealing with family relations and marriage issues. However, with the development and change of society, whether these concepts and practices are still applicable requires us to conduct in-depth ** and analysis.
First, let's understand the meaning of this sentence.
Brothers are not neighborsThe meaning of this phrase is that when brothers divide their families, it is better not to become neighbors.
Because in the traditional rural society, there are often contradictions and conflicts between brothers over issues such as land and property, and if they become neighbors, these contradictions and conflicts may continue to exist or even intensify.
Therefore, this proverb reminds people to pay attention to the relationship with their brothers when separating the family, so as to avoid unnecessary disputes and contradictions due to geographical proximity.
The daughter married in the same villageThe meaning of this sentence is that when a daughter marries, it is better not to choose a man from the same village as herself.
Because in the traditional rural society, there are often competition and contradictions between the family and the village, and if the daughter marries someone from the same village, she may be interfered with and influenced by the family and the village, thus affecting the daughter's married life.
Therefore, this proverb reminds people to pay attention to avoid conflicts and interference between the family and the village when choosing a son-in-law, so as to ensure that the daughter's married life can be independent and happy.
However, as society evolves and changes, do these concepts and practices still apply?In my view, this needs to be analyzed on a case-by-case basis.
First of all, with regard to the issue of sibling separation, although family relations have undergone great changes in modern society, contradictions and conflicts between brothers still exist in some rural areas. Therefore, when separating the family, it is still necessary to pay attention to the relationship with the brothers to avoid unnecessary disputes and contradictions due to geographical proximity.
However, in modern cities, due to the scarcity of land resources and the high housing prices, many families have to choose to become neighbors when they separate their families. In this case, how to deal with the relationship with the brother becomes an important issue.
In my opinion, this requires the two parties to fully communicate and negotiate when separating the family, clarify their respective interests and responsibilities, and avoid contradictions and conflicts over land and property issues. At the same time, it is also necessary to maintain a friendly and mutually helpful relationship in daily life, and jointly safeguard the image and interests of the family.
Secondly, I think that this concept is no longer fully applicable in modern society when it comes to the issue of daughters marrying.
In traditional rural societies, competition and conflict between families and villages are widespread, so parents often choose to marry their daughters to men elsewhere to avoid family and village influences.
However, in modern cities, this rivalry and contradiction between families and villages has gradually faded. Therefore, more attention should be paid to the happiness and freedom of daughters when choosing a son-in-law.
Of course, this does not mean that the influence of the family and the village can be completely ignored. When choosing a son-in-law, parents still need to pay attention to the son-in-law's character, personality, family background, etc.
However, this does not mean that the daughter must be married to a man elsewhere. In modern society, many families are no longer limited and influenced by their families and villages, so they can choose their sons-in-law according to their actual situation.
To sum up, although the saying "brothers are not neighbors when they are separated, and daughters marry in the same village" is a traditional concept and practice in rural Chinese society, it is not fully applicable in modern society.
When dealing with family relations and marital issues, we need to conduct a specific analysis according to the specific situation and take appropriate measures and methods to maintain family relations and protect our own interests.