Author: Wen Qiusheng.
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Marriage is like a balloon, if you leave it alone for too long, it will slowly deflate and lose its original plumpness.
As Bai Yang said, "Love does not develop logically, so we must always pay attention to its changes." Love is not eternal, so it must be pursued constantly. ”When people reach middle age, they are physically and mentally exhausted in the face of the pressure of life. Many times, there is no time to take care of the lover and neglect the management of the marriage.
Between husband and wife, it gradually became strangers. Between each other, they are no longer innocent and romantic, there is no good looks, and there is no exquisite figure. Even, already sleeping separately.
Middle-aged couples sleep in separate rooms, are they really emotionless?
There is a colleague who everyone envies her.
Her husband makes a lot of money, and she goes to work just to pass the time. We can see at a glance that she wears all famous brands, and she doesn't have to worry about food or clothing.
But at one party, she drank more wine and complained to me.
It seems that her life is very good, but in fact, she has no relationship with her husband for a long time. There has been no intimate contact between them for a long time, and there is only one person every day, guarding the empty house.
In front of her son, she didn't dare to show her sorrow, she didn't want to affect her son's studies, and she wanted him to have a complete home.
When the husband came home, he just stayed in the guest room. Between her and him, there was no communication, no communication, each went his own way.
Mo Yan said: "The most cruel way to treat a lover is not to love and hate, not to deceive and betray, but to gradually indifferent love after extreme love." ”Middle-aged couples, from the initial love, to family affection, to the familiar nothing to say, experience a period of emotional boredom.
There is an undercurrent surging in the seemingly calm family, and it is easy for each other's emotions to explode in silence, and the family is also facing the crisis of breaking.
A large part of the reason why couples sleep in separate rooms is that they really have no feelings for their lover and are tired of her, so they don't want to have any intimate contact.
In life, not all couples sleep separately, but they have no feelings.
Some couples, who have lived together for a long time, are very aware of each other's little habits.
For example, some people have some physical problems and often suffer from insomnia. The slightest movement will wake you up and make it difficult to fall back asleep.
Asking to sleep separately is not a problem with the relationship, but to meet your own needs.
Others may have to work at night, and the two people have different schedules and may be more comfortable separating. After consultation, sleep in separate rooms and form this habit.
Of course, we must understand:
Between husband and wife, long-term separation, even in order to make each other's lives more comfortable, can easily cause the gradual indifference of husband and wife's feelings.
As a couple, it is important to maintain some closeness and not let the relationship between husband and wife develop worse and worse.
Between husband and wife, warm to each other, hot life, life will be delicious.
Golden Wedding" When Chinese Li knew that her husband Tong Zhi almost betrayed the marriage, she was very aggrieved in her heart.
However, thinking that he promised his mother-in-law who had just passed away and lived a good life with Tong Zhi, he decided to forgive him from the bottom of his heart and gave up his plan to divorce.
However, she was very aggrieved in her heart, and she didn't want to forgive him easily.
Since then, she has separated from her husband as a way to show her resentment.
During that time, Wen Li didn't want to see Tong Zhi, and disliked him as a ruthless and unrighteous person who couldn't treat feelings well. When you see him, you will be angry, and the hurdle in your heart is difficult to pass.
Sometimes, the reason why husband and wife sleep separately is actually because they are angry and in the cold war.
The husband and wife quarrel and have conflicts, and they are angry with each other, neither of them wants to admit their mistakes or compromise, so they can only compete with each other by separation.
If you have been separated for too long, even if you still want to live a good life, it will be difficult to go back to the past.
Whatever the reason, after a long period of separation, the husband and wife have no way to communicate effectively, and it is easy for emotional rifts to occur, causing this small family to fall apart.
Therefore, after a quarrel, you should actively solve the problem, instead of sleeping separately to avoid the problem.
When people reach middle age, cherish their marriage. A husband and wife are a fate that can be met but not sought.
No matter what kind of things you go through, don't forget your original intention.
The years will change a lot of things, including each other's faces and figures, and change a lot of inner persistence and dreams, but after all, two people come hand in hand.
Regardless of whether the room is divided or not, don't centrifuge, let the person you love the most get separated from you in the vast sea of people.
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About the author: Wen Qiusheng, make a living from words. Autumn wind and rain, a glass of sake, three or two stories, on the lonely road with you as a companion.