Problems such as the seven-year itch, having nothing to say, sleeping in separate rooms, etc., seem to have become inevitable tests for middle-aged couples.
After getting along for a long time, getting in close contact, putting away all the restraint before marriage, and exposing each other's truest side, including the ugliest side.
The firewood, rice, oil and salt of life, the pressure of work, the dull days, the sparse daily life, and the living state without waves make the life of two people day after day.
There are no fresh stimuli, no big ups and downs, and no ripples that can ripple, the two of them live and become neighbors.
There was no noise, no mistakes of principle, and no cold war, some were just ordinary, salty and tasteless, and there was no emotion, but there was still the bond of family affection.
Faced with this situation, some people chose to make do with their lives, and some people couldn't hold back their loneliness and began to look for flowers and willows.
Both understand that although there is no relationship, they will not choose to divorce.
1. Compared with the appearance of repeated marriages, it is better to make do
Because of the boredom of life, I want to experience the freshness and live a different life, and in the end, when the novelty is over, I will still repeat the life I originally experienced.
Everything has to start from scratch, and you have to re-grind your personality, no matter who you live with, you still have to go through this dull period in the end, so there is no need to divorce for this.
When people reach middle age, they must learn to accept reality, and they must also learn to accept ordinary life.
If the relationship is weak, try to create a little romance and arouse the passion of both parties, after all, there is an emotional foundation.
Freshness is to do new things with old people, not to do old things with new people.
2. It is difficult to reorganize the family after leaving, and there is no need to toss
Although there are cases of second-married couples having a good life, in real life, most of the cases tell you that it is difficult to have true love between second marriages.
It's a lot of calculations, and it's just a matter of making do with it.
In addition to facing problems such as the economy, their original predecessors, and children, they also faced problems such as bride price, real estate purchase, financial distribution, and children's education.
Even if the original partner is extremely bad, at least, she is sincere to the family, to you, and to the children, taking care of the family, so that you don't have to worry about going outside, and if you change to someone else, she may not be able to do well.
The people I meet again now, who have not experienced it together, and who can choose to stay without abandoning, are almost very small.
Figure out this day, be more tolerant and considerate, and share a little more for each other, and life will not be too bad.
3. Marriage is not easy, but do it and cherish it
Marriage has never been a thing that can be easily managed.
Just like a business, it requires input, output and feedback, and both parties must operate with care, not just one person.
When people reach middle age, what they face is no longer the beautiful longing of youth, but the cruelty of life, and the age when they have to spend money when they open their eyes.
Women are no longer gentle and lovely, men are no longer sweet-talking, and life is full of trivialities, which are easy to crush and already fragile marriages.
If you don't understand it at this time, but want to solve the marriage problem by avoiding marriage or changing people.
Then your marriage, no matter how many times you go through it, will not last.
Sometimes, although women seem unreasonable, they are more emotional than men, as long as they coax and show their sincerity, she can be home for you, and dig out her heart and lungs.
Such a woman is already difficult to find in the world, let alone someone who has gone through the wind and rain together.
No matter what comes your way in life, the most important thing is to live the life in front of you.
It doesn't matter if the relationship between middle-aged couples is gone, as long as there is sincerity, it is enough.
Regardless of poverty or wealth, don't forget that the person who has been with you to endure hardships is not easy to marry, and you can do it and cherish it.