Author: Mu Xue.
In the palace of marriage, some men may quietly fall into the whirlpool of extramarital affairs for various reasons. They are like lost children, wandering between ** and contradictions, and finally deviate from the track of marriage.
The causes of these behaviors are complex and diverse, just like a colorful palette, and each drop of color has its own uniqueness.
Some people may be looking for the novelty and excitement that have been lost for a long time, just as an explorer yearns to unveil the unknown;Some people may be trying to fill the emptiness and loneliness of their married life, like a lost ship longing for the guidance of a lighthouse.
Whatever the reason, these actions reflect their innermost desires and pursuits.
But it is worth noting that men's attitudes towards extramarital "lovers" are often not related to love, but are based on other factors.
Next, I will reveal for you three common attitudes that men have towards their "lovers" outside of marriage and analyze the reasons behind them.
Some men are bored in their marriage because they become boring and uninteresting about married life.
They crave new and exciting pursuits, so they will look for "lovers" outside of marriage to satisfy this need.
These men tend to ignore their partner's needs and feelings, focusing only on their own desires and interests. Not only does their behavior cause harm to their partners, but they also have a negative impact on family relationships.
This attitude often stems from dissatisfaction with marriage and a desire for novelty rather than true love.
Like a withered flower, although it longs for new vitality, it is not a new life that sprouts from the roots.
For example, some men will look for partners or colleagues as "lovers" at work because they feel that these people bring them freshness and excitement.
They devote their hearts and souls to their work, sparing the passage of time, just to pursue the feeling of freshness that they have never experienced, and the deep satisfaction.
And doing so is very wrong, because they only see their own desires, but they don't see the harm they will bring to women when they make mistakes.
Some men may feel that there are some deficiencies or flaws in their marriage, and they feel that their partner does not understand them well enough or cannot meet some of their needs.
In this case, they will look for an extramarital "lover" to compensate for these deficiencies.
This attitude is often based on dissatisfaction with the marriage and the psychological need to seek satisfaction.
For example, some men will look for a lover because of communication problems in their marriage, or because of a lack of affection.
They will feel that their lover is more understanding of them and satisfies their emotional needs, so they seek a kind of psychological comfort and satisfaction in their lover.
Some men may feel that their marriage does not reflect their value or social status.
In this case, they may seek out a "lover" outside of marriage to prove their charm and worth.
This attitude is often based on the pursuit of self-worth and the psychological need to show, rather than the true love of the extramarital "lover".
For example, some men may start looking for a lover because of their career success or increased social status.
They will feel that their lover can prove their success and charisma, which will boost their self-esteem and self-confidence.
They will look for a lover in social situations, workplaces, or other situations to show their attractiveness and value.
From the above analysis, we can see that men's attitudes towards extramarital "lovers" are usually not related to love, but are based on other factors.
These factors include the pursuit of novelty and excitement, making up for the lack of marriage, and proving one's self-worth.
Therefore, we need to take a hard look at our married life and pay attention to the emotional needs and communication problems between couples, so as to avoid unnecessary harm and pain caused by the pursuit of external stimuli.
At the same time, we must also respect the choices and decisions of others, and do not easily judge and criticize the actions of others.
May every couple cherish each other's feelings and create a happy family life together.
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