Dear School Leaders, Teachers, and Parents:
Hello everyone!I am the parent of Wang Moumou, a student of class 601, and I am very grateful to the school leaders for giving me this opportunity, so that I have the honor to meet with all parents in the southern capital of Qingqing and Qing Dynasty, and communicate with you about the growth of the lovely Nandu baby.
Time flies so fast, our child has reached the sixth grade, over the years, the child's school Xi life, there are laughter and pain, we share his joy, when he encounters difficulties, do a good job of spiritual support, help him through difficulties, along the way, through a lot of ups and downs!
Problems in the first and second grades:
We didn't have a Kindergarten title before the start of Year 1**;At the beginning of school, I couldn't jump rope, I couldn't jump rope, I couldn't do it right in individual pinyin, I couldn't hold a pen in writing, I didn't have a number concept, I didn't pay attention to the lectures, I often played with children without measure, and I often finished my homework late every day,。。 At that time, the child's greatest wish was to go back to kindergarten, and we had all kinds of headaches!In order for children to change the status quo, we believe that a good parent-child relationship is necessary. How to build a good parent-child relationship?We tried the following diligently:
Don't scold on non-principled issues, treat children as your own customers:
In the face of customers, I take the trouble to change a software hundreds of times in order to sign an order, and often stay up all night to make plans for customers. In the face of all kinds of difficulties of customers, I can find a way to solve them. My child is still so young, can he have a customer difficult?The answer is no. I'm confident I can handle him. This is my way of building and suggesting that I avoid running down every day.
When he was doing his homework, no matter how late he stayed up, I couldn't help but beat and scold him: I reminded him when he was grinding, and when he ignored me, I was really annoyed, and when he challenged my patience again and again, I wanted to beat him, but I could only endure it, because once I got angry, the result was catastrophic and irreversible. In order to hold back my anger, I told myself again and again that he was born to me, but I never raised him, and all his problems today were caused by me. I bought a lot of **, every time I can't help it, I stick it when I want to get angry, paste it, I can't have facial expressions, otherwise such an expensive ** will be wasted, and in this way force myself not to get angry. Fortunately, this hellish day, which lasted for a few months, ended, because he learned time management Self-management and homework planning: In Xi class, he can quickly complete the school homework assigned by the teacher, and then, using the remaining time, do homework, when the teacher does not assign homework, he will guess which homework the teacher will assign and do it in advance, so that most of the homework can be completed in advance at school, which greatly reduces the amount of homework at home. When you go home, you have to count the time, review it once a week, see what homework is used for the time, why do you use so much time, is it ink during the homework?Or can't you do it if you don't grasp the knowledge points?After learning time management, I also got rid of the problem of procrastination.
Reward and punish both
As long as he makes a little bit of progress, I will praise him hard: he is doing his homework a little faster today than yesterday, praise!As long as there is one word in the homework he writes, it is very standardized, praise!He did the verbal calculation within the allotted time, kua!He miscalculated within 3 of his 100 mouths, boasting!He reads and writes the sentences in the paintings, and uses an idiom, poetry, metaphor and other rhetorical expressions, praise!The parents of the children did not complain to me for a week, praise!The teacher praised it, and he should spare no effort to praise it!In short, I took every opportunity to praise, and the result of praise was that he was willing to talk to me, and he was doing many things better and better, and he was much more confident and cheerful!Praise and bring rewards and punishments, such as 5 improvements, or a teacher's praise, and you can have a snack on the weekend. (In addition to three meals a day, we usually give children snacks, drinks, KFC toys, all of which depend on his progress in exchange).
Of course, there are punishments, do not do things that should not be done, it is to talk, during the conversation, we do not scold, that is, we smile and smile, and keep asking him what is wrong, this is a patient confrontation and competition, whoever can't help but get angry first, who will lose!When he was in the fourth grade, he made a mistake, and the teacher asked him to go home and write a reflection, but he didn't tell us that he signed my name, and after the incident, the weekend conversation lasted for more than four hours, until he made it clear and sincerely said that he would never do it again. Afterwards, he asked us why we didn't get angry and beat him and scolded him, saying that he would never go through this kind of political class again.
Write encouragement stickers every day
I think words have power, because of work, I can't always be by his side, about the third grade, every day to write a positive post to encourage him, every little progress of his , I will use words to write down, and then paste it in a place where he can see at a glance, he will read it repeatedly every time, and even memorize, he said that he will be very happy when he sees these words, and will silently tell himself to do better. When I really don't have anything to write, I write about the weather, everything in the world, love and love, the appearance of the child in my ideal, my feelings for my home and country, in short, all the good things, this is a bowl of greasy chicken soup, he drinks it very happily every day, and subtly, he has become what I want little by little.
Keep moving
My child has just entered primary school, and he has all kinds of discomfort, but he is so energetic. Since the second grade, I have enrolled him in a football class, and every day after school, I go to the playground and sweat, so that he can consume his excess energy, and his physical self-control is much better, and his eyesight and height are currently not bad. As for me, as long as time allows, I will take him to run, take him outdoors for more than 4 hours on weekends, and when exercising, it is also the most relaxed and comfortable time for people, and it is also the time when children are most willing to say what is in their hearts. Over the past few years, we have spent many weekends outdoors, basking in the sun, chatting about the sky, history, geography, and what is happening around us, and we have learned his thoughts and passed on to him what we want him to know.
One per weekFairy Day
Every Saturday is our child's fairy day, at least 4 hours for the whole family to play outdoors, the child can do whatever he wants: you can watch cartoons, you can play 20 minutes of games (during the game, I will quietly disconnect the network at home from time to time, play games intermittently, feel bad, now I don't play), you can watch movies, you can go to Xinhua bookstore, you can go to museums, you can ask friends to play together, you can also be in a daze, as long as he wants to do, we fully cooperate, of course, we can not exceed the principle.
Humor resolves contradictions:
When everyone in the family speaks, no matter how angry and angry, they must speak well, and if there is a conflict, try to resolve it in a humorous way. Whoever violates it has to invite someone else to dinner. By giving children a relaxed living environment in this way, we learn to do, parents who can manage emotions, take their children, learn to manage their own emotions, and emotionally stable parents can have emotionally stable children. Humorous people, love life, lively and cheerful, positive and optimistic, not afraid of failure, do not give up easily, and make themselves interesting people.
Family meetings and spit meetings
When my child enters fourth grade, we try to have a family meeting after dinner on Friday, and I talk to his dad about what we're doing this week, what we're going to do, what we're going to do this week, and what we're going to do next week. The child talks about his school Xi this week, his performance at school, his performance at home, his self-evaluation, what he has gained, what interesting books he has read, what difficulties he has, and what difficulties he needs his parents to help solve, so that the child can integrate into family life in this way. At the end of the regular meeting, it is the complaining conference, every time, it is arranged for the children to complain that we are not doing well, we do not explain, do not justify, accept it all, and promise to change. When we complain about the child, he can also accept it emotionally stable, and he will calmly tell us that he will change.
Do housework after dinner,ChantingRead the classics
After dinner, the child often said that he was overeating, and it was uncomfortable to sit down, so we did housework with the child, and at present, my family brushed the pots, washed the dishes, swept the floor, mopped the floor, and threw away the garbage, and bought the next day's dishes, and the child was responsible for completing it. We also read extracurricular books with our children, focusing on biographies of historical and geographical military figures, to understand the depth of 5,000 years of history and civilization, and to understand the breadth of 9.6 million square kilometers of land. Once, when we watched "Romance of the Three Kingdoms" together, we saw Liu Beituo's lonely Zhuge Liang paragraph, we talked about "The Teacher's Table", his father memorized a few sentences by the way, the child liked it very much, we began to do housework every day, while reciting various poems, when the state is good, memorize three or five sentences, when you don't want to memorize, memorize one or two sentences, do not set tasks, no pressure, memorize every day, just persevere. After several years of perseverance, our children have memorized some traditional poetry classics and gained a lot.
Various family competitions
On weekends, our mother and son will do the same test paper to see who has the highest score, and I often deliberately make a few mistakes to make my child get better grades than me, so that he can have a sense of accomplishment and enhance his confidence in learning Xi and exams. Calligraphy competition every day during the winter vacation, send it to the circle of friends to see who has more likes;Run every morning during the summer vacation, and post to Moments to see who is praised more;The competition dictates English words to see who has the highest accuracyMemorize three to five English sentences to see who can memorize them firstThe idiom of the competition is solitaire, to see who receives more;The competition memorizes poems to see who can memorize more;The competition spells the map of China and the map of the world to see who can do it first. Those who lose, take their own money and buy snacks and drinks for Friday family meetings.
Learning Xi is the child's own business, we don't tutor homework, we don't accompany homework
When the child does homework, we are busy with our own things, the child will not, think for himself, can't think of it, ask the teacher, encounter difficulties, you can ask parents for help, but, we do not take the initiative, go to ask his Xi, homework he checks by himself, sign by himself. We only check if it is done, it is done, we sign the homework book, there is a mistake in the homework sent down, you need to talk to us, why is it wrong, the fault is **?How to avoid it?
I was a first-time mom and didn't have much parenting experience, so I just groped around with my children and did some things. After long-term practice, our child is currently emotionally stable, his grades are okay, he is confident, sunny, lively, cheerful, polite, has a wide range of interests, does not exclude Xi, compared with the first grade, it has changed a lot. Each child has its own characteristics, I hope that our children's growth experience can bring inspiration and help to everyone, and I hope that our Nandu baby can establish a good relationship with parentsParent-child relationship, I wish all Nandu babies a better Xi and life. Thank you!