Many men cheat on their mistresses, who do not know each other in real life, but through the Internet, starting with online dating, and then developing into real life.
The mistress may be separated by 108,000 miles from the cheating man, and the cheating man has more emotional needs for the mistress than physical satisfaction.
And it is difficult for wives to find out about this kind of extramarital affair, because cheating men don't often go to the mistress.
Two people may only see each other once a month, or even two or three times a year and a half.
Just two or three times, the cheating man can find a way to find a reason to get by.
Jiaxin helped the original partner Ms. Zhao to deal with such an extramarital affair before.
Her husband met Xiao San through playing games, and the two just played together at first.
Later, in order to facilitate playing together, I added friends and started chatting, talking about life, and talking about marriage.
Both of them are married, and they can talk to each other a lot.
People will always be a little more polite to people they don't know so well.
Even when chatting with these people, they hide their bad side.
This is also why strangers on the Internet will always talk about their feelings.
Because the image created by the other party is too good, compared with the people around him, it is even more prominent.
It's like Ms. Zhao looked at the chat history between her husband and Xiao San, and thought it was incredible.
Her husband is usually a man who never does housework, and when the junior complains that the junior husband is not responsible.
actually blamed the husband of the junior together, and said that a man should feel sorry for his wife, how tired he can be at work, and he has no strength to go home, and he can't help his wife share anything?
A cheating man, I really want to think about how good he usually is to his wife, and how much he feels sorry for his wife.
As for the junior, he will also be in line with the cheating man when he says that some wives are not good.
It's not like a woman who has a similar situation with her wife and is dissatisfied with her husband.
From the chat records between the cheating man and the mistress, Ms. Zhao can actually see it.
From the moment the two of them get up, they will chat, and they will not stop when they work during the day.
Every day, they will talk to each other about what they eat, what they do, what happens at work, and what conflicts they have with their other half.
One party confides, and when he complains, the other party appeases.
But the two of them don't meet very often, and Ms. Zhao knows that the two of them have probably met four or five times.
It's been a year since I cheated, and there are only so many actual derailments, and the rest are on both ends of the phone, mental derailment.
Many of the original partners may be the same as Ms. Zhao, and they feel that such a mistress will be easy to separate.
Ms. Zhao had a direct showdown with the cheating man from the beginning, threatening the cheating man with divorce.
The cheating man also agreed to break up with the mistress, and talked to the mistress, and also blocked the mistress.
But the cheating man and the junior, for a long time after they broke up, were sullen.
did not communicate with Ms. Zhao, and even looked very resentful towards Ms. Zhao.
Because of this problem, Ms. Zhao came to Jiaxin to ask what to do.
First of all, wives should make it clear that mental infidelity is more difficult to solve than physical infidelity.
Especially in a case like this one, the cheating man and the mistress have a good relationship.
The two of them obviously regard each other as their confidants and emotional sustenance.
And the situation is the same, they are all married and have children, so they do not plan to divorce.
These same situations will not create contradictions, but will make two people closer.
Because of the united front, because many things are similar, it is more like true feelings.
Secondly, don't force the cheating man and the junior, coercion and temptation can easily produce sequelae.
Just like the case of this cheating man, it is obvious that the heart of the person coming back is still in the mistress.
I miss Xiao San very much, after all, he has developed a habit, and he is uncomfortable every day after breaking up with Xiao San.
will remember that it was the wife who forced them to break up with the mistress.
Naturally, there will be resentment towards his wife, so the cheating man is not like this because he loves the mistress too much.
They are more resentful of his wife because he feels uncomfortable and uncomfortable.
In the end, how to completely solve such an extramarital affair.
In fact, the couple's relationship status is not so bad, and they are all problems that ordinary couples are prone to.
If there was no such a junior, this man would not deliberately go to find a mistress.
The appearance of this junior, a specific junior, will reflect the psychology and some problems of men.
A cheating man is nothing more than needing someone to ask for warmth every day, and he needs others to care about him.
It is not difficult for a wife to do this, and she can replace the position of the junior little by little.
You make it unnecessary for the mistress to exist, and the cheating man doesn't need to maintain an extramarital relationship, and the mistress will naturally break off.
At the end of the article, Su Yue wanted to say that a man's cheating is not necessarily for physiological needs.
Many men cheat for emotional pursuits, and it will also reflect the problems that exist in marriage and between husband and wife.
Just because cheating is the man's fault, you can't ignore the needs he reflects, the problems in the marriage.
Mutual satisfaction in marriage is the foundation, and solving problems is also the way to manage marriage.
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I'm Jiaxin, a marriage defender who focuses on the separation of third parties.